to be freaking out two days after a bikini wax?

[themightymelt]

Hello- long time observer and first time poster here.

Early 20s and 30 weeks pregnant.

I hope I'm posting in the right topic and sorry if it's a bit long but I would rather explain thoroughly than dripfeed.

I've gotten to the stage where I can't see my 'lady garden' in the shower because my bump is in the way. It was nearly 2 months before I groomed down below (laziness, tiredness) so on Sunday I decided to go to get a hollywood wax, I got it all off down below and it felt great.

It's now Tuesday and I had just got out of the shower this evening and decided to take a small mirror to down below to see how she's looking. Upon doing so I was horrified. Small red bumps and what turned my stomach was dozens of whiteheads. They weren't near my clitoris or labia but all on the 'mon pubis' (I believe that's what it is called) they're all over the skin covering my pubic bone. They stretch right up to just immediately under my bump. I'm such an anxious person. I understand people can get red bumps after waxing- but the whiteheads filled with puss? My skin down there was fine before the wax and the few hours afterwards. I only noticed this evening. It's definitely not an STI I haven't been sexually active since realizing I was pregnant. I will get to a doctor ASAP this week but just wondering AIBU to be freaking out over this? It may sound pathetic but I'm just worrying because I hope it doesn't affect baby because it's in such an intimate area. Any advice welcomed with open arms x

You don’t need a doctor! Just someone to squeeze them! Or, a hot flannel rub and sudocrem, something like that. They’ll go soon don’t worry!

You probably don't need to rush to a doctor. Spots are a common side effect of waxing.

Hmmm sounds like your skin really didnt like being disrupted. Stroking my chin as to what to advise.

(Am slightly wtf that not mithering one's pubic hair = 'laziness')

Get an exfoliating glove and give it a rub in small circular motions.

FlibbertyGiblets pre and early pregnancy I liked to keep it bare but later on I just wasn't bothered. I had great intentions of shaving in the shower but then when I got into the shower I just wasn't bothered and thought it was a massive effort. It was like a jungle down there and made me feel uncomfortable but now id rather the hair back if it meant all these little whiteheads weren't occupying my nether regions.

MrsMaxwell Italiancortado FuckyNellYaBastad thank you for the advice. I'm just a nervous Nelly when it comes to any change.

Exfoliating glove will make them go - your baby will be fine.

You don’t need a doctor. Exfoliate well in the shower with a glove or loofah and apply some moisturiser afterwards. You will be fine.

Exfoliate and then dab some tea tree oil diluted in water on with a cotton wool ball to keep them from becoming infected.

Check first if tea tree oil is ok for pregnancy. I’m not sure if it is.

Now wondering if I'm supposed to maintain my lady garden while heavily pregnant? I can barely reach it never mind see it! It's been left to its own devices for about five months now...

Exfoliate like a fucker, in a circular motion. Honestly, it's mostly that. And can be down to the waxer too - I've had some fairly horrific post-wax experiences with some. Others I've not had a single ingrowing hair from. And the obvious advice of avoiding heat, tight clothing etc for 24hrs afterwards.

Honestly, it happens, and it's awful. You feel like you look worse than you did before. No need for a doctor, just keep it clean, aired, try not to pick. Advice from someone who's permanently scarred her bikini line in the depths of pus horror

Agapanthus1984 if it doesn't bother you I wouldn't bother with you. My urge to wax down there all started with the idea in my head if I need stitches after delivering baby- would be easier if I was somewhat tidier down below. I have dark thick curly hear with the drapes to match unfortunately. My hair grows at a ridiculous speed and even worse now during pregnancy. Just personal preference really

PutUpWithRain Thank you. I'll pick up some exfoliating gloves tomorrow at go at it

This is the exact problem I have with any waxing in that area, it is horrendous and takes a while to clear / leaves scars. I would definitelynAVOID tea tree in will sting

I am a bit of a hairy Mary in that area too but being somewhat older than you have never been too concerned about it except on the rare occasions I have been on a beach in a climate that would make wearing a swimming costume an option. After all my births I needed a certain amount of stitching and the midwives who stitched me were equally adept at trimming off any hair that got in the way.

I feel so sorry for all you younger women today. The pressure to be perfectly groomed in areas I never even thought about causes so much expense and anxiety.

Don't rub yourself raw, just do as MrsMaxwell says - small circular motions with a flannel in the shower. Tea tree oil is good for any that become seriously inflamed - it took me two years to find a decent salon that didn't leave me looking horrific - one waxer said to me 'gosh, your hairs are REALLY thick and strong, no wonder you have so many problems after a wax.' Unable to think of anything appropriate to say, I replied 'thank you!' as though she'd complimented me.

There was then an awkward silence of about twenty minutes, broken only by her asking me to get on all fours and hold my arse cheeks apart.

Sounds like there's bacteria in the follicles. See if you can get some hibiscrub or similar anti bacterial wash and very gently exfoliate with this and warm water to clear the puss then keep washing with the hibiscrub until it's cleared. Do not put moisturiser on it as the follicles will be open and inflamed. Don't go back to the place you had it done again just to be safe.

www.boots.com/hibiscrub-skin-cleanser-250ml-1-bottle-10086267

It sounds a bit like a Herpes Primary Outbreak. These can be brought on by pregnancy and trauma to the skin (waxing) whilst pregnant increases the likelihood of an outbreak. A GUM consultant informed us once that 90% of the population has Herpes dormant within our system and is nothing to be ashamed of.

I would mention it to your Midwife. If it is a Primary Outbreak of Herpes then you'll possibly need to be admitted if you begin to have issues urinating.

Beauty therapist here. Really common to have spots after a wax if you aren’t a regular waxer. It’s quite a shock to the follicles. You can squeeze them or just leave them. Nothing to worry about though.

TheLampShadeLady does spots just go for the red spots or does that include the ones with the white heads? I'm going to exfoliate gently with a flannel and something antibacterial.. should it last long? Thank you for the reassurance. I have sensitive enough skin but my skin has never reacted this drastically to something before but realise now waxing is quite traumatic to the skin/ follicles

I had the same on my face () after a treatment. They went on their own after 3 days. Don't aggressively exfoliate it or anything.

I'm sorry I mean no disrespect but you've made an uncomfortable 37 week pregnant woman laugh 😂😂😂😂😂 oh of the things a waxer to say

I feel so sorry for all you younger women today. The pressure to be perfectly groomed in areas I never even thought about causes so much expense and anxiety.

Loonoonow Congratulations on mastering the art of being patronising and condescending.

I’m late twenties and you absolutely do not need to feel sorry for me. I don’t wax but I do shave every couple of days so there’s never any hair down there. I do this because I prefer the look and feel and enjoy it more, not due to any societal pressure. It doesn’t incur me any great expense (I use slightly more shaving cream than I would otherwise, but that’s it) and it causes me no anxiety.

Save your pity for someone who actually needs it.

Whattodo on a thread where pregnant women are anxious about having been too ‘lazy’ to remove their pubic hair, you can’t say there isn’t social pressure about this issue.

Well done for you if you are immune to it and your decision is all your own choicy choice, but you can’t deny it’s an issue for others.

google folliculitis, thats what it is. my DP had it on his neck a few weeks ago from barber. pharmacist recommended sudocrem. you dont have to pop each spot! (although i popped his because im weird like that)