Life without a man

[Lana1z]

Okay so here goes...fully recovered from dh running off with the young secretary, tried the online dating scene for a good while but now at the point where I think I might buy several cats instead. Aibu to ask for reminders of all the reasons that this is a better option than continuing my search for a decent man?! (Replies only from the miserably married or wonderfully single 😂)

This thread is enough to make a “ happily married” woman consider divorce!!

No football on the TV in my house ever.

My toilet is immaculate at all times.

I don't have to listen to the loud eating and bad table manners.

When I'm ready to go out , I go. No hunting for his wallet/keys/phone at the last minute.

I’ve been single three years and won’t ever live or be with someone again. I can watch what I want, sleep when I want, spend what I want. Not have to think about anyone else or ask to go out, say who just text me. Whilst it’s hard only one wage and not sharing costs I prefer it.

Happily single you can oogle the engineer then get cock fright when he flirts with you back

I'm sorry for your loss, annandale

I have long since decided that should anything happen to dh or should we split I won't be signing up for another ride on the merry- go-round. Not prepared to take on the undoubted baggage or the potential health worries and definitely can't be arsed with the 'getting to know you' rigmarole. As far as I'm concerned I've BTDT and don't want to do it all over again. Any next phase will be all about me.

Condolences Annadale.

Positive

There is a dad of one of ds friends, who is also divorced. He has been messaging me, I feel a bit bad as he is making it clear that he is interested in me, but I utterly and absolutely don't feel the same way. Its nothing to do with him really, he isn't bad looking and is an ok chap (bit big headed I see now from some messages, but anyway) but I just have no interest in being with anyone, going on a date with anyone, making small talk with anyone. I don't even miss DTD if truth is told.

Not having to consider what someone else wants to eat
Not having to cook for someone else and they moan about it
Eating what I want when I want
Going to bed when I want knowing I will have the whole bed to myself and won't be woking by someone else going to bed or SNORING
No wet towels chucked down for me to pick up
ditto pants and socks
Not having to coordinate with somebody else when I go out or when I go on holiday
going on holiday or days out where I want
Buying what I want when I want and managing my own finances
no in laws
not having to put up with someone else's mood swings
not having to worry if the house is messy, that someone will grumble about it
not feeling judged about how I spend my time
less washing
not having to worry if I look alright or shaving my legs
not having to worry will he come home drunk
not being put down and criticised
not having to compromise
Parenting how I think best.
Freedom

No pubes on the loo seat or pants to wash.

I love being single now. It’s been three years and I don’t ever regret it. I have a wonderful time with the DC, no compromising on bedtimes, behaviour, after school activities. I don’t have to put up with someone else’s moods and sulks. Tv isn’t on in the background constantly. I can get as many cats as I like!!!!

Just read the Relationships board.

^This

Better to be alone than with someone who treats you badly.

Find companionship in other ways - friends, family, pets, colleagues, mates at hobbies, social groups, whatever.

Be selfish. Do what you want when you want.

Annanddale, I'm sorry for your loss.

I've been single for 2 years now. My positives are:

Being able to cook and eat what I want without someone pulling a face at it.

Being able to watch my favourite TV programmes and films without someone saying they're crap and that I should watch more violent films.

Being able to enjoy listening to classical music again without someone being rude and shouting la, la, la over it or being lectured about heavy metal music being the best music ever.

Being able to wear what I like without being whinged at for wearing jeans instead of a dress.

Watching sport is banned in my house.

Being able to go to places like art galleries and museums.

I am able to read books without someone talking at me.

No more toilet humour jokes.

Just logged back on and seen all these messages. Thanks everyone 🤗🤗