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AIBU?

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Original poster

He puked in the shop then she took him swimming.

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NualaCassia · 21/02/2018 08:04

I took my ds to his swimming lesson this evening (not uk). We were early so we popped into the shop next door.

As soon as we got in, some young lad vomited all over the aisle. His mum looked mortified, cleaned him up a little with a wipe and ushered him out.
After about 10 minutes we head back to swimming lessons but as we were walking in a manager tells us someone has been sick in the pool so lessons are cancelled. (Can you see where this is going?) And then out walk the mum and the boy in his (wet) swimming gear and towel looking very poorly.

AIBU to have called her out on it in front of the manager? I told her we had seen her son be sick in the shop and that it was completely selfish, not only to her son but to all the other kids and instructors, to still take him swimming.
The manager told her to take the boy home and that he would phone her later. She looked so pissed off.

Dh said I shouldn’t have said anything and left it to the pool manager to deal with it, I say they needed to know that the mum was well aware her son was ill before taking him swimming.

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NeedsAsockamnesty · 21/02/2018 08:44

And the embarrassment may stop her being such a prick in the future

saladdays66 · 21/02/2018 08:44

YANBU! You were right to call her out on it. WTF was she thinkking? Stupid, selfish woman. Maybe she won't do the same again.

AgnesSkinner · 21/02/2018 08:45

I’d be really hacked off as a pool manager if someone knowingly took a vomiting child into the pool. It’s a PITA to close the pool, cancel lessons and go through full disinfection.

LagunaBubbles · 21/02/2018 08:47

Crazyoldbaglady and what about everyone else's day who was exposed to vomit floating about the pool they are in? Something which was totally preventable and completely selfish? I don't get this "don't say anything" attitude , it just lets people away with appalling behaviour.

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NualaCassia · 21/02/2018 08:47

Needs I think illness when you aren’t aware your child is ill until they puke is, well, not nice but an accident. I’m not sure a ban is needed for a genuine accident but I certainly agree with a ban for knowingly sending a vomiting child swimming. And the child did look so poorly on the way back out. I felt really sorry for him.

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iknowimcoming · 21/02/2018 08:51

When my dc were very small (like 1 and 3ish) we used to go to swimming lessons weekly, it was a palaver as the lessons were straight after one another so my il's came to help me get the dc ready/dry and dressed etc and watch one while the other was in the pool with me.

Anyway there was one woman who used to bring her ds and she'd put him in armbands and basically let him float around in the pool whilst she talked to anyone who'd listen, he was only little and the armbands didn't keep him entirely out of the water so he would float around coughing and drinking loads of pool water, until he was inevitably sick.

The mother would do a tinkly laugh and say oh what's he like and the pool would be closed, lesson cancelled etc etc we'd get back out of the pool and have to go home. Sometimes we hadn't even got in yet and we'd arrive in our swimsuits and be told he'd been sick and lesson was cancelled again, this went on a lot and the staff had to speak to her several times, to no avail, and then actually watch her and her child to ensure this didn't happen. She was totally clueless and the staff and other parents who were affected every time it happened got so annoyed, I remember it happened 3 weeks in a row at one point . Some people are twats

So no yadnbu

HamishBamish · 21/02/2018 08:51

I don't think YWBU, but it might have been kinder not to say anything. The poor child must have been embarrassed enough without seeing his mother get into further trouble over it. Personally I wouldn't have mentioned it.

ToothTrauma · 21/02/2018 08:51

beep you legend, DH and I keeping singing it at each other and laughing our heads off

Turquoisesea · 21/02/2018 08:52

She was completely out of order, poor boy. I’m sure if she had puked 10 minutes before the last thing she would have wanted to do was go swimming, so why make her son! I Not to mention spreading the bug & completely inconveniencing everyone else. I would have said something too, utterly selfish! I took my DD & DS to the cinema last year & when we got there my DD said she felt sick, I took her outside & she was sick (in a carrier bag!). I then took my DCs home. At no point did I think I will go & watch the film & infect everyone else & let my DD puke in the cinema. I had already bought tickets & my DS was upset not to see the film, but these things happen!

Ladyglittersparkles83 · 21/02/2018 08:52

I understand where your coming from I find some people god awful I'd have been pissed off as well, it was completely irresponsible of her knowing full well her child had already been I'll , unfortunately we have to share this earth with people of that nature take a deep breath vent about the moment stick her in your mental shit bin and then let it go for your own peace xx

Chifi · 21/02/2018 08:57

Well done you. Stupid selfish woman! Her poor child. Hopefully she will think twice about doing anything like this again.

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NualaCassia · 21/02/2018 09:01

Hamish Another point of view that i’ll admit I didn’t think about. I can imagine it probably didn’t make the lad feel any better although I’m not sure he was paying much attention.

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Snowysky20009 · 21/02/2018 09:02

Good on you! Feel sorry for the kid though, he must have felt rotten.

user789653241 · 21/02/2018 09:07

I think you are not BU, op.
It's not just cancelled lesson and move on, is it? They have to clean the pool, they may have to rearrange the lessons, some may want money back, etc, etc.
It's a different story if it was unpredicted, but she caused all this to happen knowingly, so she should take responsibility for her selfishness.

PeapodBurgundy · 21/02/2018 09:58

Totally selfish of the mother! I wouldn't have said anything, but because I never do. I seethe silently and wish I'd said something. I can't imagine for a moment that the little boy felt like going to a swimming lesson if he was poorly enough to be sick twice in what sounds like a relatively short space of time.
DS was sick in the pool during his lesson when he was a baby, but it was plainly just swallowed water (he's fallen off my back during one of the lesson activities, so had obviously swallowed some water due to the unexpected under water swim). The teacher just asked everyone to step to the side while she checked the pool. There was nothing visible, and I'd caught most of it in my cleavage so the lesson carried on as normal. That was embarrassing enough, and that was just one of those things. I couldn't imagine risking closing a pool when you know your child has a sicky tummy or a runny bum.

halcyondays · 21/02/2018 10:03

Good for you for calling her out on it. Selfish and stupid of her.

mommytoboo86 · 21/02/2018 10:24

Oh ffs just cover him in deep heat & tell him 2 man up...

On a serious note I'm glad he's doing better but don't think him in need of a straight jacket in a few days though wen u catch him scratching himself against door frames, cos that itch is going 2 be mega.

And can I just say... Classics anybody??

mommytoboo86 · 21/02/2018 10:30

Oops sorry wrong thread having problems with the app this morning
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Op u were quite right in wot u did
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PeapodBurgundy · 21/02/2018 10:31

You okay there @Mommytoboo86 ?

mommytoboo86 · 21/02/2018 10:34

@peapod no the apps messing me about I wrote a long ass post to op but it would send so I copied it so I didn't have 2 rewrite it, closed the app then pasted it but came up with my first post and sent before I realised and I really can't write it all again as I have a shit loaner phone
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beepthemeep · 21/02/2018 10:45

Ha, glad I'm not alone in the thread title

Sorry to divert, OP!!

Legwarmersareohsoeighties · 21/02/2018 20:20

Fair enough OP! In that case, you were definitely NOT being unreasonable! Poor little boy

Shimmershimmerandshine · 21/02/2018 20:24

I dislike snitching but dislike norovirus going through the family more. Ywnbu I cannot actually believe that someone would do that

Imnotposhjustquaint · 21/02/2018 20:28

I would’ve gone nuts! How very selfish! My daughter has a compromised immune system and catching a bug could make her very ill indeed. Not to mention people who may be having chemotherapy who will also have a reduced immunity to some extent or another.

I don’t take any chances with sick. Whether it’s suspected travel sickness, food poisoning or a bug. No freaking way! What a useless fucking took!

dimples76 · 21/02/2018 22:45

Beepthemeep I now have 'Common People' stuck in my mind with the OP's alternative lyrics!

I probably wouldn't have said anything but I think that you did the right thing

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