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To have warmed to Camilla, Duchess of Cornwall

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octonaught · 04/02/2018 09:15

I am old enough to remember the Diana years really clearly, including Charles & Diana’s wedding.
At the time I thought Camilla was awful “there were 3 of us in this marriage, so it was a bit crowded” said Diana, the media minx.
All 3 players, Diana, Charles & Camilla were victims of the protocols of the time, ie the future Queen needed to basically be a Virgin, & Charles & Diana basically had an arranged marriage, which just didn’t work out, but due to their position they weren’t allowed to quietly go their separate ways.
Charles & Camilla have —officially— been together over 20 years. Camilla has kept her head down & they look like a very happy couple.

I don’t know about the political ramifications of Camilla being queen or not. But as a person, she seems ok.

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Slartybartfast · 04/02/2018 11:13

I have always liked Camilla.
Feel sorry for Charles and the position he was in, the protocol. I thought Charles went away and Camilla married APB as she wasn't a virgin anyway and thus wasnt suitable.
Diana behaved badly, a woman scorned
i also like Lady Sarah Chatto

Slartybartfast · 04/02/2018 11:14

Diana's family would not have prevented the marriage.

x2boys · 04/02/2018 11:17

I think both Charles and Camilla have come out of it all remarkably well ,considering when Diana died she was at the height of popularity and all that Queen of hearts shite and the public outpouring of grief Hmm

Paintspotsonthefloor · 04/02/2018 11:19

The whole Charles Diana Camilla business was a complete shambles from beginning to end. None of them come out better than anyone else in my opinion. Whatever criticisms you can throw at William and Kate, at least they come across as a couple who genuinely love each other, so at least he has escaped the trauma of his dysfunctional family. Harry, on the other hand........

My only impression of Camilla now is that I wish she would do something to her hair. Like Jilly Cooper and Princess Anne, she seems to have stuck with the hair style she had in the 1970s and it is long overdue for a change. Which is a bit rich coming from me who cares little about my own appearance, but if I was going to have to any degree a public life, I would make some effort!

x2boys · 04/02/2018 11:21

I think the Queen has also had the same hairdo since year dot?

Paintspotsonthefloor · 04/02/2018 11:22

True. Hers seems more timeless though?

TheNaze73 · 04/02/2018 11:22

I think Camilla is great

CrazyExIngenue · 04/02/2018 11:27

I think, at the end of the day, the fact that William and Harry seem pretty stable, respectful towards their partners, and appear to show no ill will to Camilla, is a sign that despite all the media and public furor about the affair/s, that within the family there's forgiveness and understanding. Most kids raised in a situation like that would be pretty f-up when it came to relationships, etc. William and Harry don't seem like that. So someone must have done something right in that whole shebang.

x2boys · 04/02/2018 11:31

Well hopefully the royal family have realised its better to allow William and Harry etc to pick their own partners? It seems inconceivable just a generation or so ago Harry would have been allowed to marry a divorcee in view of the abdication and Princess Margaret etc but good luck to them!

battenbergbutterfly · 04/02/2018 11:34

I think she's great and they look very very happy together.

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AnnaMagnani · 04/02/2018 11:35

I understood Anne and Tim Lawrence were basically not together anymore and she was with APB.

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honeyroar · 04/02/2018 11:37

Ive always liked her. It's a shame Charles wasn't allowed to marry her in the first place. I do feel sorry for Diana, she was treated dreadfully all round. I always find it shocking that her family let her marry into that mess at 29, but her family havent shown themselves to be the brightest bunch in general. I didn't like Diana, but she had no hope really, she was never equipt to deal with being a Royal, she was just a dreamy little girl. I think Camilla has more class in her little finger though.

CrazyExIngenue · 04/02/2018 11:37

Well hopefully the royal family have realised its better to allow William and Harry etc to pick their own partners?

I think it's deeper than that though. The people I know whose parents had affairs are generally pretty cagey and relationship phobic, and have little to do with the parent who had the affair, much less their partner. I know a bit of this will be keeping up appearances, but I don't think you can chalk it all down to that.

x2boys · 04/02/2018 11:37

Really Anna? They really all do piss in the same pot don't they?

EastMidsMummy · 04/02/2018 11:37

I have no idea how anyone can either like or not like someone they’ve never met and who only reveals a sliver of what must be their true personality in public. None of you have the first idea what she’s like.

Slartybartfast · 04/02/2018 11:39

She doesn't hog the limelight for a start

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 04/02/2018 11:45

Wasn't Rupert Campbell-Black supposedly based on AP-B?

The Parker-Bowles lived near my parents and when all the Camillagate stuff came out in the papers, she was apparently 'pelted with buns' at our local Sainsburys. I was only 11 or 12 at the time but I always remember that whenever I see her...

scaryteacher · 04/02/2018 11:47

Team Diana here as well. I was married at 20, and if I had discovered my husband had an OW right from the start of our marriage, I would have been devastated. Unlike Diana, I could have walked. She was trapped.

You just don't do that to another woman, especially a young and vulnerable one.

MapleLeafRag · 04/02/2018 11:48

What jam doughnuts or currant buns?

x2boys · 04/02/2018 11:49

Yes i read the same regarding Rupert Cambell-black LadyMonica with Rupert Cambell-black was significantly better looking in my imagination than A P-BGrin

IAmLucy · 04/02/2018 11:50

@EastMidsMummy but isn't that the case for any person? Obviously we know much less about someone in the public eye than someone we know in person but you form opinion on someone based on what they show you surely? Camilla might be a complete arsehole behind closed doors but so might my boss/next door neighbor/ daughters teacher etc etc I don't know I just go off how they come across to me.

Mrsdraper1 · 04/02/2018 11:55

I think that Diana was young and naive and hadn't a clue what she was getting herself into. The way she was treated was unkind.
I blame Charles as he was older and knew what he was doing. He didn't love her but he pretended to and she believed him. He should have picked someone who was stronger and been honest.
Later in her life she decided not to lie down and take it anymore and she used the media because that was the only thing she had, given that the establishment was against her. She was a nice person and didn't deserve what happened. She didn't go into it with her eyes open.
I don't like or dislike Camilla. She keeps a low profile. Her being Duchess of Cornwall is the title that Edward VIII proposed being given to Wallis Simpson.
I wonder if Charles will live long enough to be king as the Queen is still going strong and her mother lived to a ripe old age.

derxa · 04/02/2018 11:56

No I can never warm to her. Have any of you seen footage of her in her fox hunting days? 'I'll hit you with my bull whip'. Grim.

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