Would this put your hackles up?

[inmyshoos]

I've been chatting to someone online for a few months. Have met up a few times for a coffee.
I was slightly surprised when at one point he mentioned his preference (it was in reference to Naked Attraction, not just a random comment mid coffee!) for bald lady bits. That was a different thread....

So last night whilst messaging he asked what size waist am I? I said no idea but I wear a size 10. He replied 'Slim for sure and I mentioned I have to stay slim because I have joint problems but it helps I have a natural predisposition, slim parents, been fairly slim throughout life. He replied. 'I like slim... lots

Now he is almost 60 and the first thing I though when I met him was - clearly his pics were old because he was at least a stone heavier in real life. I would say overweight. He has lost weight since we first met. He said often puts on weight at Xmas.

I joked with him about it. He said slim is just his personal preference. (Same as the bald) so I replied 'Slim and bald fanny.... No pressure then'. Am I being unreasonable? I just think it's a bit rich coming from someone over weight themselves and not exactly a physical beauty.... I felt like saying 'm personal preference is totally buff and a massive schlong'.... But I'm not that shallow.... luckily for him!!!

AIBU? I can see me being single for the rest of my life

Hi sounds like my ex ( in fact he could be him) he made it very clear from the start that his preference was a perfect size 10 which I was as I had been quite ill and lost a lot of weight when I met him, I put on weight ( to a massive size 12) & he used to poke me in the stomach & makes jokes at my expense! He however had a gut & could do exactly as he pleased! Avoid!!!!

Thanks for all the replies. You lot are hilarious!

He was trying to compliment me I'm sure. By saying I was slim and he likes slim.... a lot. But I think he probably regreted saying it because it made my hackles go up and ask more questions like - don't you think that is quite shallow, what if once in a relationship your partner gains weight, etc.
I did also joke with him that it was along the lines of me saying I like men who are totally buff with a massive penis and he didn't respond directly to that comment but did say putting weight on once I relationship is different because it's just that initial physical attraction he was talkjng about. Fwiw the first time we met I was tbh disappointed I didn't fancy him physically but as it's not the be all and end all for me I said let's meet again!!! Oh the irony....

I assume that you posted waiting for the feminist outrage and indignance of a man having a preference!

I'm sure you have sexual preferences and to think a man can't is simply absurd.

He isn't telling you how to look; he's saying what he likes and they're entirely different things.

So, were you (hypothetically) to open your legs for this man and he found you with hair, would he then make his excuses and leave?

just idly wondering...

I doubt it special He knows I am not bald and it hasn't put him off so far but he does make reference to it in a jokey way.

but he does make reference to it in a jokey way
I'm just wondering what form these jokes take.

still Not outraged as a feminist but to say to someone that you prefer bald fannies BEFORE you know whether they have one or not is quite rude. It's like saying to someone with blonde hair that you prefer red heads. You know that unless you change your appearance for that person you will always wonder just how attractive they find you. Of course people are allowed a preference it's just rude and tactless to voice them unless you are certain that you are saying that THEY are your preference.

Yes, would put my hackles up. I’m nearly 50, single and need a few years to steel myself for OLD. If I ever do it. Think I’m happier staying single if all the men are like that! I’ve got so much less tolerant as I’ve got older.

I would be running a mile. A) because it's rude and b) because admitting to having a preference to pubeless women reveals him to be a bit...common