Life without a man

[Lana1z]

Okay so here goes...fully recovered from dh running off with the young secretary, tried the online dating scene for a good while but now at the point where I think I might buy several cats instead. Aibu to ask for reminders of all the reasons that this is a better option than continuing my search for a decent man?! (Replies only from the miserably married or wonderfully single 😂)

Everything is mine. My time, my decision, my space, my money, my choice, my taste, my comforts, my children, my pets, my garden, MY ENSUITE!

I love absolutely everything previously said on this thread.

You couldn't pay me enough to have another man in my life.

Can sleep all night, not interrupted by farting, snoring, tossing and turning, sighing etc

Eat what we want. If I don't feel like cooking, I don't. Teen dc can sort out beans on toast if they like

No snoring or farting

No bits of clothing left NEXT to the washing basket

No snoring or farting

Watch whatever I bloody want on telly. Haven't turned a sports channel on this year

No snoring or farting

No evil mil to deal with

No snoring or farting

Just living how I want to without feeling guilty about anything I want to do.

Wouldn't change it for anything right now. Can focus on my dc without him stoking the fire and everyone walking on eggshells in case they upset him.

I'm not single now but when I was single I used to really enjoy the peace and quiet and those few hours I had all to myself after the kids were in bed. Dinner and tv were all my choice and I'd sometimes have long phonecalls to my friend while lying in bed. I wouldn't swap my man to have all that back, but I do sometimes crave alone time, so I take myself off for long baths with a book and a cup of tea while he plays on the xbox after DC are in bed.

I have someone to de ice my car, someone to fix broken appliances, DTD with ex if i feel the need and have never been happier as a lone parent to DP.

Yes to not being the house oracle.
Do we have anymore insert random item here just fucking look.

Happily single for 9 years here - love it - don't miss being in a couple

I have great friends and I like my own company which helps

I also have 4 cats!

Wait till you see a new to you car you like, You can have it.

You want to go on Holiday, and don't have to check he is free, or even that he wants to go.

Ah...The Simple Life...

1. Nobody continually forgetting their keys so you have to stay awake to let them in
2. Being able to watch what you like and listen to what you like
3. Being able to invite anyone to your house whenever it suits you
4. Being able to go anywhere you like when it suits you
5. Being able to eat whatever you like, or nothing at all, for dinner without having to discuss it
6. No extended family obligations
7. No twat waking you up when they finally come to bed at gone midnight
8. No more ugly furniture you have to tolerate
9. No mess.

The list goes on and on...

I’m happy about not having to go through any more horrendous break-ups.

You couldn't pay me enough to have another man in my life

At the time of writing, that goes for me too

I’m still living with exP (til the house is sold). I’m am SO looking forward to:

Eating all the things he dislikes and disapproves of
Eating in the living room if I want to
Everyone being relaxed and happy
Not having to offer advice and support to someone while getting absolutely none in return
Being able to be totally flexible about things, and to respond to what’s going on rather than having to file a plan days in advance.
Being able to decide that DS2 can actually just stay up and watch a film or something because bedtimes are not written in law
Spending my money in whatever I choose and not having to explain it to anyone
Not having to reassure someone about his increasingly bald head (yes, he’s going bald; yes, it makes him look older; no, it’s not my problem)
Never having to deal with the tissues he drops under the bed/under his pillow
Doing what I like and not caring what he thinks
Being able to stay in pyjamas all day on a Sunday if none of us want to get dressed

And loads more. All the logistical and administrative parts of splitting up are crap. As is the mourning the loss of something that never existed in the first place (the good relationship I so desperately tried to convince myself I had/could have).

But the thought of not having to put up with his cold, disapproving looks any more is great.

With you all.

• not having to stay up to let him in
• not having to deal with the police
• having the place to myself
• keeping things tidy and clean
• not having to deal with drunken temper
• making my own life however late
• having DCs around not concerned about intrusive late night conversations or embarrassment when ExP comes home late and wants to "get down" with them.

Etc etc. .

No criticisms or second guessing yourself ever. You want to have a nap at 5pm, fine. You then can’t be bothered to go out to buy supper as planned and stay in bed watching Netflix and skipping supper, fine. You wake up in the middle of the night and want to read, fine. No one comments, no one disapproves - luxury!

No awkward family meals with the racist ILs, Yay!!!!

*Bed to myself, eat what I like, watch what i want, slob round in pyjamas as i please, hold parties and have friends round whenever or see nobody at all.

Not having to explain myself in any and every sense. I can just be and it's fabulous.*

God I'm jealous

No sweaty bed
No disgusting bathroom habits and horrible smells
No blokes tv programmes
No ironing
No clothes dumped on the floor and loose change/receipts/general crap chucked on the bedside table
Less cooking, shopping, tidying
I can be as greedy, slovenly and lazy as I like

Not having to listen to farts and poo noises through the wall every single fucking morning.
No sweaty bed
Don't have to answer 1000 mundane questions per day
Don't have to spend time with their awful family and friends
No arguments
You make all decisions and all decisions are final
Build a very close relationship with your child
You learn to do things like boiler maintenance, radiator bleeding, putting furniture together etc
You become empowered by your independence
Your house your rules!

It's great. The only thing I miss is someone to share the bills with.

No one snoring right down your ear and stopping you from sleeping

I’m living with exP until house is sold. Before I was with him I was on my own with DD1 for quite a few years.

I can’t wait to be on my own with my 2 DDs. Not to say life will be really easy. Being a single parent is hard, but it’s far better than being with a critical, lazy man-child.

I can’t think of any good reasons to live with a man ever again, apart from financial reasons!

In future I will date and have fun, but I honestly can’t see myself ever living with a man again.

Freedom to do what I want, when I want.
Full control of finances.
Not having to have PIL over.
Go to bed when I want (9pm) , and not be made to feel guilty for not sitting up watching shite on tv until 2am.
Never being made to feel guilty for not wanting sex.
Not having to pick up after him.
Not being told I’m ‘grumpy’ for asking him to tidy his shit up or watch his child for 10 minutes while I make dinner.
Not having to remember any of his admin.

Being on your own is great!

I'm grieving my husband and that's horrible, but there is a part of me that is loving being able to have people round whenever I like, being able to respond to invitations based on my preferences rather than dh's needs, not having to talk unless I choose to, not having to cook large meals, emptying the bedroom of crazy, and most of all, deep sleep due to lack of snoring. My head is all over the place at the moment but I certainly want to continue alone unlikely to get any other choice

Oh god yes messy the arguments about sex. Even when I had just had a c-section I had to have this argument

I'm married and I hate sharing a bed.

Men are either overly particular or messy. Very few normal men out there who are also neat. Definitely not fun to live with.

Downside, no sex.
Upside, no rubbish sex, no blowjobs, no faking orgasms!

Shhh, no one to keep the house tidy for.