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to not take my neighbours parcel over?

95 replies

LunarGirl · 09/02/2018 06:29

Fairly new neighbour, been here a few months now. I'd say at least once a fortnight since she moved in (sometimes more!) I've taken in parcels for her. I'm home most of the day so it's not an issue. She has never once collected and I have always ended up taking them to her. Whenever I've given them to her she's seemed surprised so I just presumed cards haven't been left.

On Monday the postman knocked with a parcel for me as I was leaving to take the kids to school, he asked if I could take in ndn parcel as well as she's not there. Not a problem. He asked if he should leave a card or would I be seeing her. I asked him to leave the card. I saw him fill out the card and put it in her letterbox. Yet I still have the parcel.

I feel really petty as I could just take it around but she's quite ninja like and I never see her come or go so it's always a guess as to whether she's home or not. It's annoying popping round and then having to lug the parcel back home if she's not there.

Aibu to think she's taking the piss a bit and if she wants her parcel she should come and get it?

OP posts:
LaContessaDiPlump · 09/02/2018 07:40

Can she see your front door from her house, or when passing in the street? I'd be tempted to put up a sign (maybe on the inside of a window) saying '#26, YOU HAVE A PARCEL - PLEASE COME AND COLLECT IT!'

Then when she comes over (looking annoyed) cheerfully say 'I wasn't sure you knew you'd had a delivery! Please can you come over to collect them in future so I don't have to bring them round? Thanks!' If you act like everything is totally pleasant then she'll be a bit blindsided and hopefull meekly agree Grin

GoatPavlova · 09/02/2018 07:41

Is it really an issue popping to,the neighbours once a fortnight? Feels a bit mean spirited to me.

HarryElephante · 09/02/2018 07:42

Shiny, happy people in this thread. When did it get so bitter?

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 09/02/2018 07:47

Bitter? Grin hardly.

Slartybartfast · 09/02/2018 07:57

if you order online you either make sure you are in, have a safe place or one of those lockers, some people get their deliveries sent to their work address.
dont assume neighbours will take in your parcels.

charlestonchaplin · 09/02/2018 07:59

It's hardly a big deal to pop over and pick up one's own parcel, is it? I hope you aren't that lazy and thoughtless GoatPavlova? And if that isn't your style, don't try to pronounce what other people should and shouldn't be irritated by. The OP has accepted the parcel, she's been nice. She doesn't need to do any more if it's an inconvenience.

Sparrowlegs248 · 09/02/2018 08:01

Don't take it if it's bothering uyou . She knows where it is. Although I hate people turning up unannounced so I'd prefer to take it myself.

Shedmicehugh · 09/02/2018 08:08

Maybe if no card has been left previously and you always take them over, she is thinking that you usually take them over when it’s convenient for you?

Take the parcel over and ask next time she has a card it’s more convenient for you if she collects it?

MamehaSan · 09/02/2018 08:10

If you don't want to lug the parcel round, just stick a note through her door asking her to collect it...?

Slartybartfast · 09/02/2018 08:11

I can't believe people take in parcels but dont want the neighbour to actually come round and collect? are you all closet naturists? slovens? can't see the issue.

Shedmicehugh · 09/02/2018 08:14

Or just stop taking in her parcels if you think she is taking the piss!

Sweetpea55 · 09/02/2018 08:18

You can always refuse the parcel.

QueenOfAccidentalDeathStares · 09/02/2018 08:36

It is the person who the parcel belongs to who should collect it.
tis the rules

cantfindname · 09/02/2018 08:37

I used to regularly take parcels for my rather unpleasant neighbour. She did usually collect them herself but it all came to a head when she more or less accused me of stealing one of her parcels. After a lot of rather nasty comments it turned out the parcel had been left with a different neighbour. For a long time I refused to take parcels for her but recently decided to give her the benefit of the doubt. Blow me if the same thing didn't happen again!!

No more, I say, no more.

TenancyTroublesAgain · 09/02/2018 08:39

She needs to get off her arse and collect it.

cooldarkroom · 09/02/2018 08:41

I would take it over, & say, "If you want me to continue accepting your deliveries, Please come over & collect on the same day as you receive the card."

SavageBeauty73 · 09/02/2018 09:09

I would just take it over. My postman left a card and he didn't write what number he left my parcel on it.

Scribblegirl · 09/02/2018 09:11

Oh god I can't do this thread again 😂

WillowKnicks · 09/02/2018 09:41

I'd take it over after a few days & say because I'm a coward "Oh sorry I didn't bring it over earlier but I thought you'd had a note pushed through & knew it was here for you to collect".

That way you've still been neighbourly but she knows you expect her to collect it herself.

Bluelady · 09/02/2018 09:48

We've lived next door to our lovely neighbours for nearly 20 years. They've got a spare key and just pop our parcels inside the front door if we're not in. The people behind us are vile and nasty and I won't take their parcels at all.

buntingqueen · 09/02/2018 10:01

Aargh!! Mine do this too! I never understand why they pay for next day delivery and then leave it at my house for 3 or 4 days. I wouldn’t mind so much but I usually get my own post delivered to a locker or local shop so that I don’t miss it! I’ve given up now and just tell delivery drivers we’re going to be away so can’t take their parcels.

Nikephorus · 09/02/2018 10:05

Bear in mind that sometimes those cards get stuck in the gap between the outer and inner letterboxes and so she might not know she's had one.

Branleuse · 09/02/2018 10:06

I only take parcels for one neighbour now, as year before last my hall was like a sorting office and noone would come and collect. They can sod off now

chatwoo · 09/02/2018 10:09

If you're not expecting anything, don't answer your door so you don't end up with the parcel next time?

Or just tell the postie you can't take it, and then he will need to try one of the other neighbours.

TenancyTroublesAgain · 09/02/2018 10:14

OP says they had a parcel too.