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To ask what time your DC go to bed?

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Whisperingwinds · 10/02/2018 20:54

My 6 YO DD is in bed by 7:30 pm with lights off and asleep by 8 pm at the latest. She is in year 1 and according to her teacher 7:30 is late as bedtime for her. What time do/did your DC of similar age go to bed?

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Shouldileavethedogs · 10/02/2018 21:18

1 and 2 year olds. 4pm till 6am

wendz86 · 10/02/2018 21:21

My 6 year old (year 2) goes up at 7 although I get her sister to sleep first so normally do her stories and she does her reading around 7.45 and she is asleep by 8.30. She stays up later on a Saturday.

ElphabaTheGreen · 10/02/2018 21:23

1 and 2 year olds. 4pm till 6am

That's voo-doo, that is. What's your secret? Piriton in a glass of milk at 3:30?

Snowysky20009 · 10/02/2018 21:24

4pm-6am!! Really????

lougle · 10/02/2018 21:26

12, 10 and 8 year olds. In bed at 7.30-7.45. Lights out by 8pm.

PurplePotatoes · 10/02/2018 21:28

1.5yr old goes to bed at 6pm and will sleep til about 8am.

4yr old goes at 6.30/7 and sleeps til about 6.30 but this is mainly as she has to be up at that time for nursery 3 x a week so has fallen into that pattern now.

Longdistance · 10/02/2018 21:30

Dd2 (6) 8pm is when she falls asleep.

Dd1 (8) anything from 9pm - 11pm

cliffdiver · 10/02/2018 21:30

DDs 3 (almost 4) and 6 - in bed between 6.45 and 7pm (routine since they were 4 months) both asleep within minutes.

DD1 wakes at 6.45, DD2 at 7am.

PumpkinPie2016 · 10/02/2018 21:40

DS is 4 and goes to bed between 7 and 7.30pm. He is generally put like a light and wakes around 7am.

He struggles if he goes to bed much later than that as he always wakes around 7am.

WeAreEternal · 10/02/2018 21:41

DS is 11
He goes to bed at 7.15, is allowed to read until 7.30 then one of us tucks him in and turns his light off.

We often get comments about how early he goes to bed but he is a very early riser, he always has been, and is up at 5 - 5.30 most mornings, we’ve tried sending him to bed later but he wakes up at the same time regardless and just ended up exhausted and grumpy, so an early bed time works for him.

sirfredfredgeorge · 10/02/2018 21:45

At 6 in bed sometime after 9pm, no lights off limit, normally asleep between 10:30 and 11, wakes naturally around 8am.

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Whisperingwinds · 10/02/2018 21:46

NoSquitrrels her teacher meant it for year 1 in general not just my daughter - I realise my OP did make it sound as if it was directed at my daughter.

DD is up by 7 am every morning and is Full of energy. She is definitely tired by 6 - 6:30 but earlier bedtimes haven’t worked for us

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upsideup · 10/02/2018 21:47

3 year old - 6.30
4 year old - 7.00
8 year old- 8.30
10 year old- 9.30

Its depends on the child, how easily they fall asleep, if they sleep throught the night, what time they get up etc
If your DD isnt tired then keep her bedtime where it is, her teacher shouldnt get to decide her bedtime.

Merryoldgoat · 10/02/2018 21:49

Goodness - I’m loathed to admit it but I’m case there are any other posters in my position...

DS is 5 (Reception) - bed time is just before 9, asleep after stories between 9 and 9.30. Awake at 7am, sometimes 7.30. Not at all tired during the day, bags of energy etc.

He has always slept less than his peers, even from birth. When we decided to stop trying to force an earlier bedtime we all became happier.

I monitor it and the odd night he’ll be tired earlier so of course we put him down earlier but it’s rare.

I suspect as school becomes more demanding he’ll need to go earlier.

Mayhemmumma · 10/02/2018 21:51

My DD is same age and also wakes just after 7am. I find 7.30pm to be asleep is best for her, it's often 8pm and it makes her grumpier those days.

DrWhy · 10/02/2018 21:51

16 month old, 8.30pm (8ish on a good night after 9pm on a bad night). We aren’t home from work until 5.45pm at best, then cook (or reheat and do some veg if we’ve batch cooked), eat dinner, bath, at least a million books then battle him into a cot. Then up at least twice before 7am. I’d love it to be earlier and it probably could be half an hour earlier if we were stricter on the books and post bath faff but it’s the only weekday awake time we have with him. He naps at Nursery and doesn’t seem particularly tired, it may not work once he’s at school with no nap.

kaytee87 · 10/02/2018 21:52

It's all relative to what time they get up surely?
Ds 18mo goes to bed at 7pm, wakes at 7am and has a 2 hour nap at midday.

At 6yo she probably still needs around 12 hours at night.

kaytee87 · 10/02/2018 21:55

Just saw your update op. Why haven't earlier bedtimes worked if she's tired earlier? Try changing it by 15 minutes every few days and see if that helps.

Lollyb86 · 10/02/2018 21:58

4 year old in bed for 6.30 asleep by 7. Awake anytime from 5.30am regardless of what time she goes to bed

Namelesswonder · 10/02/2018 21:59

We don't even get home till 6:15pm. By the time I cook, we eat, do homework, shower, have a story it's easily 8pm. Age is irrelevant, can't do it all any faster!

ElphabaTheGreen · 10/02/2018 22:00

It's all relative to what time they get up surely?

Nope. You'd think. But nope.

At 6yo she probably still needs around 12 hours at night.

Neither of mine have ever, not ever, done 12 hours. Always just shy of 10 hours and they're both live-wires from wake-up til bedtime. One of them did 11 hours once after a bout of D&V. I was holding a mirror under his nose and checking for life signs. Some children just need less sleep than others.

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Whisperingwinds · 10/02/2018 22:00

kaytee regardless of how much earlier I tuck her in - she seems to naturally fall asleep between 7:30 to 7:45pm - she wakes up naturally at 7 am - most of her classmates go to bed much later so I was just surprised when the teacher said 7:30 was late for a 6 year
Old.
That said I haven’t tried earlier bedtime recently - I will try and tuck her in at 7:15 tomorrow and see
How it goes.

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NoSquirrels · 10/02/2018 22:01

Oh ignore it then! My DC had exactly the same comment in Yr 1 about our 8pm bedtime - I think they were learning time/clocks etc and it came up as part of that. There’s no “in general” as children vary, and 7.30 is pretty standard anyway.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 10/02/2018 22:02

Blimey - I must have very sleepy kids!

9 year old usually in bed by 7.30pm and needs waking at 7.15 am (later a couple of nights a week for clubs)

12 year old in bed by 8.30pm (up later a couple of nights for clubs too) and needs waking at 7.15am.

They're both busy with after school and sports clubs and eat well as well as sleep well. Long may it continue!

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Whisperingwinds · 10/02/2018 22:03

namelesswonder yes same with us ! She hasn’t her meal at after school care so by the time we are done with homework and some family times / even 7:30 feels like it comes quickly. Also DD aid a high energy child - when I say she is tired kaylee in our world it means she isn’t bouncing off the wall

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