New neighbours moved in today

[MrsMcW]

New neighbours moved into the flat below mine this afternoon. My heart sank- they are three girls in their early-mid twenties, two of whom are students. Eight hours in and they are already throwing a massive party... music blaring through my floor and I've answered the front door 4 times to their friends because they can't hear their own doorbell over the music and so the friends rang mine instead.

AIBU to give it until midnight and then ask them to turn it down? My main worry is that I'm pregnant and due in 6 weeks- it's one thing keeping me up now but it will be a nightmare with a newborn involved too! If I turn a blind eye (and a deaf ear - if only) now, does it set a precedent going forward? Am I just being a boring cow ruining their fun? They've bought the flat (or rather, Daddy has) so I can't complain to a landlord.

We had a racket the other night - was a Wednesday.. I went round was apologetic saying my kids were moaning they couldn't sleep which was true. We had a very English conversation- me sorry to be a kill joy him sorry about the music, no I'm sorry etc etc1 . It was a 21st they were having a few drinks then heading into town. Not heard a peep since.

Sympathy if they are genuine nightmare neighbours let's hope not.

Don't worry OP,revenge in approx 6 weeks they will be posting on here about their neighbour who has a crying child at all times of the day. Good luck with the baby my dear.

Thanks everyone for the messages - they all seemed to head out around midnight anyway as it all went quiet suddenly, thank goodness! I didn't say anything, was cross last night but see the various points that it was a housewarming, could be a one off etc.

For all those saying it's karma from my own student days - fair enough. However throwing a party in a university town in a flat over a laundrette with other students on either side of us is a little different to throwing one on a sleepy terraced residential street when neighbours on one side are a retired couple in their 70s, house next door has a young family and upstairs is a heavily pregnant woman!

I also resent the suggestion that I also have a million pound flat and so should just move or get soundproofing. I WISH my flat was worth that much. I have the top floor loft conversion, they own the rest of the building plus the garden and huge basement.

I also resent the suggestion that I also have a million pound flat and so should just move or get soundproofing.

why would you resent the suggestion that your flat might be worth a similar amount to your neighbours??

I still say karma, even if you did live in a university town (so what?) and had other students as neighbours. When I was a student I would have hated it if next door students had constant parties. Not all students are like this.
I’m also amazed that they moved in and you took them round a moving in present within a few hours. I never have a clue when new neighbours move in and out here, I only figure it out when I hear different voices and Patterns in their movements.

Toadinthehole....you are a bit confused about your 'rights' as a parent compared to those without children. You have no greater or lesser rights that your neighbours whether you have children or not. The first point on your list makes me shudder...so glad you're not my neighbour!!

I would NOT tell them that you need peace because you are having a baby. That sounds like you are asking for special consideration.
Everyone deserves a reasonable level of peace and quiet, and you should demand that.

buy a nice house with a garden<

If only, in my neck of leafy North London suburbia, family homes are being demolished right, left and centre and are being replaced with blocks of horrid looking tiny flats. At this rate there won't be any houses with gardens left.

Toad - you sound like one if those parents. You don't even permit the slightest of incursions on your life as a one off?! Everyone goes through different stages of life at different times, but only the things that affect you matter?

Next door's baby cries on the dot of 6pm every day. We have had a house party once, til midnight. Fortunately, neither side are twats about it.

A one off party is going to be nothing compared to a baby crying for months.

You seem to be just worried how they are going to affect you, you didn't have any worries as to how a baby/child would affect neighbours and it very much will do in flats.

A one off party is going to be nothing compared to a baby crying for months.

I love how posters on a parenting forum a) clearly know nothing about babies b) hate them as a principle.

A crying baby is incomparable to an adult house party with booze,music,noise

With any luck this will be a one off house warming, I remember having something similar when I got my first home, the neighbours got all tetchy and knocked at 10pm to complain, they probably thought this would be the new norm but actually it was first and last party I threw in that flat. If it does become regular have an honest chat with them.

A crying baby is incomparable to an adult house party with booze,music,noise

Yes, because one is often a one off and the other is every night for months and months.

Posted too soon.

The point is that someone without children will find a crying baby just as annoying as the person with the crying baby finds noisy parties.

Nah that’s utter rot.an adult house party is a bigger aural torture than a baby
As social beings We experience babies, it’s a normal range noise easily tolerated
House parties exceed normal noise range,have multiple participants.much more imposition

I’ve had horrendously noisy neighbours who had silly parties and made me really really anxious about Home life. All my thoughts centred around how much noise there would be that night, would I get to sleep, would I be woken, how many people etc. Now I have neighbours who can still be a bit annoying in that they get visitors around once a week, two of whom seem to come as a pair and have the most annoying shrieky laughs. It feels like they are having some sort of squealing/laughing contest the whole time they visit but luckily no loud music and parties so I bear it. They also have a baby who has woken me numerous times with its crying but I’m actually delighted it’s just a baby waking me sometimes and not a bunch of selfish idiots!

House parties exceed normal noise range,have multiple participants.much more imposition

And are generally a one off rather than disturbed nights every single night.

Many non parents will find continual baby crying just as annoying as others find a one off party.

Unless you deliberately amplify your baby crying with implements of electric torture there is indeed no comparison. Babies crying are an unavoidable part of life; thud-crash music making the walls and floors vibrate is not.

I fucking hate people who do this. Hate them. It's fucking inconsiderate in a flat, ALWAYS. We share a wall with neighbours like this. Cunts. I had to call the police last night. Sick of their shit and their bass thumping through the walls every weekend night. Thankfully, our HA now does probationary tenancies, so they will soon be evicted and intentionally homeless, because some people are such inconsiderate twats they deserve to be thrown out on the street.

The point is that someone without children will find a crying baby just as annoying as the person with the crying baby finds noisy parties.

What make you think that people with children don't find crying babies annoying?

Christ, they've just moved in and have had ONE party. Settle down people.

Yeah, people are allowed to ruin someone's night with their fucking inconsiderate noise and music.

Lol it's happened ONCE. If they'd been there 6 months and this was happening every weekend then fine. But one night is hardly worth crucifying them over.