...to hope DP gets the flu?

[oldschoolcool]

DS (aged 4) and I have had flu for over a week. The last seven days have been a blur of hot sweats, aching muscles, and burning coughing. I have no idea how I managed to get us through the worst. We ended up in A&E one night because DS's temperature wouldn't come down.

All week DP has been moaning that "it's only the flu" or "a bit of a cough". He has NO IDEA how ill we have been. He comes in from work and whines there is no dinner ready (I'm a SAHM and usually cook) the place is a mess and says I've been on the sofa all day. Yep, I have. I'M ILL and so is DS! What does he expect us to do?!!!!!

Today DP has come home early from work. He's feeling rough. Pah! He gets no sympathy from me. I truly hope he gets this so he knows exactly what we have been through/are going through and can eat his words.

Unfortunately he'll probably only get it mildly but you'll be head to think that he's nearly dying. Be ready to get out of the house when you start feeling better so you can leave him to it

He has officially, immediately, & foreverafter, forfeited any right to sympathy from you when he's ill. Wait until he's ill to inform him of this.

Revenge is best served cold, & all that.

He did shut up a bit after the A&E but it was me he was having a go at, not DS. DS has been ill before and everything has carried on as normal because I've still managed to do the house stuff whilst looking after him. This time I have/had it bad. I could hardly walk until today. Yet he wonders why I didn't put the bins out!

And he didn't do a bloody thing in the evenings.

He sounds like a keeper.

I'm the same been in bed all day today. Ds has come in from school made me a get well card, went to the car to fetch me a cold can of coke has made himself a sandwich and sorted the dog. And he's 11.

Forgot to say all of his own volition because he can see and hear how I'll I am.

No way would I be staying with a wanker like this. He sounds repulsive. I hope he gets the flu too.

If my Dh behaved like this when I was really ill, I’d be seriously considering our marriage.

Why put up with this behaviour from someone whose supposed to love you?

RedHelenB your ds sounds lovely. My 11 year old ds made me a toasted cheese, ham and tomato sandwich when I came home from being at the hospital all day with my 4 year old without anything to eat.

Op YANBU but you know if he gets it he will do the poorly voice and be even more irritating

Why are you in this relationship?

What a catch douchebag your DH is. How disgusting to behave like that towards his family.

I second going out as much as possible when he is ill. Let him wallow with zero sympathy then bitch at him whe he doesn't make dinner.

I've wondered that myself this week PoorYorick

DP has this thing about illness. MIL doesn't believe in being ill and always sent them to school, minimalised it. So much so that DP actually had to have an operation as a child because a condition wasn't caught in time. So you'd think he'd be more sensitive, but no, he's just taking after her.

I can hear him coughing upstairs. He's sounding bad, I'm ignoring it.

Yanbu. You didn't cook dinner, clean house, or put the bins out BECAUSE YOU HAVE THE FLU.

That's good. He won't mind if you ignore him completely as he gets ill just as the two of you feel better. I hope you will use the phrase 'man up' to him.

Yes ignore it, also whenever he asks for sympathy or help, just repeat what he says to you and while you're at it tell him that behaviours is unacceptable and you expect more from a loving husband and afther and if it happens again then he will be on his own with it

Ask him what's for dinner?

Lick the door handles!

Go up and ask him if he fancies cooking tonight, and then having a quick scout round with the hoover.

Tell him not to be a lazy fucker as well....

Thanks Ellie he can be a real pain at times too but he loves me and wants to look after me like any decent human being would. I really can't fathom spouses not looking after each other when they're ill

Flu = influenza not the common cold! Does he realise millions of people have an injection to prevent this because it can kill?

Silly prick!

I'd be tempted to take yourself and DS to to your parents or similar for the weekend for some TLC and leave him to look after himself.

Once you're back to full strength I'd be having a serious think about things generally. It sounds like he does nothing to help you ever, ill or not.

I work 3 days a weeks, on the days I'm home with DS my DH gets home from work, plays with DS, gives him a bath and then cooks the dinner. Then we both do a couple of house bits. Same as he does every night. Looking after a child all day is not the same as having a day off.

You have my sympathy and if he does get it he will make out it's worse than yours. I've been home all day with 15mo and I have d&v. I feel like death but can't stop as ds can't look after himself. I've actually been stuck on the loo while vomiting into the sink next to me while ds climbs up my legs, tries to steal the loo roll and tries to play with the toilet brush. I've been crying my eyes out and DH just called to say he doesn't feel well!! It's going to end up with him going to bed and me having to bloody get on with it.

I too am afraid I’d be having a discussion about my marriage with this behaviour.