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Pissed off with reaction to present?

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LolitaChi · 03/02/2018 18:37

Bought friend birthday present. She opened it and literally looked at it in disgust and just muttered thanks and shoved it back in the bag.

Genuinely thought I’d bought her something she would like - obviously not. Which is fine and you can’t help what you like or dislike but surely most people would at least pretend to like it?

It’s annoyed me so much that I’ve text her to apologise. Aibu?

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Bogmoppit · 04/02/2018 00:00

I know someone who was given a Slendertone stomach exerciser. The most hardcore, expensive model. It was her MIL and was given to her at the family party. She opened it in front of everyone and no, she hadn't requested it.

Bogmoppit · 04/02/2018 00:01

Are you a bit of an arse though, all jokey and insensitive?

Was it something you thought was funny and actually was quite mean???

Bogmoppit · 04/02/2018 00:03

My mum gave me two books about cleaning your house and how to be a better housewife. She did her usual shit psychology bollocks - hey Bog, i thought these looked really interesting, i thought we could read them together!

I'm about 30 years past needing to read a book with my mum.

WitchIwasaWitch18 · 04/02/2018 08:55

Hey Bog get your Mum "If women rose rooted* and say I've a better idea let's read this together. What is she? Stuck in the 1950s believing girls babies are born clutching a mop and a dishcloth?

My Mum is like that. Wrinkles her nose at my home and sneaks in when I'm not there to bleach everywhere so hard it burns your feet to walk and all the windows and doors have to be left open even if it's freezing. Hate it so much. All the interference. She knows I hate it and also am anti nasty chemicals.

Starlighter · 04/02/2018 09:00

Was it a scented candle and/or a box of chocolates?! I hate those! Most boring and thoughtless presents ever!

Primarkismyonlyoption · 04/02/2018 09:04

Star they are nice tho!

StickThatInYourPipe · 04/02/2018 09:09

Was it a scented candle and/or a box of chocolates?! I hate those! Most boring and thoughtless presents ever!

Ah see I agree with you on this is it’s birthday or Christmas but if it’s just a ‘oh I saw this and thought you would like it’ then scented candles are okay, especially if they are unusual ones ie, not from the supermarket haha!

gingergenius · 04/02/2018 09:29

@Bogmoppit I could do with one of those!!

gingergenius · 04/02/2018 09:30

Maybe we could set up a mumsnet swap shop - and swap out all our unwanted gifts!!!!

FrancisCrawford · 04/02/2018 09:41

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ZaZathecat · 04/02/2018 10:19

Was it a damp squib?

Justturned50 · 04/02/2018 11:46

Zaza looks like it might have been.

TheStoic · 04/02/2018 12:00

It’s annoyed me so much that I’ve text her to apologise.

Words can’t describe how much I love that ^^ Grin. I bet at least the first three drafts of that text were all caps.

Just waiting for the (next instalment) response.

Shadow666 · 04/02/2018 12:06

Did we still not find out what the present was?

Abracadabraapileofbollocks · 04/02/2018 12:13

Did you leave the security tags on? I have a relative that cannot find a LOT of receipts. Hmm

AnnDerry · 04/02/2018 12:20

@Grilledaubergines

I got your text “OP”. What do you want me to say? No one wants a side-winding thermal body belt for their birthday.

Where on earth did you get it? I've scoured shops for them, but can I find one? Can I buffalo!

Thesmallthings · 04/02/2018 12:47

ginandgingerbeer I brought my best mate one of those mugs.... the handle was a c...then had unt written on...

She was most excited and almost pissed glitter.

FilledSoda · 04/02/2018 14:29

Did your friend reply to the apology text?
I undertook why you sent it , it is passive aggressive of course and intended to be but it gives the other party the option to pretend to take it at face value and puts you on the back foot.
Honestly I don't know what I would have said in your shoes. The ideal time is straight away but you don't want to do it in front of other guests.
I hate opening gifts in front of people and worry that my enthusiasm will be perceived as fake , which it is but only because I'm feeling self conscious.

Grilledaubergines · 04/02/2018 14:59

Ann wasn’t she just the best!

AnnDerry · 04/02/2018 15:07

She was, Grilledaubergines. Much loved and much missed (and quoted every day in this house even by teen DC)

Grilledaubergines · 04/02/2018 15:42

Here too! Many a threat of “tidy your room or I’ll beat you on the bottom with the Woman’s Weekly” when the DC we’re younger Grin

Or-

“what are you doing Mum”

“I’m looking for my friend...her name’s Kimberley. ‘Ave you seen ‘er”!

GentleJones · 04/02/2018 17:33

How rude!

I’m kind of glad she obviously doesn’t like it, CF!

Persistentdonor · 04/02/2018 17:33

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Jojofjo44 · 04/02/2018 17:36

Ffs what was the present Op? It is essential that you draw a diagram of where you both were standing also

MiddleClassProblem · 04/02/2018 17:39

Was it a Dail Mail subscription?

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