Aeroflotgirl, this is the problem many of us men have.
We want equality full stop, not just for women, but for all (race, age, creed etc), but we are also mindful that not every guy in the world wants that, and that men have tended to dominate and exploit women throughout history.
So when some women tell us 'these girls might think they are choosing of their own freewill, but it's the men who have created a society some women allow themselves to be objectified' (paraphrasing) - then where does that leave us? Damned if we say 'yeah go for it, it's your choice' and damned if we say 'hmm, we don't want to create a society that still applies pressure to women to be objectified, so let's ban it!'