Niteflights, struggling to get to grips with your point.
You say "It has been expressed by others very clearly, but I'll reiterate - do you ask the RNIB to be more 'inclusive' and put more focus on amputees? Do you think that Age UK just aren't doing enough for babies? Or is it just that you'd like women to be doing even more than we already do, at our own expense, to benefit men?"
You are ignoring the simple fact that the current climate sees a good cause undermined by a divisive position. At the moment there are many females on here unwilling to take the feminism label. What does that tell you about the label?
My simple logic is that if the label is a problem that is costing support then you have to pick either the label or the issue as the thing you value most. RNIB don't have that problem.
In really basic terms, explore what causes negative/divisive opinion then distance the good stuff from it.
No woman, husband, brother, son or father should be against any type of equality for women. If they aren't buying into feminism then the problem is feminism as it is perceived.