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to report my aunt to the DVLA?

112 replies

IrrelevantPeasant · 05/02/2018 15:01

My aunt is fast approaching her 70th birthday and has various medical conditions which means she is no longer fit to drive. She has no intention of declaring this and intends to carry on as she currently is. I’m concerned she causes an accident and she/ someone else gets hurt/ killed. WWYD?

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Coconutspongexo · 05/02/2018 15:05

Well have her doctors said she shouldn’t be driving because the GMC suggest that drs have a duty of care to patient and wider community drs can without consent inform the DVLA that a license holder isn’t ‘safe’ to drive.

ShotsFired · 05/02/2018 15:05

Report her. It's not your decision to make. If DVLA find her incapable, they will decide to remove her licence. If not, no harm done.

You have nothing on your conscience. But if the worst happens with her behind the wheel, you will.

ShotsFired · 05/02/2018 15:06

Also her insurance will be invalid if she is medically unfit. Those bills can run into thousands.

retirednow · 05/02/2018 15:08

Who has declared her unfit to drive, her Dr as pp. said. You can call the DVLA if you are concerned if she is driving when she shouldn't be, they can revoke her licence.

IrrelevantPeasant · 05/02/2018 15:11

She’s lied to the doctor and told them she doesn’t drive because she knows she shouldn’t be doing it. She thinks because she only drives 5 minutes round the corner to the shops then it’s ok.

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PoorYorick · 05/02/2018 15:12

Yes, report. Dangerous driving costs lives.

NotSoSprightly · 05/02/2018 15:14

What makes her unfit to drive? I'd report her and then give her lifts and and when needed.

retirednow · 05/02/2018 15:18

Has the Dr told her not to drive, if so and she is lying to him you need to tell him and the DVLA, take her car keys away and tell her you have reported it to the DVLA and that five minutes doesn't make any difference.

BewareOfDragons · 05/02/2018 15:33

Please report her.

awankstainonhumanity · 05/02/2018 15:38

Yes, please do. Whilst the DVLA will write to the GP on reapplication of her licence, sometimes this is missed/ slow/ not completed properly.

MatildaTheCat · 05/02/2018 15:38

She’s not very old to have to stop driving. Maybe instead of reporting her to the DVLA ask her GP to assess her and recommend on the basis of that? If she’s reported to the DVLA she will be suspended from driving until she gets a doctor certificate which could take ages.

If she is actually blind or in some way completely mentally incompetent please ignore this view.

Ellie56 · 05/02/2018 15:39

Five minutes is still too long if she blacks out at the wheel or can't see properly where she's going, or whatever the problem is that makes her unfit to drive.

Report.

VioletBow · 05/02/2018 15:42

You should report her. I had an elderly neighbour who still drove and a few weeks after I moved in she came to ask me to feed her cat while she went away for a weekend.... turns out the cat had died years ago and she had early onset dementia. I ended up ringing social services several times as I was concerned for her care and she then did not drive and the car was just on the drive for a few weeks until I noticed one day it had gone, I saw her ten mins after noticing so assumed she no longer had the car. Until she knocked and asked if I would take her the 15 mins drive to town as she had lost her car when she had forgotten where she had parked it after going into town ShockHmm

This led me to ring the police and the dvla.
It then turned out that she actually had her son living with her who was an alcoholic recluse (myself and another neighbour knew nothing of him) and she herself was not only driving around with dementia but usually drunk as well.

Your aunt may think the short drive to the shops is ok but it's the shortest journeys that can be the most dangerous

emmcan · 05/02/2018 15:44

If she told you that she had only had ''a glass of wine or two'' before driving 5mins to the shops would you still be okay with that..? If not, then do what your sensible conscience tells you.

Jessbow · 05/02/2018 15:45

I'd write to her Doctor, stating that she drives, and that you consider her unsafe to continue to do so.
I'd add that as it will cause friction between you and Aunt, that you'd appreciate that he/she handled it in a sensitive manner and refrain from informing your aunt of your correspondence

greenlynx · 05/02/2018 15:47

I would report her . Her attitude sounds very irresponsible.

tiggytape · 05/02/2018 15:50

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haya130 · 05/02/2018 15:50

I think she may need to re-apply for her driving licence at 70, I'm fairly sure my parents both did when they turned 70 the other year and I think they had to get some form/letter from the GP before the new driving licence would be issued?

dingdongdigeridoo · 05/02/2018 15:51

If it was a younger person driving around with poor eyesight or having seizures, would you report? The fact that she's a nice old lady shouldn't cloud your judgement.

As for the excuse that she's popping to the shops, something like half of all accidents happen within a few miles of home. She might be lucky and just hit a tree. Or she might hit a child. I don't think I could sleep at night if that happened and I knew I could have done something.

falsepriest · 05/02/2018 15:53

Yes, report. People like her that squash cycling friends of mine at junctions.

tiggytape · 05/02/2018 16:07

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spiderlight · 05/02/2018 16:07

Please do report her. My ex's grandfather steadfastly refused to give up driving until he was reported, and he came out of his assessment having been declared legally blind Shock How he hadn't killed anyone, I will never know.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 05/02/2018 16:09

Yes, of course you should report

Here you go: www.contactthedvla.co.uk/guides/anonymously-reporting-dangerous-driving-dvla/

Esspee · 05/02/2018 16:10

At 70 she will have to fill out a form for the DVLA but does not need any confirmation from doctor.
If you report your concerns then a doctor will have to pass her as fit to drive.

You have a duty to report her.....please do.

HouseworkIsASin10 · 05/02/2018 16:12

Being 70 is irrelevant. You can be an amazing driver at 69, doesn't mean you turn into a shit driver the day you hit 70.

Medical condition is relevant though, so if you think her condition is a good enough reason to report then do it.

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