To miss my DD after she’s gone to bed

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My DD is 5 and gets energy from an alternative source. If I could bottle what she runs on I’d be a billionaire. She was always ‘that kid’ who was climbing the bookcase or looking into people’s cupboards or running across the road.

I have always found her exhausting but amazing. By bedtime (which always seems to take 2 hours, no matter what I do) I can’t wait to see the back of her. But then about an hour later I totally miss her.

AIBU? Does every parent feel like this?

Yes and always feel guilty at what I could have done better throughout the day

Normal I think

She sounds just like my DS 6, I always miss my boys when they're in bed. Just been in to give them a quick kiss while they're asleep

Erm...no I definitely don't miss them when they're in bed...

Aww OP that’s lovely. I feel exactly the same about DS. I’m exhausted by time put him to bed but then I miss him and need to hug him. He’s 11 months old and I don’t know what I’ll do when he goes to
Nursery! It’s going to kill me!!

stop. I feel guilty. I"m only happy when my kids are asleep or i'm getting ready to go out.

Yes Mrsfloss I know the guilty feeling too! Every time she says ‘Mummy...’ and I’m like ‘WHAT?’

Aaaw thats really sweet
I did feel that way when Grandma took the DC's on holiday, and by day 3 I was bored witless and counting down the days til they got home.

I do that too Aliasgrace!

It's liking the idea of them better than the reality

I'm sitting here missing DS right now. He's snoring away upstairs. I'll probably go up for a cuddle soon!

(2 hours OP! Poor you. Have you tried going earlier? My sister's boy was like that, never wanted to sleep. He's a young man now and still doesn't need much/)

Yeah, mine is 7 and gorgeous. I’d sleep in next to her every night if I could but hubby would get grumpy being banished to the spare room!

I miss mine once she’s in bed, i occasionally go in and pick her up for a snuggle. She’s 18m old

Nope. I happily tuck all mine into bed. Grab snacks and put my favourite programmes on

I love my evenings and am happy that he sleeps but yes me too!

Mybrilliantdisguise - that’s exactly what it is! I look at all the cute photos of her on my phone and I forget the other hours and hours of shouting and cajoling!

I've seen a card along the lines of 'Of course I have a favourite child, it's the one that's sleeping'. I miss DD when she is asleep but I don't actually want her to wake up.

I do too!! I have three dc and I count down the hours to bed time. Then after about 2 hours i have to creep in and sniff them tuck them in cause I miss their little faces.

My 11 month old misses me, it appears. Up every 2-3hrs just to check in/bf. It's lovely, in a way, but I could do with the opportunity to miss her just a little bit.

Mumpoints - I do try earlier but then she finds lots of ‘reasons’ she has to get out of bed. I finally accepted the fact that she just doesn’t want to go to sleep that early - the bonus is she wakes up at 7.30-8ish every morning.

No, never . I do if she goes for a sleepover though.

Orange daisy - DD was like that at that age. Now she sleeps 10-11 hours and never gets up in the night. So there’s light at the end of the tunnel!

Errrr.... this is utterly alien to me.

Kids asleep= adult relax. I don’t miss mine when they are in bed!!

Don’t get me wrong people, I would be furious if she care in now!

Came in not care in.

Ha we do this. Battle to get them to sleep then spend the evening looking at pics/videos of them