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AIBU?

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To wear my wedding dress to my friend's wedding?

92 replies

EmmaGrundyForPM · 04/02/2018 16:23

I got married in a registry office over 20 years ago. Not a traditional wedding. I wore a lovely green silk day dress which was knee length. It's quite a classic style so hasn't really dated.

I wore the dress a few times afterwards, which was always the plan, then had kids and never fitted into it again, but kept it anyway.

I'm currently on a diet and hoping to lose enough weight to get back into it.

I'm due to go to a friends wedding in 3 months time. I mentioned to another friend that I might wear my old wedding dress explaining that it is NOT a proper wedding dress) and she was horrified. She says it's a really off thing to do, and she thought the bride would be upset if she knew.

The bride is someone I met through work a few years ago, so wasn't at my wedding. No one at the forthcoming wedding was at my wedding. There is no way anyone would look at my dress and guess it was a wedding dress. The bride has seen a photo of me and dh on our wedding day but is unlikely to remember what I wore.

So, assuming I lose the weight and can squeeze back into it, AIBU to wear it to another wedding? Dh and I have been happily married for over 20 years so it's not like it's "unlucky".

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MargaretCavendish · 04/02/2018 18:02

I do agree that it could do with an iron (and maybe a dry clean just to freshen it up) but definitely don't be put off by the people saying it's dated - if you love it and feel confident in it then that'll show through and you'll look lovely! You will need a wrap or similar - not because it's too revealing (I don't think it is) but because the wedding you're going to is in May and might be chilly!

Bunchofdaffodils · 04/02/2018 18:09

Wear it. My 17yo dd wears quite a few of my clothes from 20-22 years ago. Apparently they’re fashionable at the moment.

Bluntness100 · 04/02/2018 18:15

Ok, I know this won't be popular, but I think it's a bit dated and not quite vintage looking yet. It also looks a bit bare/short for a wedding guest.

I think if you feel confident in it, that's great. Go for it. Personally I'd maybe get something new to celebrate your weight loss. I would assume you were just wearing quite an old dress based on the photo you provided, I'm really sorry.

Can I also ask how old you are? What suits as at one age, seldom is the best look twenty years later.

Original poster
EmmaGrundyForPM · 04/02/2018 18:23

Bluntness you're probably right! I'm now 50 so it won't necessarily suit me. I think I was just being tempted by the idea of getting into something I wore pre children!

I might see if I can get into it, take a photo and then take it to a charity shop!

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Bluntness100 · 04/02/2018 18:29

Ah no keep it.

Maybe wear it for a special night out with your husband? And get something else for the wedding?

FloralSocks · 04/02/2018 18:53

Have to agree with @Bluntness100 it is a bit short for a wedding guest, but why not wear it to another special occasion?

TalkinPeace · 04/02/2018 18:56

Read the wonderful comments by Michelle Obama about Barack barely changing his socks let alone his suit

If its the right piece of clothing for the event
WTF is it the business of anybody
where else it has been worn

challenge Princess Anne on that one if you want : she wears the same outfits she wore when I was at junior school

ILoveDolly · 05/02/2018 18:34

It looks nice and as for "dated" just because something is in fashion doesn't mean it will look good. Wear it if it will make you feel great. No one will ever guess you got married in it. I don't really see the problem

IsThisADream · 06/02/2018 15:06

Looks nice. If it fits, just wear it 😊

RadioGaGoo · 06/02/2018 15:13

Same Thistlebelle. That kilt and jacket come out an every occasion possible!

OutyMcOutface · 06/02/2018 15:15

I would be 100% ok with that.

Beetlejizz · 06/02/2018 15:54

From what you're saying it's not a very good quality photo, so it's hard to say how it looks. I'd probably want to treat myself to something new and fabulous though.

Dahlietta · 06/02/2018 17:31

I thought it was supposed to be bad luck for the bride to wear green at her wedding (obviously not you, OP!), not for anyone to wear it...

FluffyWuffy100 · 06/02/2018 17:35

I think it is a pretty dress and will look nice with a dry clean/iron.

Enjoy.

Lickedthespoon · 07/02/2018 22:28

I’d be happy for you to wear it at my wedding. Wear it and have fun x

Time40 · 07/02/2018 22:46

It's really, really nice, OP. Very elegant. It's just my sort of dress, actually - I would love it.

UrgentScurryfunge · 07/02/2018 22:54

I'd say it's more classic than dated.
If it looks and feels right on you, go for it.

(I'm loving the 90s revival, I'm still wearing plenty of originals from my 6th form days Grin)

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