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Singles table at the Spa

144 replies

LimberlostGirl · 04/02/2018 14:19

Just returned from a 2 night stay at a spa (thank you DH, lovely late Christmas present). When I went down for dinner the first night I was told that I would be sat at the ‘Singles’ table as this was what people liked. I said I would prefer a table on my own to be told this was not convenient as the place was already laid for me. I spent a rather tedious dinner making small talk with people I didn’t know or wish to know. Lots of discussion about treatments they were having. I won’t go into detail but the words colonic and irrigation came up at one point. Also debate about a couple of celebrities staying there, all ‘Oo she looks awful without make up, blimey isn’t she fat’ etc. As I left the dining room I found the room host or whatever they call them and said again I would like to sit alone for future meals.

Following morning placed again at the singles table so I said no and reminded the staff member of our conversation and another table was laid up for me with a lot of huffing and puffing. Every meal time was a battle between me and the room host dragon over seating.

As I checked out I was asked how my stay had been so I said about the meal arrangements and the receptionist said ‘Oh yes we heard that someone had been very difficult about our seating policy’.

What do others think? WIBU to ask for a table to myself? I have complained about the receptionist’s attitude already.

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PlateOfBiscuits · 04/02/2018 14:22

That would be my idea of a nightmare. YANBU.

Morphene · 04/02/2018 14:23

good grief...I hadn't realised there was anything that would make a spa trip seem less appealing to me...but you have to make small talk with random strangers too?

Count me out.

YADNBU

sexnotgender · 04/02/2018 14:24

YANBU to ask for a table on your own, WTF is a singles table.

Can you imagine men on a business trip coming down to breakfast to be told they were all on the singles table!

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 04/02/2018 14:24

Nope not at all unreasonable.

Notevilstepmother · 04/02/2018 14:26

I was given the choice when I went for a day spa. This one sounds like they don’t understand customer service.

PootlesLovelyHat · 04/02/2018 14:27

YADNBU, I think you should be given a choice. Some people would love to talk shite to strangers, others me included are more than happy in their own company.

I'd definitely complain - I thought 'the customer was always right' Confused

NataliaOsipova · 04/02/2018 14:27

It wasn't a well known spa chain that reminds me of "Damp Knees" by any chance.....?

lidoshuffle · 04/02/2018 14:27

It wasn't Champneys was it? I didn't enjoy my visit there at all, partly for the enforced communality and because it just seemed so dated despite them marketing themselves as an upmarket brand.

eurochick · 04/02/2018 14:27

Yanbu. I love eating in restaurants by myself. That sounds like my idea of a nightmare.

Rainatnight · 04/02/2018 14:28

YADNBU. What a nightmare.

Where was it?

ForalltheSaints · 04/02/2018 14:28

You were not unreasonable. Indeed the presumption that you are single is wrong in the first place.

SaucyJack · 04/02/2018 14:29

YANBU.

It shouldn't be too hard a concept for them to grasp that plenty of people go to a spa alone precisely because they want peace and quiet.

LimberlostGirl · 04/02/2018 14:29

This was considered to be a big treat for me, and it was. Facial, massage and manicure. All I wanted to do was just relax and enjoy the experience. I had taken a couple of books to read and was very happy people watching at meal times.

Has really put me off ever repeating the experience. Never I been so grateful for having a resting bitch face, no one came and bothered me when I sat alone.

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HarperFrannie · 04/02/2018 14:31

YWNBU. I'd want a table on my own too, and I would hate to sit with a group of strangers making tedious small talk. The attitude of the staff stinks, particularly the comment about you being difficult.

Let me guess - Ragdale Hall Spa? I almost went there myself once until I read about their "singles" tables

LimberlostGirl · 04/02/2018 14:31

Looking at PPs seems others have stayed at these too!

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FucksakeCuntingFuckingTwats · 04/02/2018 14:32

What spa was it?

HariboIsMyCrack · 04/02/2018 14:32

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LimberlostGirl · 04/02/2018 14:33

Was their flagship spa too! The one where all the well known people go. Bet they aren’t questioned on their wishes to sit alone.

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DoorbellsSleighbellsSchnitzel · 04/02/2018 14:33

Sounds bloody awful. Not my idea of a relaxing break at all!

honeysucklejasmine · 04/02/2018 14:33

Wtf?! What an absolute nightmare.

arethereanyleftatall · 04/02/2018 14:34

Yanbu.
It isn't remotely unusual to prefer to be on your own rather than make small talk. Especially at a spa place where you go for peace and quiet

Whatshallidonowpeople · 04/02/2018 14:34

Grayshott do this too.

LimberlostGirl · 04/02/2018 14:34

Damp Knees has it.

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SPARKS17 · 04/02/2018 14:35

I'm intrigued which spa? I went to Ragdale and had a table to myself, no mention of even sitting at a singles table.

If I had wanted company I would have gone with someone else!

PancakeInMaBelly · 04/02/2018 14:35

Eugh the whole point of going on your own is to GO ON YOUR OWN!!! I would do an online review and use the word "warning" " If you are going for peace and solitude what you will find instead is a wedding style seating plan where you can't enjoy a quiet meal in peace "