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AIBU?

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to not take my neighbours parcel over?

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LunarGirl · 09/02/2018 06:29

Fairly new neighbour, been here a few months now. I'd say at least once a fortnight since she moved in (sometimes more!) I've taken in parcels for her. I'm home most of the day so it's not an issue. She has never once collected and I have always ended up taking them to her. Whenever I've given them to her she's seemed surprised so I just presumed cards haven't been left.

On Monday the postman knocked with a parcel for me as I was leaving to take the kids to school, he asked if I could take in ndn parcel as well as she's not there. Not a problem. He asked if he should leave a card or would I be seeing her. I asked him to leave the card. I saw him fill out the card and put it in her letterbox. Yet I still have the parcel.

I feel really petty as I could just take it around but she's quite ninja like and I never see her come or go so it's always a guess as to whether she's home or not. It's annoying popping round and then having to lug the parcel back home if she's not there.

Aibu to think she's taking the piss a bit and if she wants her parcel she should come and get it?

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CaMePlaitPas · 09/02/2018 10:24

She's treating you like a concierge OP! You're a great neighbour by the sounds of it. Keep the parcel until she comes to collect- you are not her personal assistant.

llangennith · 09/02/2018 10:26

Wait till she collects it and next time explain nicely to the postman why you won’t be taking in any more parcels for her.

barefoofdoctor · 09/02/2018 10:26

As a stay at home (pensioned off due to disabity/health) parent, I am the local drop off place for our excellent and lovely Hermes delivery chap as well as all the other delivery companies. Doesn't bother me in the slightest but then we take each others' bins in and out on bin day, share spare bin space, one neighbour even clears the snow off our cars In winter. I am very lucky, I know! (I might add that on our street of 8 councle terraced houses only one has been bought and the owners are absolutely vile individuals, but everyone else is community spirited and kind).

SeeKnievelHitThe17thBus · 09/02/2018 10:33

Next time decline to accept the parcel and tell the post person they never collect parcels from you so you're not willing to accept it.

Finderscrispy · 09/02/2018 10:40

dependant on what time she’s getting home from work maybe she doesn’t want to disturb your evening meal? Your kids bedtime ( if you have any? )
I am always conscious of disturbing my neighbours routines, especially if they’re doing me a favour . Maybe it’s something like that.
Or she could just be a lazy arse that wants other people to run round after her.
I remember taking in a parcel for a neighbour, think it was some a piece of exercise equipment I.e. heavy. Knocked on the door to let them know and the cheeky cow stood on her front waiting for me to lug it over to her, left it outside my front door and told her to come and get it mwah ha ha....

LakieLady · 09/02/2018 10:42

I always get stuff delivered to work. Our reception staff never mind, even in the run up to Christmas when the store room behind reception looks like a parcel depot.

I realise that's not really possible if you work in a hospital or something though.

Nickypollard · 09/02/2018 10:49

I started getting regular post for a neighbour’s run-from-home business: my number was on the letters. Initially I just put them through her letterbox, but they kept coming.

I then checked her website and saw she had my number shown in her address (presumably in error). So I knocked at her door to hand over the next load of post and mentioned, very politely, that it was odd that all her customers were writing to me - could they have my address in error?

She was always a nasty piece of work anyway and treated me with her usual contempt. After that all her post went through my shredder (including cheques) and lo, after about a week problem was resolved!

Oblomov18 · 09/02/2018 10:51

I'd just stop taking the parcels.

I order a lot. Many times couriers take it to my neighbour. I wish they wouldn't. I find it embarrassing. I'd rather they kept it and left a card, so I could arrange a re-delivery. But I don't know how to sort this.

He's lovely our neighbour and I don't want him being bothered with our parcels. He says he doesn't mind, but I do!

ApocalypseNowt · 09/02/2018 10:59

I always take parcels round to neighbours if I get them. They do the same for me.

It wouldn't bother me at all tbh but it's fairly infrequent.

charlestonchaplin · 09/02/2018 11:00

So order from places where you can collect at your convenience since you order 'a lot', and don't seem to be around to accept your parcels! Specify a safe place or get one of those external parcel boxes. If you're really that bothered (not everyone is) you'd make a bit more effort.

charlestonchaplin · 09/02/2018 11:02

To Oblomov18

Oblomov18 · 09/02/2018 11:04

I've got a safe place, but many just deliver to my neighbour!

SoupDragon · 09/02/2018 11:05

With so many places offering a service where you can collect from a local shop, there is less need for neighbours to take in parcels.

I don’t mind doing it at all because for me it’s really no trouble. It helps that DD loves to take the parcels to the neighbours so I don’t actually have to do anything!

OutToGetYou · 09/02/2018 11:13

All my neighbours take in parcels for me, I collect if I get a note to say where they are, which I don't always.

Two of my neighbours have six foot fences round their front gardens which they lock and there is no way for me to get to their front door and ask for the parcel, so I rather wish the delivery people didn't leave them with those two. One of them recently took in a parcel for me, I tried about three times to collect it but couldn't get to their door and a few days later found it dumped on my doorstep. Don't bloody take it if it's too inconvenient for you mate!

Oblomov18 · 09/02/2018 11:33

And I'm happy to collect from shop/post office/have it re-delivered. I only work 3 days, so have 2 days at home to either collect it, or have it re-delivered, for those days.

But I can't seem to get the companies to do this. Many of them just take it straight to my neighbour. I don't know quite how to stop them.

PistFump · 09/02/2018 11:45

We work full time and wherever possible I request that parcels are left behind our bush (our safest place) but more often than not they're left with a few different neighbours. I would never expect them to bring parcels over to us but they usually do. Sometimes we aren't left a card so don't know where things are.

user789653241 · 09/02/2018 11:48

I have taken neighbours' parcels many times, but never taken it to them. They have to come collect it themselves.

G120810 · 09/02/2018 19:19

I take parcels for most of my neighbors im down as safe place and the post man leaves them with me I drop them into them I don't see it as a bad thing in in during the day so I can help but u do get annoyed with the bins I'm always putting mine and next door out as they just leave them but it wouldn't hurt if they brought them in its fair speak to her and say u don't mind taking them but she must collect I only do the neighbors I talk to and they do not things for me

PercyPigAddict · 09/02/2018 20:31

I had a neighbour who did this, I started writing post-it notes saying "Parcel for you at number 45 :-)" and stuck them on their front door so I knew they'd definitely have got the message.

Angrybird345 · 09/02/2018 20:40

Don’t take it over...... be stubborn.... your neighbour is a cf

Hepzibar · 28/02/2018 21:57

@LunarGirl What happened with the feckin' parcel? FFS!

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LunarGirl · 01/03/2018 14:55

She never came to collect! I sent DH round with it in the end and he asked if she'd got a card. She said no! Haven't had any more for her since.

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RhiWrites · 01/03/2018 14:58

Well now you know she's untruthful. Don't take in any more parcels for her.

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 01/03/2018 15:04

Ask for her mobile number then you can text her when you have a parcel to be picked up. Much easier.

ReasonableLlama · 01/03/2018 15:21

Surely she would know she's expecting a parcel? I know I do.

My neighbours don't collect theirs. I've knocked when they have been in and no answer and left notes and after having their parcel for 2 weeks I got the hump and left it outside their house. I don't take any more parcels in. DH has been instructed not to take any in either

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