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AIBU?

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Hotel advertising their restaurant is within range of baby monitors

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Teakind · 01/02/2018 13:12

Hello,

I was looking at booking a short break in the UK and found a hotel along the south coast that offers 'baby breaks' as their rooms are close to the restaurant and so most baby monitors would work. AIBU to think this is odd and irresponsible?

I can see the argument that it's a small hotel and so the distance could be similar to being in your lounge and the baby being upstairs but it just doesn't sit comfortably with me. Any weirdo could also see parents sitting at a table with a baby monitor and know that there is a baby/child alone in a room somewhere.

Just interested to see what other people think and I do have a tendency to over worry!

OP posts:

Rawhh · 01/02/2018 13:38

Incredibly irresponsible.

I am a Hotel GM with Safe Guarding training.

If anything happened to a child in a room after they have permitted children to be left unattended the law would come down on them like a tonne of bro.

It's so dangerous the 2 main reasons are in Case of fire - what if there is a fire blocking access to the room to retrieve child? Secondly, hotels rarely keep track of their master keys properly. It would be easy for some one yo gain access to the room with horrible motives.

Rawhh · 01/02/2018 13:38

*bricks not bros

ClaryFray · 01/02/2018 13:39

Seriously, did they learn nothing from Maddie McCan case?

Incredibly stupid. But people will do it sadly

PinkHeart5914 · 01/02/2018 13:41

I would never do it, It feels so wrong leaving a child alone without an adult near by to keep them safe but on holiday I have seen many people do it so obviously there is a market for it

nextDayDelivery · 01/02/2018 13:48

I don't see the issue and did this before. What's the difference between that and leaving your child asleep on a different floor of your house or in the house when you're in the garden.

"Seriously, did they learn nothing from Maddie McCan case?"

Yes, a single incident is not enough to base your life choices on.

RedHelenB · 01/02/2018 13:51

I don't see an issue particularly if the hotel is small. Madeleine Macann was very different, certainly not within range of a baby monitor, left when her parents knew the twins had been crying the night before and in an unlocked apartment within range of the sea .

FluffyWuffy100 · 01/02/2018 13:51

Several hotels offer 'listening hotels' don't they? I'm not sure that "won't anyone think of Maddy" is a very rational response to the risk.

taskmaster · 01/02/2018 13:54

I don't see the issue with it at all.

SweetMoon · 01/02/2018 13:56

It must be close to the rooms and I dont see the problem if you have a baby monitor and your baby is asleep in a locked room, going a few doors down for dinner. Its no different to if you were at home or at someone elses house. Many a time we've been to friends for dinner and put the dc to bed in a spare bedroom and then resumed dinner downstairs with a baby monitor to listen in if anyone woke up.

mindutopia · 01/02/2018 13:56

This is often a pretty standard feature of 'family friendly' hotels. I've not seen them mentioning the baby monitors per se, but many offer a listening in service, which means that the staff in the hotel know your children are unattended (and have keys to access your room), though they are supposed to alert you to go up if your child wakes and not go up themselves. Personally, I would never do it myself. If we want a relaxing dinner on a holiday, we book a cottage and go get a take away. But parents aren't stupid. The ones who opt for these things know exactly how it works and if that's their choice, that's their choice. I wouldn't be worrying yourself about it though.

That1950sMum · 01/02/2018 13:57

Not something I would do, but the Madeleine McCann reference is ludicrous.

allthgoodusernamesaretaken · 01/02/2018 14:00

Any weirdo could also see parents sitting at a table with a baby monitor and know that there is a baby/child alone in a room somewhere

Honestly I think the risk of that happening is tiny. Risk of fire is probably a greater concern. But I agree I wouldn't use a baby monitor in a hotel

MsHeliotrope · 01/02/2018 14:00

Sounds like a great hotel and if I had small dc I would want to go there.

MM did not have a baby monitor

IkeaGrinch · 01/02/2018 14:02

What's the difference between that and leaving your child asleep on a different floor of your house or in the house when you're in the garden.

For starters, I know exactly who has keys to my house. When I stay in a hotel I have no idea who has keys to my room - housekeeping, reception, security, maintenance staff etc.

Abra1de · 01/02/2018 14:02

We’ve stayed here years ago.

It was great!

SleepFreeZone · 01/02/2018 14:05

The people scaremongering on here are the same people who take all their children with them across a busy forecourt to pay for petrol. As it’s safer than being out the car for four minutes.

Lethaldrizzle · 01/02/2018 14:12

Great idea! If I still needed baby monitors I'd go there like a shot

taskmaster · 01/02/2018 14:12

Any weirdo could also see parents sitting at a table with a baby monitor and know that there is a baby/child alone in a room somewhere

And they would then have to break into every room to find out which, without being seen, and then somehow snatch a child with no-one seeing them in a small hotel full of people, all silently so as not to be heard on the baby monitor that the parents have.

Come on now, try logic.

QuiteLikely5 · 01/02/2018 14:14

Fgs.

RedialCallHold · 01/02/2018 14:19

I wouldn't judge people who do this but I wouldn't do it myself, mainly because I'm an over paranoid worrier who wouldn't relax thinking of all the things that could go wrong (monitor breaking etc)

gillybeanz · 01/02/2018 14:20

They can offer what they like and aren't responsible for your childcare solutions.
How can they be irresponsible when they aren't responsible in the first place.
Some people might be happy with this, others might not.
just go and check on your child when you want to, or don't leave them

IkeaGrinch · 01/02/2018 14:20

Come on now, try logic.

Logic? Sure. Criminal is aware that hotel suggest parents can leave children unattended in rooms. Watches to see which room parents walk out of with baby monitor in hand. Now knows perfectly well which room has an unsupervised child sleeping in it.

RedialCallHold · 01/02/2018 14:21

Though having just typed that there are a lot of posters who always say it's no different to leaving your child upstairs in your house, that depends on the size of the house! Mines tiny so my kids have always been close, maybe that's part of the reason?

ButterflyOnTheWindow · 01/02/2018 14:25

Whilst I can see the appeal. . . . .
I would never have done it myself.

Its no different to if you were at home or at someone elses house

It is different though. You know who's in your house and someone else's house.

mumblechum0 · 01/02/2018 14:28

Is it bad that the first thing I thought was it was Unreasonable because I wouldn't want to hear other peoples' babies howling whilst I'm eating dinner

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