To start a thread praising the good men out there

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It’s so depressing to read about horrible men, especially since Joe Coxes Husband has turned out to be a absolute arsehole. I would like to mention two men

My dad- an absolute gentleman who has worked hard all this life in a hard manual job and is still doing it part time at the age of 72. He adores my mum and his kids and grandchildren. He can be a bit of a grumpy sod but he is a good man.

My husband- a great husband and father. I have epilepsy and fibromyalgia and he has supported my all the way through.
He works full time and did the majority of night feeds when DS was a baby as if I get over tired I fit. He will take DS out and let me rest if I have had a fit or am in pain without complaint. He cooks tea nearly night as I can’t use the cooker in case I fit (he won’t let me)
I developed epilepsy after we had been together for six months, I told him to leave but instead he got down on one knee and proposed. He says I am beautiful every day and says he is lucky to have me. I sometimes think I am a burden but he always reassures me
He is not perfect and can be a bit sulky at times but he is a good man and I am proud of him.

Well, yes, it should. But we all know that not everybody does behave that way.

So often a woman comes onto MN to ask for advice and starts by saying her partner is an awesome father and so on. But the more she says about him the clearer it becomes that he is a waste of space, if not an outright abuser. She hasn't seen him that way because her expectations are so low. Often she has had a very bad role model when she was growing up - her own dad or her mum's new partner. Or she had no male role models.

For these women it might be the eyeopener they need to see that many women set the bar a lot higher and in many cases do indeed find men who meet those minimum standards. Or, if they don't, or have given up on men, they are happy on their own.

My hubby-who is currently working a late overtime shift specifically to fund a two hour massage for me! 😊 I lucked out with this one!

Well I just came here to say how utterly fucking depressed, disappointed, angry and sad I feel that yet another 'good guy' is in fact a dick splash of the highest order. A predatory one at that. I know how amazing my dh and ds are. I still fear for my dd's future because we can't even trust the good guys to be, well... good. Fucks sake.

If you want to read about women who do these things, why not start a thread about them?
Because if we did, everyone would go, 'so what?'

Some of the people I love most in the world are men and, as far as I'm aware, they're all decent people. I still don't see why I should pat them on the head and give them a lollypop.

I know we're supposed to praise toddlers for behaving well but I didn't realise we had to do it to grown ups too.

I've encountered several men who went above and beyond in the local community and gave far more of themselves than the average man or woman

Like Jimmy Saville

Most of the men I know are good, hardworking, kind loving husbands and fathers.
My husband is a good man. He’s a brilliant father. He’s a kind and supportive boss to his employees.
My sons are good men. They work hard, are compassionate and fun to be with. They are kind and respectful.

Most of the men I know are good, hardworking, kind loving husbands and fathers.
My husband is a good man. He’s a brilliant father. He’s a kind and supportive boss to his employees.
My sons are good men. They work hard, are compassionate and fun to be with. They are kind and respectful.

I’m really playing devils advocate here (sorry) but most mothers and wives of rapists and sex pests think the same

Fr. Shay Cullen, founder of Preda.