AIBU to not be excited by PIL news?

[LuluJakey1]

PIL came up from Yorkshire this weekend. They stayed with SIL who lives near us and moved up here (Northumberland) about 3 years ago when she got married.

We went round for lunch today to SILs and PIL announced they are selling up and moving up here with grandma. SIL and DH are delighted. PIL are delighted. I just feel a bit ....... not delighted.

DH was moving up here temporarily for work when we met. That was 9 years ago and we got married and he stayed here. I am from here but my parents are now dead. We have DS 3 and DD 9m. As I said SIL moved up when she got married and she and BIL (who comes from Durham) have a DD now 8m.

I can understand PIL wanting to be near their children and grandchildren - they are very close to DH and SIL and miss them both. They also adore their grandchildren. I am not sure why I feel a bit apprehensive about it.

I just feel I have been a bit taken over by this family. DH and I had a lovely life before we had children. We did as we liked and had no one else who expected anything of us.

Don't get me wrong, I get on really well with DH's family. I could not ask for nicer in laws. They are kind, funny, don't interfere. I am just not used to being part of a family like this that do lots together. I was an only child. It feels a bit suffocating at times and I have managed that because they live in Yorkshire and we see them about once every month or 6 weeks. I am worrying about how much our lives could become taken over by all of this. AIBU?

[ShalomJackie]

Definitely a no keys rule. Definitely a no regular recurring event thing - ad hoc only stuff. Manage expectations only.

Focus on tbe positives of extra help nearby for emergencies etc.

[museumum]

Oh bloody hell. Sorry for the bump - it was in my active convos I assumed the last OP update was recent 🤷‍♀️

[Carbivorous]

How could it have been in active?!