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Trampoline Ettiquette

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BouncethfOFF · 04/02/2018 16:05

We've just moved into a new house and we're trying to think where to erect the kid's trampoline.
I want to put it up round the corner (L shaped garden) so we don't have the eyesore of having it directly outside our living room window..
OH says that if we put it round the corner it'll be impacting on the neighbors because it overlooks their garden, which isn't fair on them.

Who's right?

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rothbury · 04/02/2018 16:35

If it isn't in your view, how will you know the DC aren't being silly or actually injured?

littlemisscomper · 04/02/2018 16:36

You could bury your trampoline? It's safer at ground level and then your neighbours wouldn't be constantly seeing them over the fence/it would be less intrusive on the garden view.

Rudgie47 · 04/02/2018 16:37

I'd put it anywhere but say to the kids they are not allowed to scream continually when they are on it. No point pissing the neighbours off straight away.

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BouncethfOFF · 04/02/2018 16:37

I will be honest.
I don't want it too near our house because then it will be too near our decking. When we entertain, I don't want shrieking children spoiling things for us.
I'd rather they overlooked the neighbor's garden.
I'm being selfish aren't I? Blush

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TempusEejit · 04/02/2018 16:38

Very selfish of you OP.

tinydancer88 · 04/02/2018 16:39

If you don't want your own shrieking children too near your house, then why on earth would your neighbour feel any different?

FrancisCrawford · 04/02/2018 16:39

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amber90 · 04/02/2018 16:39

Yes, you're being very selfish. So you are entitled to entertain in your garden in peace and quiet without the "eyesore" but your neighbours are lumped with your screaming kids, the springs, the noise? Why not just get rid of the trampoline?

Tarraleaha · 04/02/2018 16:40

I don't want shrieking children spoiling things for us.

I have no words

kaitlinktm · 04/02/2018 16:40

I don't want shrieking children spoiling things for us.
I'd rather they overlooked the neighbor's garden.

FFS - they're YOUR children! Why should they "spoil things" for someone else but not you?

stickytoffeevodka · 04/02/2018 16:41

Wow Hmm

Toomanycats99 · 04/02/2018 16:41

I do limit my daughters time on the trampoline out of consideration for neighbours. - my 6yo likes it so she can have a conversation with the girl two doors up as she's too short to see over the fence!

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BouncethfOFF · 04/02/2018 16:41

Getting rid of the trampoline is not an option.
Childhood lasts for such a short time. Why deny them some fun?

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 04/02/2018 16:41

Well - surely the answer is that you put the trampoline near your decking, but carry it round the corner when you want to entertain. That way you get the worst of the impact on your view etc (because I think the previous posters who have said you shouldn’t make your neighbours have to put up with something you don’t want to put up with), and it is occasionally impacting on your neighbours.

Rudgie47 · 04/02/2018 16:41

Not just selfish of you but unthinking as well. Neighbours when upset can do all sorts of nasty things.

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BouncethfOFF · 04/02/2018 16:43

Nope not a troll.
I've changed name but not a troll.

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BewareOfDragons · 04/02/2018 16:43

Your DH is right.

The trampoline should not be next to a neighbours fence where children can stand/bounce and stare constantly into the neighbour's garden. It's intrusive, and I think there are actually rules in many areas about such things.

Our stupid neighbours put one up next to our fence. Their children proceeded to stand on it and stare into our garden whenever anyone walked outside - to sit, read, hang laundry, walk to the car, etc - we had words with the neighbour who initially wasn't convinced it was a problem so we told the kids to turn around and stop staring at us, stop talking at us etc whenever we went outside and they were there. The trampoline was moved shortly thereafter.

poisoningpidgeysinthepark · 04/02/2018 16:45

I'm glad you're not my neighbour. Your kids, your problem, thank you very much. If I fancied some shrieking I'd pop some out myself.

SilverySurfer · 04/02/2018 16:45

Breathtaking selfish and unreasonable Shock

JacquesHammer · 04/02/2018 16:45

Childhood lasts for such a short time. Why deny them some fun?

Don't deny them fun. Your kids, your trampoline, your inconvenience.

And hey OP, when you get sick of looking at the trampoline, you can sigh to yourself not to worry, childhood lasts for SUCH a short time Hmm

Gitfeatures · 04/02/2018 16:45

"Childhood lasts for such a short time."

Not when your next door neighbours have a trampoline.

PinkBlueYellow · 04/02/2018 16:46

Haha, I love your update! Yes you are being very selfish.

Your husband on the other hand, sounds like a good bloke.

AtseneGatnalp · 04/02/2018 16:46

Is it one "kid" or more?

Anyway. I'm afraid your OH is probably right. Ours was out of sight so I couldn't see the DC fighting on it, but nobody else could see it either. If we'd been overlooked, I'd have had to have it so that we bore the brunt of it.

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BouncethfOFF · 04/02/2018 16:46

The trampoline overlooks the neighbours garden, but their house is quite far away. Does that make a difference?
They're elderly as well so I think there will be only three months of the year, tops, that they will spend in the garden anyway.

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