to be freaking out two days after a bikini wax?

[themightymelt]

Hello- long time observer and first time poster here.

Early 20s and 30 weeks pregnant.

I hope I'm posting in the right topic and sorry if it's a bit long but I would rather explain thoroughly than dripfeed.

I've gotten to the stage where I can't see my 'lady garden' in the shower because my bump is in the way. It was nearly 2 months before I groomed down below (laziness, tiredness) so on Sunday I decided to go to get a hollywood wax, I got it all off down below and it felt great.

It's now Tuesday and I had just got out of the shower this evening and decided to take a small mirror to down below to see how she's looking. Upon doing so I was horrified. Small red bumps and what turned my stomach was dozens of whiteheads. They weren't near my clitoris or labia but all on the 'mon pubis' (I believe that's what it is called) they're all over the skin covering my pubic bone. They stretch right up to just immediately under my bump. I'm such an anxious person. I understand people can get red bumps after waxing- but the whiteheads filled with puss? My skin down there was fine before the wax and the few hours afterwards. I only noticed this evening. It's definitely not an STI I haven't been sexually active since realizing I was pregnant. I will get to a doctor ASAP this week but just wondering AIBU to be freaking out over this? It may sound pathetic but I'm just worrying because I hope it doesn't affect baby because it's in such an intimate area. Any advice welcomed with open arms x

taskmaster Sorry for giving TMI, but I am happy to report that I had a very rare piv orgasm this week which I put down to having shaved. The absence of hair in the crucial area definitely helped. So you see, there are benefits for some women

OwtFerNowt Incorrect. She wasn’t anxious about having been too lazy to remove her hair.

She said she had left it due to her being lazy

If you state that you haven’t done something because you are ‘lazy’ the subtext is that it’s something that you should have done.

I haven’t done the dishes - lazy
I haven’t mowed the lawn - lazy
I haven’t done my tax return - lazy

If something is completely optional, you can’t be lazy if you haven’t done it.

I haven’t watched Game of Thrones - not lazy
I haven’t painted my nails - not lazy
I haven’t been to the pub - not lazy

Just by describing yourself as lazy for not having done something (or wondering if you should be doing something, as another poster asked) you are showing anxiety at not having done something you think you should have done.

I don’t remove any hair from that area, and would never describe myself as lazy for not doing so.

just because people had a bush in the 70s/80s, doesnt make shaving wrong. lots of things were popular then which arent
now.

ive shaved since i was 18. if bush makes a comeback, ill still shave. stop pressuring women who choose to shave because YOU think they are pressured into it, it makes you a hypocrite.

shaved vaginas have no resemblence to “little girls” , that is a disgusting comparison. girls as young as 8 grow pubic hair, would you compare them to fully grown women?

taskmaster Oh look, another condescending and patronising poster. Of course women can’t make a choice for themselves; it must be societal pressure

These lines are always trotted out when certain women don’t agree with or want to acknowledge that other women like things they don’t approve of.

OwtFerNowt Wrong again. If I don’t get a book read or make the bed I could describe myself as lazy; I wouldn’t be anxious about not doing them.

If for some reason I couldn’t be bothered to pluck my eyebrows or shave my armpits I would describe myself as lazy, but I wouldn’t be anxious about not doing them.

If something is completely optional, you can’t be lazy if you haven’t done it.

Incorrect, again. If I don’t go out shopping for something I want that’s me being lazy, just like if I don’t go to the pub when my friends are going that could be me being lazy. I’m still not anxious about doing those things and I’m still not beholden to doing them.

Just pimples, nothing to worry about. Crazy exfoliating will aggravate the skin even more, gentle flannel with warm water as others have suggested.

A word of warning, was told not to wax before birth btw because of the risk of infection and certainly not before a c section. So maybe just a trim or a tidy up as you get close to due date...

Oh look, another condescending and patronising poster. Of course women can’t make a choice for themselves; it must be societal pressure

Of course they can. no-one said they can't, But they don't make them in a vaccuum. Are you seriously actually suggesting that women all make their own pure choices of what to wear and do and look like, and society makes no influence or pressure at all? Women just suddenly all decided that they personally prefer a hollywood wax, even though they all personally preferred a full bush 20 years earlier?

fashions don't exist, expectations don't exist. Women dont' follow pressure and they all individually decide what to look like all alone?
Don't be so dense.

Women just suddenly all decided that they personally prefer a hollywood wax, even though they all personally preferred a full bush 20 years earlier?

taskmaster All? You’re seriously trying to claim all women twenty years ago preferred to be hairy? What a joke.

It's not called a 70s full bush for nothing - women didn't shave in the 70s. Maybe a very few did - but It just wasn't a thing.

Majority of women in the 80s and 90s didn't remove all the hair - just the bikini line. None of the women I lived with at uni in the late 80s/early 90s shaved - except bikini line.

A really good way to see things like this is to look at nudity in films of the era - all had pubic hair - neat, trimmed - but there.

Shaved vagina!Ouch!

Midwife here... to all those asking... please please no need whatsoever to maintain lady garden or put yourselves through the misery of waxing on our behalf!! We are supposed to be hairy. Natural is perfectly fine! And no Midiwfe will give two hoots at all or ever remember what your lady garden looks like

OP, I please don't exfoliate too hard. It should ease as the follicles open to let the regrowth back in.

On that note, please leave your public hair alone when it grows back in. If you do need a section, the advice is NOT to wax or shave the pubic areas as it actually increases the risk of post-operative infection. If you must do so, leave at least a week between the waxing/ shaving and the section.

Here- advice on page 2 under 'Preparing your skin'

www.guysandstthomas.nhs.uk/resources/patient-information/maternity/elective-caesarean-section.pdf