...to hope DP gets the flu?

[oldschoolcool]

DS (aged 4) and I have had flu for over a week. The last seven days have been a blur of hot sweats, aching muscles, and burning coughing. I have no idea how I managed to get us through the worst. We ended up in A&E one night because DS's temperature wouldn't come down.

All week DP has been moaning that "it's only the flu" or "a bit of a cough". He has NO IDEA how ill we have been. He comes in from work and whines there is no dinner ready (I'm a SAHM and usually cook) the place is a mess and says I've been on the sofa all day. Yep, I have. I'M ILL and so is DS! What does he expect us to do?!!!!!

Today DP has come home early from work. He's feeling rough. Pah! He gets no sympathy from me. I truly hope he gets this so he knows exactly what we have been through/are going through and can eat his words.

Why do people marry partners who don't like them enough to look after them?

Wow he's a real catch isn't he? Hide the paracetamol and f£&k off for a mini break leaving him to sweat it all alone is what I would be doing

I feel very sad reading your post OP.
I hope the rest of your relationship makes up for his twattery. God help you in old age or long term illness ☹️❤️

onlyAbigail ❤️

Lick his face while he's asleep.

Oh sweetie I'm so sorry you and your dc got this damn awful stain of flu . It's truly horrendous . I hope your dp realises now just how awful you have felt . Hope your now feeling better ?

Sleep in a different room tonight if you can. He can cough it out on his own, and he won't be able to ask you to 'just' fetch him drinks or painkillers then either.

Oh you poor thing. :(

Make sure you keep asking him to do jobs aaaaallllll weekend when he's rough. I hope he gets it.

I remember putting my back out and my now ex grudgingly got me some painkillers and threw them on the bed out of my reach and no water to take them with. I couldn't move. It was the beginning of the end tbh. (AF called it. ;) )

last year I ended up with ammonia, DH did lunches, school/nursery runs cooked meals and phoned the MIL once or twice when needed be, (one had swimming and it would be easier not to take the youngest) And worked in the middle. I didn't see him much, he made sure i had fluids and meds etc. drove me to docs in my pj's while I cried. I've had two back to back babies, but ammonia was the worst I've felt in my life time so far! He didn't complain once, in fact, i think it was good for us. he understood what I did everyday.

If he loves you, he will hate to see you unwell, he shouldn't feel resent to what your "not" doing, he should understand how you are feeling.

Honestly OP, YANBU (obviously), but I would seriously be considering my relationship with this person - he sounds like an absolute cock.

Have you got family you could stay with this weekend?! Leave him to his misery and get some TLC yourself.

OP I feel for you and your son

I have to say this, having an ex friend who didn't believe in illness - interesting when I had pneumonia! - these people are missing the logic chip and the compassion chip.

Unless something can be done about this, I'd be leaving him. Is there special training for people who don't understand illness?! I wonder why they think hospitals exist?

What a wanker, I think this would be pretty much it for me.
Any decent man would have rolled his sleeves up, got stuck in and not expected a bloody thing from you.
Why didn't he take time off to look after you both, do you have family?
Could he have arranged help if he was unable to take some time off?

I’m sorry you & DS have been/are so unwell. Please don’t lift a finger for that wanker. Hide all the medication, you & DS might need it. Keep asking him why he’s not at work/doing xyz....

If it was me, the marriage would be over. I wouldn’t waste my life on someone like that.

Some lovely kids & DH/P’s on the thread 😊

so glad I'm single, men get all the shit, man flu etc, women just are weaker. Men handle flu a lot better, TBF. I understand where he is coming from

lostpigeon, please stay single. Don't subject women to your misogynistic twattery

There's a reason some people are single Castiell

My DH gets really moody and nasty if I'm ill and won't do a thing for me such as get me a drink or make me anything to eat

Why do people marry partners who don't like them enough to look after them?

And why stay with them when they make their contempt for you absolutely know? It’s utterly soul destroying to hear/see women wasting their lives with men who think a piece of shit on their shoe is more worthy of respect.

Hidingtonothing I can't imagine why...

OP, my DP had flu just before new year for a few weeks, and the amount of moaning and sighing he did made me feel like finishing him off. The poor thing didnt even have the strengrh to lift his arm to cover his mouth when he coughed everywhere,just let his germs flow free and wild Hope you and DS feel well enough to escape and leave him to it!

I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone who got annoyed when I was ill. Someone with no kindness, compassion, or love for me. The bar is set so low in relationships with men.

So glad I’m single now.

In part YABU

I would never wish the flu on anyone. I worked in ITU during the swine flu outbreak and saw healthy young adults die. Flu kills.

My 'I'm never ill partner' used to secretly think I was over reacting every time I got ill. Until I had a stomach bug, and he thought 'yh but you throw up randomly anyway' and then he got it and it honestly took us about 3 weeks to get over it it was so bad. Now whenever I'm ill he overacts because he's now experienced how bad it can be!

So no. YANBU at all

You’ve already won this as he came home from work early. His go at you was about you not carrying out what he sees as your work duties, he’s already packed his in.

Ask him to sort dinner out as he’s not been at work all day

I'm assuming lostpigeon is male.

DH expects me to do everything related to the DC even when I've got D&V. Apart from anything else, I'm sure this isn't very hygienic.

DP took time off from work this week to look after me and DS. that's the kind of man you want to be with forever.

Unfortunately, he's now come down with whatever nasty virus we've got :(

I hope your H gets the flu too!