Women are conditioned not even to recognise abuse, let alone risk their careers and professional reputations over it. I was felt up on buses and trains for years before I realised it was sexual assault and each and every one of those bastards deserved to go to prison for it. It was generally talked about as something that, while it shouldn't really be happening, was not THAT big a deal and I would be by far the worse person if I had reported it to the police or even, God forbid, got a conviction for one of them.
I didn't do cool things like hold up a hand and shout, "Has anyone lost this, I just found it on my arse?" and so on. I shuffled away, said nothing, possibly mentioned it to people who might have minimised it, certainly I never started screaming in the middle of the train about it. It's only now, years later, that I realise just how utterly awful it was...and how normalised.
But according to some posters on here, I am to blame and I'm just claiming passive flower status because I, like so many other women, was just so conditioned to think it wasn't that big a deal.
Society and structural imbalance of power are why these things keep happening, and people who are determined to blame Kate Winslet because powerful men kept assaulting women in a male-controlled industry are a massive part of the problem.
They should ask themselves why they are so uneasy with just putting the blame squarely on the male abusers, and why they are giving a free pass to all the male actors who also didn't speak up.
We know the answer, of course, but I'd like to see how they try to square it to themselves.