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AIBU?

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He puked in the shop then she took him swimming.

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NualaCassia · 21/02/2018 08:04

I took my ds to his swimming lesson this evening (not uk). We were early so we popped into the shop next door.

As soon as we got in, some young lad vomited all over the aisle. His mum looked mortified, cleaned him up a little with a wipe and ushered him out.
After about 10 minutes we head back to swimming lessons but as we were walking in a manager tells us someone has been sick in the pool so lessons are cancelled. (Can you see where this is going?) And then out walk the mum and the boy in his (wet) swimming gear and towel looking very poorly.

AIBU to have called her out on it in front of the manager? I told her we had seen her son be sick in the shop and that it was completely selfish, not only to her son but to all the other kids and instructors, to still take him swimming.
The manager told her to take the boy home and that he would phone her later. She looked so pissed off.

Dh said I shouldn’t have said anything and left it to the pool manager to deal with it, I say they needed to know that the mum was well aware her son was ill before taking him swimming.

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Slitherout · 21/02/2018 08:07

YWNBU! How irresponsible of her, the poor boy must have been feeling rubbish, both because of being ill and probably embarrassed, and other people could have caught it too. If you'd seen him being ill the day before I'd say don't say anything but 10 mins earlier is ridiculous, what was she thinking!

LloydColeandtheCoconuts · 21/02/2018 08:07

I’d have been annoyed too! Very selfish of the mum. And really unfair. But tbh what would saying anything have achieved? Apart from making from making you look sanctimonious.

Jammycustard · 21/02/2018 08:09

Why shouldn’t you say? Her decision has ruined your child’s session, other children’s session and caused a mess for the staff. I think you did the right thing.

PeteAndManu · 21/02/2018 08:11

I think you did the right thing too. The mother choose to take him swimming which impacted on a lot of people and results in additional work for the staff and a loss of income. Well done.

ChasedByBees · 21/02/2018 08:11

I would have said something too.

LucheroTena · 21/02/2018 08:11

You completely did the right thing. She’s an idiot, poor kid and all the other poor kids who might have caught his bug. And poor person in shop who had to deal with his puke and exposed to the bug. I’d bet money that he’s been feeling I’ll before she’s took him out too. Attitudes that it’s no one else’s business and not to say anything are partly why there are so many fools in this country.

Legwarmersareohsoeighties · 21/02/2018 08:13

YANBU however, 10 mins is not long to leave the shop, change into swim gear, get in the pool, throw up, get out, get cleaned up, get dressed and swimming pool to be closed and all people removed from water. !!
Are you definitely sure it was the same boy?

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NualaCassia · 21/02/2018 08:15

But tbh what would saying anything have achieved? Apart from making from making you look sanctimonious.

I think there’s a big difference between a child throwing up in the pool with no prior warning and a child throwing up in the pool when they have been sick no more than 10 minutes earlier.

One is a genuine accident, the other is just plain selfish and I don’t think the mother should get away with it.

This is a pool with 7 lanes, 7-14 teachers, 6-8 kids per lane for each session. That’s a lot of kids and teachers potentially ill now and a lot of children missing their lessons.

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NualaCassia · 21/02/2018 08:21

Legwarmers it takes 30 seconds to walk from the shop door to the pool, I assume the boy had swim stuff on under his clothes and when I saw him coming back out he was still wet with a towel wrapped round him. Along with all the other kids there.

His mum was quite distinctive so I’m 100% sure it was the same boy.

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GertrudeCB · 21/02/2018 08:22

Yanbu, I would have done the same. Poor child being dragged out when obviously ill

beepthemeep · 21/02/2018 08:26

Completely missing the point, but your title sounds like a pulp/Jarvis cocker song 🙈

CrazyOldBagLady · 21/02/2018 08:27

She made a bad decision and probably learnt her lesson already without you piling on. I think you were unreasonable to have a go at her really. Her day didn’t need to get any worse than it already was.

pimlicolife · 21/02/2018 08:29

She was being selfish and I bet she knew it. So it's not unreasonable to call her up on it.

AnotherPlaceAnotherTime · 21/02/2018 08:30

YANBU. I often wonder WTF is wrong with people. It’s like they are the only ones that matter - stuff you and all the rest of the parents and children.

I mean who cares if there are people in the leisure centre who could be made very ill by being exposed to the norovirus. They shouldn’t be there right? Not when her DS needs to swim -vomit in the pool-

AnotherPlaceAnotherTime · 21/02/2018 08:30

Strike through fail!

EllieMe · 21/02/2018 08:30

Awful woman. I expect she'll be banned. She should be.

Chienrouge · 21/02/2018 08:31

beepthemeep I just went back to check and sang the title in the style of Jarvis Cocker. You’re right

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 21/02/2018 08:34

So did I chien . Fnar.

Buxtonstill · 21/02/2018 08:35

Reporting her will not change the situation. But it will no doubt make you feel better. A swimming lesson has been cancelled - move on. Luckily your kid has DH to teach him that snitching on people in order to feel good about yourself is not the only option.

livefornaps · 21/02/2018 08:36

@beep, you are a flippin' legend

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NualaCassia · 21/02/2018 08:37

Completely missing the point, but your title sounds like a pulp/Jarvis cocker song 🙈

YABU. It was completely unintentional 😂

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Dagnabit · 21/02/2018 08:40

beep

BarbarianMum · 21/02/2018 08:41

The reason people like this get away with their outrageous behaviour is that people don't call them out. There are absolutely no circumstances in which sending a vomiting child into a swimming lesson is sensible, kind or socially responsible. Good for you for speaking up.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 21/02/2018 08:41

When your kid pukes in the pool you usually get quizzed as to illness or just random puke.

My kid closed a pool not long ago because someone body slammed him and it caused a puke reaction. We would have been banned if it was illness which is fair enough.

Yanbu

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NualaCassia · 21/02/2018 08:42

Buxton “Reporting” her will hopefully make sure she doesn’t do it again. She was selfish. I didn’t report her, I called her out on her selfishness. And I wasn’t thinking about making myself happy, I was thinking about all the instructors and kids that may have been made ill due to her actions. None of that makes me happy

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