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Original poster

Aibu to be annoyed with mother....

80 replies

Mummymulb16 · 31/01/2018 09:38

Who said she would look after my lil one and then when the day comes she says no because he is sick! Also she is staying with me so not like I’m asking her to give up her time! Also she has been staying on and off for a few months and I have been doing everything for her to feel welcome and the one time I ask her a favour she makes me feel like I’m putting other before my lil one and she never offers to have him on his own unless I’m doing the school run! I’m just annoyed as I do so much for her and she just acts so weird when I ask her to look after the kids almost like she doesn’t want to but never says the words NO!

OP posts:
Angrybird345 · 31/01/2018 09:48

You're cross that she won't look after your DC because she is ill.....really??

Why is she staying with you so much?

Idontdowindows · 31/01/2018 09:48

I think it's not unreasonable to be annoyed with the way communication is going. Does she have form for saying yes and doing no?

ShutUpBaz · 31/01/2018 09:50

Erm....YABU. Look after your own poorly child?

She has no obligation to look after your children at any point if she doesn't want to.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 31/01/2018 09:53

Can't get past lil.

PsychoPumpkin · 31/01/2018 09:54

I think YABU. You can’t exoect someone to look after your child if they are sick. I wouldn’t look after someone else’s sick child.

Original poster
Mummymulb16 · 31/01/2018 09:57

Angrybird, no she isn’t Ill its my lil one that is sick!
Also she is staying with me so much because she thinks she is helping me holding the baby while I cook and clean and go toilet! Which I don’t really need help with but In her mind she thinks she’s helping ! Besides that I think she also wants to spend time with me and grandkids and also coz she doesn’t like being in her home( long story about others who also live in the house)!
I’m just annoyed that she can’t ever offer or just say outright yes I will you go and do what you need to!

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 31/01/2018 10:01

Little. The word is little.

LambMadras · 31/01/2018 10:05

Lil
Grrrrr

Alison100199 · 31/01/2018 10:05

YABU. She's ill.

SandAndSea · 31/01/2018 10:09

lil one

YABU using this phrase.

Original poster
Mummymulb16 · 31/01/2018 10:10

LITTLE- happy now you moody bunch!

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 31/01/2018 10:17

Not moody in the slightest. Just can't stand the word lil Smile

StormTreader · 31/01/2018 10:23

"The lil is ill" just to watch everyone squirm with me Grin

Lemonnaise · 31/01/2018 10:24

What a bunch or rude, sanctimonious people on this thread. Do you all feel better now for belittling the OP? Well done.

OP YANBU. Your mother should be helping you out when she can, she's bloody living under your roof for god's sake.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 31/01/2018 10:25
GreatDuckCookery6211 · 31/01/2018 10:25

Belittling? Don't be silly.

Rosielily · 31/01/2018 10:27

Belilling!!! Smile

MovinOn · 31/01/2018 10:31

I think it all depends why you want/need her to babysit?? And how poorly little one is??

If you have a medical appointment/job interview/etc then she is a bit unreasonable.

If LO has sniffles and not too poorly then she is being a bit unreasonable (again depending on what you plan on doing)

If LO is puking up...then YABU..no-one wants to be cleaning up other children's sick.

If lo is really upset at being poorly, and all they want is mummy cuddles then YABU

If you just wanted a morning off to go mooch around shops....YABU

Falmer · 31/01/2018 10:31

Sorry to hear you're dc is ill, what's wrong with him/her? Is it something your mum can't cope with?

Maursh · 31/01/2018 10:32

No, YANBU
You had a commitment from someone to look after your child. This person has reneged on the commitment because the child is unwell (presumably with nothing serious?).

Blackteadrinker77 · 31/01/2018 10:34

I agree that grand parents don't have to watch their grand children but your Mum is being very unreasonable to agree then go back on her word.

MrsPreston11 · 31/01/2018 10:39

I'd go back on my word to look after a child if they were vomiting.

I can NOT cope with vomit from a child other than my own (not quite sure exactly how I hold it together when it is from my own offspring....must be magic)

The thought and the word "lil" combined are making me feel rather queasy.

Original poster
Mummymulb16 · 31/01/2018 10:46

Yes he is vomiting he has a cold and she has been holding him while he has been sick and she has cleaned up the mess just like I have too! If you don’t want to look after a sick child I get it but then don’t go near them then when it suits you ! Also she hasn’t said to me oh what other day would you rather go to see your manager at work now that he is not as bad ! Basically she hasn’t mentioned it at all and it’s been 2 days! It’s like she’s hoping I will forget about it!

Oh and get of your high horses Over the use of lil one it’s the same as using abbreviations!

OP posts:
Falmer · 31/01/2018 10:52

Maybe she has forgotten it, OP. Hope ds feels better soon.

Getoutofthatgarden · 31/01/2018 10:52

Belittling? Don't be silly

I have to agree with pp....that is exactly what you were doing. Not nice.