To hate being alone

[Hueandcry]

Yet another weekend spent alone. I hate it. Aibu?

Yanbu. Do you have any friends or family nearby?

I'm not alone now, but in the past have spent many weekends alone, bored and lonely.
How come you're by yourself OP x

YABU. It would be my heaven. Well, me and DC, that'd be so marvellous. Love DH dearly but sometimes it's such a bliss when there are only DC and I at home for weekend...

Yanbu X I'm with you on that

Talk to me OP .... I spend most days just me and DC. Weekends are particularly lonely / bored but we always find something to enjoy the day.

I feel for you and I understand

Friends are all busy with their families at weekends. Family too far away. Every weekend is the same. Dcs out with their friends. Monday comes around & i just think what a waste, I've done nothing again

YABU. It would be my heaven

Presumably because it would be a novelty. If solitude is actually your norm, and not through choice, then I'd imagine a weekend spent alone is a much less attractive prospect.

I'm sure now & again it would be lovely but week in week out it's really not, believe me

How old/independent are your DCs?

Do you have anything local you could attend OP? I know it's nerve wracking but maybe something like a fitness class, meet up group, book club...anything at all really that would float your boat. Might be worth trying something new with the view to meeting new people.

Oh bless you. I find weekends alone really hard too. I was a single parent for years but now remarried to someone who works a lot of weekends. I agree that people are all with their fanilies.
I just try to fill the days as best I can but I also volunteer on Fridays which I have found really fullfillibg. Could you find something at weekends? I know the shelters are open during this cold spell and in this region you get paid for a night shift which is a bonus.

Have you attempted to make plans, do things, meet people? Take some responsibility and choose to be happy, OP

It can be rubbish OP.
I do like my own company and am happy to spend quite a lot of time alone, but I really miss having a significant other to share things with, someone who just 'gets' me and is there for me.
Friends and family are there for me, but they don't full then hole in my life & home.

Dcs are 19 & 16. Very independent but 16yo needs keeping an eye on. Been divorced 5 years & they don't see their Dad. I just feel so alone. I work so not alone during the week but at the weekend I could easily speak to no-one from Friday night til Monday morning.

Thanks Calvin ,very helpful

I understand op. I'm a single parent and it can get to you sometimes. My dc are away to their dads this weekend and even though I was out last night with friends, it's not the same as not having a relationship. I am normally very happy in my own company the majority of the time but the last six months I've been feeling particularly lonely for some reason and have shed a few tears over it.

It's your decision whether to spend it alone wallowing or make the most of it OP!

What have you done during the weekend in the last year that you've enjoyed when you've made the effort?

What would your ideal weekend look like with a friend? How about alone?

What do you think weekends should be for? Some people prefer to use them to recharge and relax, some like to fill every minute doing fun things and exploring, others see them as the time for life admin before the week ahead.

I understand too. Broken family. Live in middle of nowhere. Kids not here. I haven't spoken to anyone today or seen anyone. I can't wait to go to sleep tonight. You are not alone OP

I'm in tears now coffee. For some reason it's really got to me today.

YANBU. I find it harder now DD is a teenager as when she was younger we did lots of stuff with other families, but they get to the stage of not wanting to be told who to hang out with so those friendships drop away a bit. I see friends sometimes at weekends but often it's only for an hour or so. I also do activities but they tend to be during the week. I think once DD has left home and I don't need to be hanging around for her / picking her up / cooking etc. then I'll have more freedom to see people and develop new interests. It's surprising to me that other than the very young baby stage the teen stage has felt most isolating in my parenting experience.

Oh and the being alone got to me a bit on Valentine's Day this year.

Wallowing? Nice

You sound a bit depressed OP but I would say it's situational and there are ways it can be remedied. Have you looked into clubs, classes etc?

YABU. It would be my heaven. Well, me and DC, that'd be so marvellous. Love DH dearly but sometimes it's such a bliss when there are only DC and I at home for weekend...

up own arse much?

I got fed up with being bored on the weekends and I have a dh, but he sometimes works/has to see his ailing parents. I am lucky that friends are around so I make it so that I have one arrangement every weekend. The DCs do their own thing too and not particularly interested in us unless it’s food related.
If I was in your position I’d go out & find friends. What about work people? I have a single mum friend at work and we meet up when she doesn’t have her DS. Or there are classes, the ‘meet up’ group that you can access online etc.