To ask why little girls seem to be preferred?

[foxtaildream]

Is it just me who has noticed this?

I come from a family of amazing strong women and was desperate to have a girl.

My first was a DD. Turned out I couldn’t have anymore but would have been happy with either boy/girl

Surely you have to fear your son getting someone pregnant? As I’m sure you’ll have brought them up to take responsibility for their actions?

Oh course Chien but the consequences/fall out differ

No, it’s stating the differences experienced. My friends are not being detrimental to their daughters when they say their sons are less complicated, they are just stating a fact which is likely rooted in biology

Bollocks. You cannot draw the conclusion that boys had girls are different based on two kids.

I have two girls. They are very different. Should i draw the conclusion that brown haired children are sporty while the blond haired are good at maths?

No, because that would be ridiculous. It may be true, it’s not impossible that the hair colour gene is on the same chromosome and they are linked. But you’d have to look at a much bigger sample size.

Think about it. They are saying “my child with a penis is less complicated than the one without. Therefore all children with penises are less complicated compared to ones without.

Not biology. Observation and opinion.

I don't find that at all

really but when you compare the girl kids to boy kids in my wider friendship group, the same conclusion is drawn. I compare my son’s gf and her interaction with her friends and my son’s with his. The girls fall out quite regularly, the boys do not. I‘m stating what we see. It may be completely unconnected to the sex of these kids and to do with hair colour as you say, but that’s not a pattern we’ve identified

Girls are brilliant and so are boys. End of.
I do think a lot of men seem to want boys it's a macho thing to say you have a son.
When I was pregnant my ex was talking to this couple we met on holiday and I renember the man telling him let's hope you get a boy......but I got a beautiful dd instead!.
My ex wanted a boy because in his culture boys are favoured.
It's a macho thing again because men are seen as stronger if they produce a male baby.
All his male friends wanted boys as well.

Have you thought that boys and girls are treated differently and expected to behave differently practically from before birth? They conform and behave to meet these expectations.

I have a girl with short hair. If i take her to the park in jeans and a hoody she’s daring, aren’t boys active, boys are so much easier when you can let them burn of their energy. Girls are moved out or her way “look at that boy climbing all the way up”

Take the same child in “girl” clothes and suddenly she’s invited to play with the other girls in the sand, don’t i think she needs to be careful up there, mind out the way of the little girl billy, you don’t want to hurt her.

There was also a study done apparently where they said that the happiest families are those with 2 girls.

Everyone should read this! It is truly hilarious. After hours of high level research, it also came up with the following:

Families with more than two children may have to buy a bigger car
Families with more than two children may have to spend more to go on holiday

Ground breaking stuff, eh? 😂

No really because within this group are a 15yo girl who captains her football team and a 15yo girl who plays rugby league. The footballer especially eschewed anything traditionally female and was getting a skateboard when other girls were getting Bratz. But emotionally her behaviour is similar to that of the others girls and different to the boys of the same age. We’ve all seen the video of the babies with the swapped clothes and it is a lesson everyone should learn but biological differences exist no matter how much people would wish they didn’t.

@reallyanotherone
I could of done I suppose, however I have more chance of a girl enjoying these pastimes to be honest. Not trying to be stereotypical but unfortunately it is true. Plus it’s skills passed down from my nan to my mum and now hopefully to my daughter.

Hopefully she will also enjoy playing computer games with her dad when she’s older

i do symapthise with gender disappointment where there is a medical reason for it eg a certain disorder which only affects a certain gender, meaning if that gender were born it could lead to heartache and tragedy.

That’s not gender disappointment. That’s not wanting to bring a child into a world of pain and suffering. Sex selection IVF is available for those purposes i believe

In general, I understand a slight preference (even if grounded in stereotypes) but I don’t understand being “desperate” for a particular sex. If you’re that “desperate” you might be better not having kids considering there’s a 50% chance of you not getting what you’re so “desperate” for.

could of done I suppose, however I have more chance of a girl enjoying these pastimes to be honest. Not trying to be stereotypical but unfortunately it is true. Plus it’s skills passed down from my nan to my mum and now hopefully to my daughter

Assuming it’s sewing, knitting and the like she might be rubbish at it or just not want to do it. My mum and Gran were great at these things and I had no aptitude and very little interest whatsoever.

In general, I understand a slight preference (even if grounded in stereotypes) but I don’t understand being “desperate” for a particular sex. If you’re that “desperate” you might be better not having kids considering there’s a 50% chance of you not getting what you’re so “desperate” for. hmm
I don’t think you would be approved as an adoptive parent if you said you’d prefer one sex over another.

My family is mostly women. From the time I found out I was pregnant, I really wanted a boy. And we had a boy! All the women of the family dote on him and spoil him rotten :D

don’t think you would be approved as an adoptive parent if you said you’d prefer one sex over another.

I do think they ask adoptive parents if they have a preference. Ultimately I suppose they need to do what they can to prevent the adoption failing if (rightly or wrongly) parents can’t bond with a particular sex.

I have 3 dds and the reaction dh got when he told people our twins were going to be ID girls was one of sympathy. One guy said "oh fuck mate, that's my worst nightmare" the other said "oh no, bad luck". A neighbour said to me "what a shame the twins weren't one of each!"

So as you can see, to those around me girls aren't apparently the ideal. Perfect for dh and I though.

My brother was a much more complicated teenager than me. Much more angst. I was a very simple teenager. So my mum could deduce that boys are more complicated than girls.

@bakedbeans47
This is very true, but I still get to pass on my great nans name and I will obviously be pleased to encourage her at what ever she loves to do in life.

I think girls are seen as quieter and easier to parent as children

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I will let dds know as they missed the memo 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

As a PP said maybe preference comes from the idea that when you have a mum, dad, daughter & son the females pair up to do things & likewise for the males. With 3 daughters my dad would often take us clothes shopping & my mum take us to our sports clubs.

DH takes our DD’s to ballet every week. It’s my morning off!

My family is African and are very unexcited about my soon to be born DD. My 'DF' even asked how sure I was that she was a girl. The NIPT is 99%, so we're pretty bloody sure!

We wanted a girl (and had one) and for me it was because all the boys in the family (all the children born have been boys for the past 20 years) have been "lively" hyperactive little shits so we have a romanticised notion of a well behaved little girl who likes things like reading and quietly playing with Lego (basically me as a child).

I know in reality this is all total bollocks - but I do think there's something in the way that other people treat boys which I'm not keen on and am happy to avoid.

More than happy with my 2 boys, although if we had another a girl would be nice so I'm not completely outnumbered.