To let dd cry it out

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Not sure what category to put this in.
It's my dd bedtime and I'm wondering if my last resort should be for me to be next to her always but let her cry it out. When she's tired she fights and she's sorted for nappy, food, teeth etc she's all good, there's nothing wrong, got enough comfort, she just won't settle off to sleep :( I'd never leave her side. I've tried white noise etc everything :(

What you describe is what I'd do if rocking or feeding to sleep didn't work. We do this with my DD (16 months) for night wakings and after a week or so she was sleeping through most nights. She rocks to sleep fine at bedtime but I think eventually we'll end up doing the same then as well as I suppose eventually she'll need to settle to sleep in her cot at bedtime. Like others have said, it's more the first phase of gradual withdrawal, rather than cry it out, and the crying will be because she's frustrated, not because she feels abandoned. Ignore those who are posting from atop their high horses without even bothering to properly read the OP! 10 months was a fucking horrible time sleep wise in our household so I sympathise - good luck!

We did this. Dd would only bf to sleep. We put her in her in her sleeping bag lying between us, with our hands on her belly. She cried for 7 minutes, then slept. I was soooooo surprised, I was dreading it and thought it would take ages.
But you sound like a lovely mum, I think you should trust yourself here and do what you think is right for her.

I'd recommend 'The No Cry Sleep Solution'. I found it really reassuring.

I agree, I think you sound like a lovely mum

Thank you all ladies ♥ I'm so pleased to know I'm not alone here and haven't been alone here. I'll definitely look into the app, books and methods. I really want to make her happy and feel at ease rather than this crying. I feel like her routines are changing so quickly now and I can't keep up. I try to get there as early as I can for her naps but I think as well just who she is, she's more interested in what's going on elsewhere and won't stop until she knows. Thank you all for your advice xx

This sounds familiar. My DD was a terrible sleeper up until 12 months or so. She would be in our bed with us getting breastfed to sleep until 8 months when I finally had enough and moved her into her own room and cot. The next 4 months were not much better. I'd have to rock her to sleep and then when I put her down she would wake up and I would then have to sing to her and sit beside the cot with my hand on her chest. When she finally went to sleep I had a short lived break because she would wake up several times throughout the night and I'd have to do the same again and again. Most nights she would end up in our bed at 3am.
I tried the controlled crying method for a few nights but after she climbed out of her cot and fell on the floor after leaving her for ten minutes I couldn't continue with it.

At 12 months I couldn't handle it anymore and looked for advice. Someone recommend a better bedtime routine as she wasn't really getting enough wind down time. So I started turning all electronics off an hour before bedtime and then give her a top and tail wash then into pyjamas followed by her bottle in the living room. After this I placed her in bed, said "goodnight, I love you" and walked out. I kid you not, the first night she didn't cry once and went straight to sleep and slept all night. I couldn't believe it but I think it was my confidence that this would work. I had to believe it would work or I wouldn't have known what else to do. I think she picked up on my nerves and stress before and this upset her.

I don't believe in washing babies every night because I think it is bad for their skin so after a few months I gradually wore down the routine and she sleeps brilliantly still. She is now 17 months by the way. This worked for us but I do believe that every baby is different and it is difficult to know what will work for your baby unless you try a few things. Good luck, I hope you get some better sleep soon.