To be upset he yelled at me

[Twocatsonebaby]

So long story short, my dp fails to help me with anything. We have a 10 month old dd and Im due number 2 next month. He's a hands on dad which I'm glad about. But things like housework etc, I have to ask for (which I don't feel like I should) and I always get "I'm busy" when he's in a game. (gaming addiction. I don't give a shit what he says. It's an addiction.) so I struggle a lot but I plough on.
So dp lost his job in January which bought in decent income. I'm part time but I'm now on maternity again. (which they've messed up so for a few months I'll be getting no Income. Im furious ) so my partner signed on and we were then told 2 weeks after by letter he was entitled to £0. He phoned up to find out it was income based Jsa? I don't know I've never signed on luckily. So we had to fill out a new form. I say we, he's incompetent and makes me do it. 24 days later, nothing has been done and we're really struggling for a roof over our heads. A credit card debt. Luckily I have everything for baby number 2 and my dcs I've made sure are provided for.
But he just got off the phone to the benefits office and told me I'd filled the form out wrong, it was my fault and its my fault work have messed up my maternity. So I told him to get some damn clothes on and we will go up to the job center now to do the form as I'm fed up of struggling. I'm fed up of all my money going onto bills and he can buy a game. I need things for my hospital bag and can't afford them. But it's just been none stop yelling at me and blaming me. It's not my fucking claim!
So then he decides to yell at me that he doesn't want to go to the job center today and he wants a day on his games. (he spends every day and night on the damn things)
I'm pissed off. Sorry ladies. I need a rant. I'm upset, hormonal and 35 weeks pregnant.
So now money from my birthday that I needed to buy hospital things with, even basics is going on the debt he put me in cause he just had to buy a game.

LTB

Essentially. He was supportive through her birth but he wants to be there to see it and hold ds etc. At the moment I'd rather him not but my mom is looking after dd.

If you don't want to go to your aunt's, you don't go to your aunt's.

If you tell him to piss off now, you have a bit of time to get your bits and bobs in order without him being in the way.

You deserve better.

Sorry I think I've pissed off people. I've made up my mind on it but I just needed a rant. It upset me.

Don't suppose anyone wants to give advice and comfort of looking after Irish twins do they as a single mom? I'm leaving work as they've fucked me about and obviously if I'm not getting paid, what's the point? I may as well look after them until I can get a decent job when ds is a year old. Luckily my mom is amazing. But her house is small for me to move into. This is my home anyway as he contributes £0.

Sell the games consoles
Babies are not going to use them for years
That's £££ you need now.
Kick him out

God my dp enjoys the odd game (as do I) but it comes last to literally everything else. Normally reserved for evenings when we are chilling and I’m messing about on mn

my dp fails to help me with anything He's a hands on dad

Can't be both.

You and your dc deserve better than this. Ask him to move out. And good luck

I'd get more money declaring myself on my own. I'd also have cheaper bills etc and it's already paid off thankfully. But I see what you mean.
When he leaves here he's taking his computer and his clothes and that's it. The rest are mine.

Sorry posted too soon.

I honestly don’t think he will ever help you really, he sounds like a selfish wanker. Just get rid before your third pregnancy!

Try a couple of days without him and see whether life is easier or not. Sometimes its easier on your own as there is no one to 'let you down'. Take Care

@stickthatinyourpipe exactly! I like my really old games. But I hardly ever play them nor do I want to when my priority is to my babies. He's on it all the time and says it's normal. You know it's an addiction when he's defending it he may be a manic depressive and had to depend on it cause his mom was in a wheelchair and bed bound for 16 years of his life, which is a shame. But I'm not going to let my dc be bought down by it anymore. It's not their fault and they deserve the best.

Do tell him to fuck off, will he leave without a fight?

Sell the console. You will get enough money to buy some bits for your hospital bag. Enough is enough now. You need to put yourself and your babies first

Nope. There will be a fight. There will be guilt tripping there will be a fight over the dcs as he wants them (spoke about it before) 5 days on and off as he'd move far away back to his family. (mainly dd as ds will be too young and breastfed if I can do it.) that's why I wanted to wait til after ds. There's 5 weeks left and at the moment I'm already stressed as it is over money. His money is being backdated and I'm making sure he doesn't see a penny of It. I need it for dcs.

Yep! Personally I would have to get rid of the twat. It’s not normal to play on games all the time and not get a job (unless unable to for whatever reason) he has responsibilities which he is not living up to.

tbh he sounds a real nob. send him to the job centre. while out put the console in the loft. dont tell him where it is at all as i expect he would try to take it with him. then throw him the fuck out. what an utter wanker
he is. do not go to your nan's! thats ridiculous.

Whatshallidonowpeople
And you had kids with him Why?

Sorry, but THIS ^^

Well this is where problems tie in which I think im incredibly unreasonable for.
He has problems. He can't write which puts him off going for a job.
Has anxiety which again, "I can't do this"
Manic depressive. Doesn't want to get out of bed.
I agree mental health is hard. I have severe ptsd, anxiety and depression. But I'd walk the streets for a job if it meant a future for my children. An a good one at that. I'm unreasonable as some people really struggle but he's had jobs before. It's just bullshit

Just wanted to add to the support for you to leave him. He's leaching everything from you and you will feel amazing when that ends.
Good luck

i wouldnt be putting his name on the bc either. i dont see this nobber putting effort in. what surname are you giving the child? make sure it is yours

Sell the console now. Putting it in the attic is silly as your kids are so young and technology moves on by the time they are up to playing games there will be some new dangled console to get. Much more sensible to sell it now, get what you can (will be nowhere near full amount but every bit counts) and remove the useless lump from your house.

‘Hes making you go to your aunts’
Nah mate.. no way my DP would dare dictate to me where I can and can’t go... he’d be out the door faster than he can say sorry.
Maybe you need s serious talk with all your cards on the table to show him your serious about his lack of participation for anything. If he fails to comply then get rid of him. And why wait till the baby is born, you seem to be managing okay now. If you really feel you’ve had enough don’t drag it out.

Making you go to your aunts? Tell him to get to fuck!

Irish twins? Eurgh. Never liked that phrase.