Pedophile moving next door to parents

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My parents have a very good relationship with their ndn. Have been neighbours 30+ years. However they have just been told that their relative is due to be released shortly from prison were he is serving time for pedophilia. As a child this man made some sexual innuendo comments to me but never anything further (I didn't quite understand the comments until I was older either but knew they were wrong). Just always made me feel uncomfortable.
Ndn have grandkids that visit and my parents have grandkids that visit. AIBU to be really uncomfortable about him living next door and I don't think there is anything I can do about it.

LipstickHandbagCoffee it's not harassment in the slightest if he was to pass me in the street and I loudly say he is a bad man and so on.
It's stating a legal fact. That is all. That is not harassment.
You need to recheck what harassment is.

You want you children to become bestfriends with a pedo that is your choice but its sure all hell wont be my kids.

And yes I have a slightly similar (but not the same) personal example of not speaking up and something happening to another family.
So I will just say everyone can be over careful of not getting into trouble. Than saying a gut feeling etc

I do not need to recheck anything. Harassment is the act of imposing unwanted communications and contact upon a victim in a manner that could be expected to cause distress or fear in any reasonable person.

You need to have a serious,sensible think about why you cannot verbally berate another adult

I get you find it reprehensible but that doesn’t in itself permit you to harass him

As I said you’ll expend emotional energy, upset your kids,and it’s pointless

People are too worried about of ending people nowadays so instead stay quiet and take risk

It's got nothing to do with not offending people
But if you think antagonizing someone who has done 20 years in prison makes you SAFER then I disagree

You want you children to become bestfriends with a pedo that is your choice but its sure all hell wont be my kids.

Not a single person on this thread has suggested anything of the sort.
Quite the opposite in fact, YOU are the one saying you would place yourself and your children firmly on his radar.

They are already on his radar.
The mother had already had inappropriate communication from him. The children will be identified as soon as they go to dgm with their mum.

Also the fact that shaming him loudly he will avoid my children as he would be my first port of call if my children came to harm.

I think this is extremely naiive.
As others have said, 20 years implies very violent acts. He wasn't just taking pictures with a telescopic lense!
Antagonizing a violent person does not tend to make them just stay out of your way!

Also it sounds distressing for your kids to be part of your public rants at himg
(And makes them not one iota safer)

In fact it could even give some grooming info "your mum has quite a temper doesnt she, does she ever shout at you too?"

Antagonizing a violent person

A violent person to children.
Personal experience again. They will install fear etc in children because they can.
When challenged by an adult they are usually the meak mild not me character.

You go about it your way
I go about it mine.
But I hope nither are ever in this situation.

I'm sorry you're going through this op It would be awful for anyone, under any circumstances to hear this news.

From what I'm reading, this man sexually abused you as a child by speaking to you in a sexual way. This isn't just a random 'bogey man', it's someone who violated you. I can't imagine the horror of knowing the person who abused me would have any access at all to my children.

As awful as that experience was, it might potentially help you find a way of out this? If you're feeling strong enough, you could report what he said to you. That would make you one of his victims, and possible affect whether he's allowed to move next door to your parents? I don't know loads about it, but I thought it was worth mentioning, and might be something you could take advice on.

So sorry this is happening to you.

Sorry this is happening, OP. Personally I would no longer take my children there, but if you have to just keep them in. I wouldn't go pointing him out to my kids though, that's a very odd thing to do.

Well I would certainly be telling my children that he is a bad man and they must not speak to him and if he speaks to them they must not answer him