to be freaking out two days after a bikini wax?

[themightymelt]

Hello- long time observer and first time poster here.

Early 20s and 30 weeks pregnant.

I hope I'm posting in the right topic and sorry if it's a bit long but I would rather explain thoroughly than dripfeed.

I've gotten to the stage where I can't see my 'lady garden' in the shower because my bump is in the way. It was nearly 2 months before I groomed down below (laziness, tiredness) so on Sunday I decided to go to get a hollywood wax, I got it all off down below and it felt great.

It's now Tuesday and I had just got out of the shower this evening and decided to take a small mirror to down below to see how she's looking. Upon doing so I was horrified. Small red bumps and what turned my stomach was dozens of whiteheads. They weren't near my clitoris or labia but all on the 'mon pubis' (I believe that's what it is called) they're all over the skin covering my pubic bone. They stretch right up to just immediately under my bump. I'm such an anxious person. I understand people can get red bumps after waxing- but the whiteheads filled with puss? My skin down there was fine before the wax and the few hours afterwards. I only noticed this evening. It's definitely not an STI I haven't been sexually active since realizing I was pregnant. I will get to a doctor ASAP this week but just wondering AIBU to be freaking out over this? It may sound pathetic but I'm just worrying because I hope it doesn't affect baby because it's in such an intimate area. Any advice welcomed with open arms x

Thanks ladies I feel much better about it now x

Your skin can be much more sensitive during pregnancy, OP. That's why you're not supposed to colour your hair without a test, for example, because you can suddenly react to something you've been fine with before. That's probably it!

www.babycentre.co.uk/x557907/is-it-safe-to-have-a-bikini-or-leg-wax-in-pregnancy

Just hold a hot flannel against them for a few minutes. Then apply anti-ingrowing hair paste or witch hazel (PURE witch hazel, not the stuff with alcohol in it).

This is why I go Full Bush when pregnant. Proper Joy-of-Sex-Bush. My skin can’t cope with waxing/shaving.

If you have a partner, get them to trim it. It's the only way Dh got near enough to that area in late pregnancy. He was very adept with a razor and pair of scissors.

On a thread where pregnant women are anxious about having been too "lazy" to remove their pubic hair, you can't say there isn't social pressure about this issue.

Well put, OwtFerNowt

Full Bush will set you free! Free the bush!

I’m late twenties and you absolutely do not need to feel sorry for me. I don’t wax but I do shave every couple of days so there’s never any hair down there. I do this because I prefer the look and feel and enjoy it more, not due to any societal pressure

Thats the clever thing about societal pressure and normalising...it not only tells you what to do, it also convinces you that you chose it for yourself and its nothing to do with anyone else! It's so clever that way.

Hot flannel, antibacterial face wash then sudocream

Thats the clever thing about societal pressure and normalising...it not only tells you what to do, it also convinces you that you chose it for yourself and its nothing to do with anyone else! It's so clever that way yes because us women folk couldn't possibly be making out own choices. It's far too much for our tiny lady brains to cope with

Yes thats what I said, isn't it?

Or you know, not at all. If you don't get it, just move on to more chat about waxing.

OwtFerNowt Incorrect. She wasn’t anxious about having been too lazy to remove her hair.

She said she had left it due to her being lazy and feeling tired and decided to tackle it and felt great afterwards.

She’s anxious now because it’s not as she expected.

I dont actually wax. I just don't like the notion that we can't choose things for ourselves, we only choose because society tells us to. I find it patronising.

Honestly OP, just gently exfoliate and then stop fiddling around with your foof, you'll have enough of that in a few weeks to last you a lifetime!

You don't have to do anything to it - it will heal by itself. You don't need a doctor. Personally, I would avoid doing anything that 'pops' the whiteheads - just leave them. They'll go away.

Your skin can be ultra sensitive when pregnant - I used to find just shaving my legs would result in razor rash that I never usually get.

I'm sure a hot flannel will help - and some savlon or sudocreme.

All I will say on the matter, Red, is that back in the 80s and early 90s the absolute most anyone ever did with their pubic hair was remove any bits that were going down your legs or poking out of the top of your bikini, and maybe trim a bit of the length. If a same-age guy from that era had removed knickers and found a bushless woman, he'd have been very taken aback.

None of us decided to remove our pubic hair back then because we preferred it that way; it just didn't enter our consciousness. It has been a significant change in the last 20 or so years that this has become as expected a part of grooming as shaving armpits or legs was back in the day. Of course society (and the ubiquity of the porn industry) has affected that.

I dont actually wax. I just don't like the notion that we can't choose things for ourselves, we only choose because society tells us to. I find it patronising

Yet true. We are all subject to fashions, norms, expectations and pressure. Man woman and child. Any suggestion we are not is idiotic.

If I recall correctly your skin is far more sensitive when you're pregnant so that might be why you've had a rash come up. It sounds unpleasant for you but fairly normal if you have thick hair. Exfoliate twice a day (in the shower or dry brush) and moisturise the area with coconut oil or the Australian something or other tea tree stuff designed for post-wax.

I'm lucky that I don't have to bother with all that faff.

I once suggested to my husband that I shaved - he was aghast at the idea! He said he wants to be with a WOMAN not a little girl :)

I do keep tidy, but never shaved.

oldbirdy do you not think that we have more freedom now though? I don't know for sure as I wasn't born then.
taskmaster Obviously we're influenced by fashion but it's still our choice to do it or not. I know women and men who choose both.
sallyarmy1 I find it more disturbing when men compare genitalia to little girls just because they choose to be hairless as it's still the body of a woman.

Don’t worry!! I had this when I first got my eyebrows threaded!! It was like a miniature mountain range across my forehead. Terribly attractive said no one, ever. Nice warm bath, bit of exfoliation and you’ll be fine. Perhaps your skin is just a little bit more sensitive at the mo.

red please don't feel patronised or minimized by the fact that societal pressure is a huge influence in everyone's lives!

It isn't that your brain doesn't work, its that its a social brain, it works fine, and how it works is in the large part to tell you that you want to do what everyone else is doing...

Its nothing to be ashamed of - just an evolutionary fact of being part of a social group.

Morphene I think i struggle with the idea a lot because it took me nearly all my life to stop being a people pleaser and doing what everyone else said I should. I do what I like now and what's best for my son and myself and sack off people who criticise. I have to believe in freedom of choice for my own sanity!