In wondering why you can't put a love letter in a coffin?

[Valerrie]

I've just read this story :

www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/uk-england-manchester-42920984?__twitter_impression=true

and obviously I can see the reasons why you can't put things like mobile phones, ecigs and alcohol into the coffin of a person being cremated.

But love letters are banned. Why would this be?

I know someone who did a work placement in a crematorium. She said at the end hip joints were all placed in a bucket and sent off for recycling.

My friend was a medical student, she told me that they paid £x for checking there's no pacemaker

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ash cash ....

this thread has been discussed but wanted to see also if any new info
My partner was killed while on holiday his body is being returned to uk by insurance company. Funeral directors nominated by them have said l cannot place a letter in his hand
Surely this cannot be right

@limoges87130 is he being cremated?

Yes he is

My mum died last year and we gave my dad's letters to her to the undertaker, to go in the coffin. She was cremated.

limoges I'm so sorry, that must be awful for you. I would challenge the funeral director on that. We used the Co-op for my mum's funeral and they didn't make the smallest difficulty about putting my dad's letters in her coffin.

l cannot place a letter in his hand

Is it a misunderstanding? You've said "can I put a letter in his hand?" and they've said "no you can't" but they could perhaps do it behind closed doors? I'm just thinking if he's travelling from abroad, he's been killed (in an accident of some sort?), there's going to be a delay between death and funeral, then viewing/touching may not be advised and they might go straight to a closed coffin.

I'm sorry for your loss but I'd definitely discuss it with them to see if you give them a letter could they put it in the coffin on your behalf.

Yes he was in car accident with his friend his body has been there 3weeks arriving back next week as other side of the world
Thank you for your post

I put a small elephant Teddy in with my grandfather from ds, that was OK. He was cremated

There are strict rules about what can go in a coffin before cremation...cremators are technical machines with intricate filtration systems. A letter is absolutely fine to be placed in the coffin with your father. I think the funeral director is being unreasonable but he/she may not be able to open coffin or let you see your father due to how he looks. Have you asked the FD?

lim

We put photos in my mums coffin

Some of them were slightly strange if I remember rightly, but it wasnt a problem

Putting her in her favourite dress was a problem initially, i think that was down to the material it was made of

It’s my partner not father it no have not Asked FD as too upsetting if how he looks is the issue but I must say my Goodbyes I was not aware that his coffee may be closeo

Apologies for saying father. Please do ask the FD...has he been embalmed?

My brother died on 12 May and his funeral was 31 May (no idea why so long). Anyway we weren’t allowed to see him because of the time scale. Could be same for you.
So sorry for your loss limoges xx

I never asked about putting a letter in my dad's coffin. I ust put it in his suit pocket.

We were just told people couldn't wear shoes, spectacles and any metal items for the cremation.

I've been on a crematorium your where we were shown metal joints that had been raked out of the 'oven'.

@CoolJule43 it's a cremator and not an oven. Metal residue is recycled and the money goes to charities.

My boys put letters in for my dad.

I also only found out when my dad passed away that you can go with your loved one right up to the point of the furnace and push the button for them to go in.

Some would find it comforting to escort them I think x

You don't even have to have a funeral, you can do direct to cremation.

We put several letters/notes/photos/drawings in my DM’s coffin, along with a couple of teddy bears from the DC.

@Thehop not sure whether you're in the uk but you can't push the button here you can witness the charging but you can't get involved.

implants melt and have to be scraped off like a massive pile of goo.