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AIBU...grapes...

203 replies

LokiBear · 04/02/2018 20:26

Dd1 is 6.5. I still cut her grapes in half. She wants me to stop. She helped me make her lunch for tomorrow earlier and asked me to leave them whole. I said that she must make sure she eats them properly. I'm not sat here debating cutting them up. Wwyd?

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Ohyesiam · 04/02/2018 20:27

I would not cut them up.

GrowThroughWhatYouGoThrough · 04/02/2018 20:28

I would Cut them up 🙈 or pop something else into her lunch x

CheshireChat · 04/02/2018 20:28

I thought at 6.5 she would be ok really.

Is she normally sensible?

Fekko · 04/02/2018 20:29

I almost choked on one last week! First time in my life though but it was very unpleasant.

Original poster
LokiBear · 04/02/2018 20:30

She is very sensible. I'm a worrier. She eats well without cutlery. She is clumsy with a knife and fork, though.

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FlibbertyGiblets · 04/02/2018 20:31

I wouldn't use them in her packed lunch any more. I understand peer pressure and I understand your pov.

Zebra31 · 04/02/2018 20:31

I would cut them up.

ObiJuanKenobi · 04/02/2018 20:31

To ask when you are supposed to stop cutting up grapeshttp://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/1783240-To-ask-when-you-are-supposed-to-stop-cutting-up-grapes

There's an old thread from a few years back with some good advice on this! I would cut them up for as long as you can personally, adults can choke on grapes if they aren't concentrating!!

Fekko · 04/02/2018 20:31

I always got DS to bite grapes, baby toms and nuts.

FoxesSitOnBoxes · 04/02/2018 20:32

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-north-west-wales-35290562
No idea how to do a link but this little girl was 6 when she died

FoxesSitOnBoxes · 04/02/2018 20:32

Ooh it worked!

BrieAndChilli · 04/02/2018 20:32

Make a deal with her that she bites them in half

EB123 · 04/02/2018 20:32

I still cut for my 7 year old. I remember hearing on a radio discussion that ideally even adults should still cut them.

Slippery · 04/02/2018 20:32

I'm very, very old and still cut up grapes if I eat them, after choking on one once.

Luckyleprechaun80 · 04/02/2018 20:33

I still cut my six year olds and I have no plans to stop any time soon. I cut them length ways too, less of a chocking hazard. I was cutting them into four so I'm slightly better than I used to be Grin

Dontknowwherethelineis · 04/02/2018 20:33

I cut my dc's grapes up - they are not sensible though.... Constantly running around with food stored in cheek in manner of hamster, including grapes even though I have been telling them several times a, say since they were 18 months not to run with food in mouth.

AmberTopaz · 04/02/2018 20:33

I would stop cutting them up personally.

Original poster
LokiBear · 04/02/2018 20:33

I can't even bare to read that article. I'm cutting them up.

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Ferretsrule · 04/02/2018 20:35

A y3 child got one stuck and turned blue in the school I work in not that long ago
She's 6 if she told you she wanted to drive would you let her?

Rebeccaslicker · 04/02/2018 20:35

I would let her have them at home if she's getting teased - I remember all too well how much teasing I got at that age if my mum gave me egg sandwiches, because one girl hated the smell! I ended up eating them at break to hide them and then having no lunch.

DD is only 2 so I cut them into quarters, lengthways. She then shoves them in.... 4 at a time Hmm

meandmytinfoilhat · 04/02/2018 20:38

You're supposed to cut grapes into quarters to minimise the risk of choking.

Carry on cutting them.

Atticusss · 04/02/2018 20:58

YANBU, I'm generally too lax parenting wise, except when it comes to grapes. I call them death balls, and go ape if I find OH has let our very careless nearly 5 year old have them whole. Ive read too many of those tragic stories on children choking to death on them. I let my 10 year old have them for school snack whole but even that makes me nervous and I've told her to bite them in half.

incogKNEEto · 04/02/2018 21:10

I still cut grapes in half for all of us, including adults.

It's a small risk of choking but very serious if it does happen, so l think better safe than sorry.

I would say stop putting grapes in packed lunches and let your dd eat them at home under your supervision if you want to stop cutting them up.

StealthPolarBear · 04/02/2018 21:12

You cut up grapes for adults?!

Systemoverload99 · 04/02/2018 21:14

I make a fruit salad for my children so halve gross, chop up a kiwi and sometimes some tinned peaches. Doesn’t seem babyish if there’s more than one fruit!!!!