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Nursery worker’s behaviour

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EveEveEve · 19/02/2018 12:24

The daughter of a family friend works at a nursery. She seems to have become obsessed with a particular child, a one year old.
She shows pictures of the child to all her own family and friends, constantly talks about this child, has referred to herself as like the child’s mother and has ‘cute baby videos’ of said child on her phone.
If this child were yours would you want to know about this?

OP posts:
YellowFlower201 · 19/02/2018 13:40

What are you going to do OP?

TheApprentice · 19/02/2018 13:42

She may not have taken photos on her phone. If the nursery use online learners journals then she may have Internet access to those and there would be photos of the child on their online journal. However, it's totally inappropriate and unprofessional fir her yo be accessing them outwith the nursery.

GUMBYMUMBY · 19/02/2018 13:44

Well. She will get the sack won't she? SHE knows it's in breach of her DBS and safeguarding.

ivenoideawhatimdoing · 19/02/2018 13:49

I know a woman whose child had a protection order against his father, they had fled a year or so before and his nursery worker took a picture of a group of children at their christmas play.

She showed a few of her friends, one friend happened to be the Father's cousin.

Their whereabouts were passed on and he turned up at the nursery and they had to move again and start all over.

This need reporting ASAP and she needs to be let go, complete breach of trust and completely unacceptable when working in an environment with children.

Sarahh2014 · 19/02/2018 13:50

Does the childs mother know? If she doesn't then she needs to asap then she can do the appropriate things to nip this in the bud.I would certainly want to know if it was me

Snowysky20009 · 19/02/2018 13:53

I hope from the PP's comments you now realise how serious this is.

You need to report this TODAY! I can not emphasis that enough.

TheIrregularChoice · 19/02/2018 13:53

You have to contact the nursery. Even in the best case scenario they need to overhaul their child protection training and their mobile phone policy.

Afreshcuppateaplease · 19/02/2018 13:56

Online learning journals can and should be set up so that they can only be accessed on site. I have only known management be able to access off site.

Amatree · 19/02/2018 13:56

The only question in my mind is why haven't you or another person reported this already? It's hideously, scarily inappropriate and the fact that lots of competent adults know about it and have done the sum total of nothing horrifies me Sad

correctpiece · 19/02/2018 14:01

Parents need to be informed. If this was happening to my child and I didn't know about it but others did and did nothing (except post on the internet anonymously about it) I would say they were complicit.

If the parents know, fine, no harm done. If they don't, the police should be involved to check the pictures.

jannier · 19/02/2018 14:03

*Confusedbeetle Mon 19-Feb-18 13:07:46

This may be tricky as she is the daughter of a family friend. The dilemma may be should you tell her parents that this is a concern. This would probably be the right thing to do but may jeopardise a friendship. On the other hand it may stop her in her tracks if her parents explain this cannot continue, I am a little surprised no one has done so. I suspect this may be a naivety on the part of a young girl who has no idea. What shouts out to me more loudly is that she is getting no child protection/ safeguarding training or she would know this is inappropriate. This would be the question I would be putting to the nursery!*

As sad as it you can not assume she is nieve or innocent she will have had safeguarding training and either does not understand it so should she be doing the job or is doing this knowing its wrong and we don't know who else she is showing this to are they asking her to take photos is she being groomed to do it or a willing participant and could the photos be just the start or worse.....you never warn people as they destroy evidence there may be less innocent photos on that device. There have been well publicised cases of nursery worker taking photos and then sending them onto others.

PastaSauceHoarder · 19/02/2018 14:03

Its incredibly inappropriate to have photos of the child on her phone, I'm shocked that no-one around her has reported this already! And referring to herself as the child's mother is just weird and wrong.
Does the baby's real mum know? That would make me sick.

correctpiece · 19/02/2018 14:04

Maybe the papers will pick this up and do something? Can the thread be reported to authorities to investigate if the OP will do nothing?

Quadrangle · 19/02/2018 14:05

Is she getting the videos and photos from the parents' Facebook page?

RainbowDash09 · 19/02/2018 14:05

The only question in my mind is why haven't you or another person reported this already? It's hideously, scarily inappropriate and the fact that lots of competent adults know about it and have done the sum total of nothing horrifies me

Same - you're almost covering for the lass. Sort it out. Now

teaandbiscuitsforme · 19/02/2018 14:07

correct It's not no harm done!! It's completely against the safeguarding procedures that all adults working with children have to be trained in and agree to in their contract following safeguarding failures in cases like Victoria Climbé, Baby P, the Nursery paedo rings etc.

This is so very very serious. People who don't work with children may not realise the extent of it but those who have done safeguarding training are telling the op she had to report it to the Nursery for very good reasons.

correctpiece · 19/02/2018 14:08

RainbowDash09 Not almost covering, ARE covering. It is as if they care more about the juicy gossip of a family friend (don't care who it is, a criminal act is a criminal act) than a baby's safety.

correctpiece · 19/02/2018 14:08

teaandbiscuitsforme Fair enough.

Lizzie48 · 19/02/2018 14:09

You should definitely report, OP, this is a massive safeguarding issue. My DDs are adopted and I would have been very cross about it if a nursery worker had their photos on their phone.

Cheby · 19/02/2018 14:14

Ring the nursery NOW OP. Reading this makes me feel sick; if this was my child I would be terrified she was going to abduct the DC or something. She referred to herself as the child’s mother? That is seriously messed up.

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 19/02/2018 14:19

There are so many red flags here I'm really shocked nothing's happened already

I hope the op is contacting the nursery now so that's why we haven't heard back

PossiblyPFB · 19/02/2018 14:22

If it was my child I’d be livid. This is creepy behaviour.

WheresTheHooferDoofer · 19/02/2018 14:26

I'm really hoping the OP is contacting the nursery, and that's why they've not returned.

This is seriously worrying.

GUMBYMUMBY · 19/02/2018 14:26

Even if she has used 'online journals' use of any information about a child which is circulated beyond the confines of the learning environment is in contravention of Data protection laws.

CobraKai · 19/02/2018 14:41

No-one noticed her take pictures and videos in the nursery?

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