Nursery worker’s behaviour

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The daughter of a family friend works at a nursery. She seems to have become obsessed with a particular child, a one year old.
She shows pictures of the child to all her own family and friends, constantly talks about this child, has referred to herself as like the child’s mother and has ‘cute baby videos’ of said child on her phone.
If this child were yours would you want to know about this?

CobraKai That's why I said ask th4 parents and find out whether it is video taken with their knowledge outside nursery

Another one saying report. I am a nursery manager and would take this very seriously.

How on earth was she able to take a photograph at the nursery without any one seeing? That's as worrying as the fact she has an inappropriate bond with this child.

She shouldn’t even have her bloody phone on her

Wow I'd be furious if that was my child.
Her employer needs to be informed. She sounds unhinged and could possibly do something silly.

This is bollocks.

If any nursery worker was found to have their phone on them in a room with children they'd be chucked out so quick their arse wouldn't touch the ground.

@OnionKnight my ds nursery regularly take pictures and videos of the children to send to parents and put on their parents zone. Wouldn't exactly be hard for a worker to get hold of them.

kaytee87 Yep, my nursery also. They put them on the internet on a parenting app we can access. Would be easy for someone to send them to themselves whilst putting them up.

We don't know if the videos were taken in the nursery though do we?

Everyone around her is concerned and warning her about it.
Concerned for her but not the baby. Priorities are wrong here.

she shouldn't be able to get on to the online learning journals from home, she could however share puctures from the nursery facebook page if the mother has given permission for them to be posted on there. She shouldn't have her phone on her, and even if for some reason she doesn't realise this other members of staff should know to report it if they see her with one.

But calling herself the childs mother is odd.

I would report it to the nursery and if they did nothing then to the lado (google your la and lado and you should be able to get the number). As soon as you report it to the nursery she would be suspended while they investigated and the lado would need to be informed anyway.

Update that your advice has been taken and appropriate calls made.

Is it not quite difficult to film a child in a nursery without another member of staff noticing? I'd report higher too in case the nursery are turning a blind eye. I believe ofsted will deal with serious safeguarding issues?

Oh that's good then.

Well done OP

You did the right thing OP. I've seen this kind of behaviour in a nursery before from when I worked in one. There was nothing malicious meant by it, but some children would get preferential treatment by certain staff to the point that it was bordering on inappropriate. Lots of cuddles and kisses, attention and nicknames given to select children while others were excluded. However, no one could get away with having their phone in the room with the children.

What happened in the end?
(Sorry for the reanimation)