In wondering when the hell everyone lost respect for relationships?!

[hellogoodbye1]

Happily married to dh. Have a young ds.

Yesterday no less than THREE men came on to me.

All of them are friends with dh too! All have wives/ long term partners.

What the fuck is wrong with people? I feel like people are giving less of a shit about this kind of thing these days.

When I had a go at one of them he told me I should have felt flattered not angry. Wtf?

Some men are just after a legover.

Off topic (ish), but the inside line I got on Samantha Brick from a DM journo friend of mine was that she was desperate to fun IVF with her husband, therefore willingly made a fool of herself as part of the deal.

As far as I know, after making as much as she could of it, she hasn't had much of a media career.

If true - and apart from her obvious character defect, I don't know why my friend would lie - I kind of admire her. She didn't hurt anyone but herself by what she did.

As I said earlier, I was a widow for six months, when it happened to me. I was suffering mental health problems, underweight and devastated at the loss of my husband. They all knew that, because I was always very open about the fact that I was, as far as I was concerned always going to be devoted to my husband and still view myself as a married woman. They knew all this because one was a friend of ten years, one was my sil’s bf and the other prick was my husband’s brother. I actually fed sick at the memories of them. They made their feelings very very clear.

Forgot to add, just before he died, my dh warned me against his brother and I’ve never told my in laws as I don’t think they’d believe me. He’s a very manipulative individual.

I started a thread once saying something similar. I had split up with my ex H and not long after this I started to receive a steady stream of messages from various men I knew, all in relationships "how ARE you? It's been a while hasn't it? Oh you're single you say?" Invariably they would start to nudge the conversation in an inappropriate direction usually shoe horning something like "oh , sounds like you could do with a massage" if I said I was tired or had had a long day. You'd be astounded at how many men offer massages, seems to be the favoured come on, one that can easily be pulled back from if the woman aren't responsive. Nauseating. On that thread I too got told I loved myself and it was a stealth boast etc. I think it's the age old blame the slutty single woman attitude and I think people don't even realise they think that way until a woman complains that this is happening to her. You should really question yourself if your very first reaction is that.

OP-Are you one of those that think that any man being polite enough to talk to you is hitting on You?

All but one of my friend's partners have come onto me at some stage. They're all still together. Why respect relationships? I don't know anyone that has a good one.

msgame I wonder if the insistence that we are making it up due a bit to that old NAMALT because the thought that so many are, makes some women very insecure. It’s always been easier to blame the man eating divorcee or widow rather than the arsehole, cheating partner/husband.

Jesus Christ! As I've already said, I name changed because there are a few people on here who know who I am in real life. I've been on Mumsnet for over 10 years, if anyone thinks I'm trolling or making this up please report and Mumsnet can verify I'm a regular, long time poster.

It's really sad that some of you also think I'm either dim or slutty. I'm NOT imagining it. I didn't misconstrue any of the incidents. I also didn't fucking ask for it. Not. At. All.

And I still feel glad that I told dh. When I said I'd be suspicious if he didn't tell me if similar had happened to him obviously I mean if I'd found out after the fact.

See, I wouldn't have done that. People flirt when they are drunk and say/do stupid things.

Um, I don't. And it wasn't flirting, each incident was full out propositioning. It was very, very clear that more was expected. (Or hopes for.)

I'm well old and experienced enough to know when someone's having a silly pissed up flirt.

And I'm not a grumpy old feminist. What the FUCK? Because I object to essentially being treated like a piece of meat, my dh and their wives disrespected?

Yes, it must have just been me getting all silly, female and confused. With a little smidge of being up myself.

Yes, it must have just been me getting all silly, female and confused. With a little smidge of being up myself

I think it's probably exactly that...

Thread one:

"Teehee, I was out today and three men propositioned me, haha, I still have it".

Everyone: WOW YAY GREAT HAHA YOU GO GIRL YOU STILL HAVE IT

Thread two:

"Bloody hell, I was out today and three men propositioned me, what the fuck is wrong with these blokes, treating me like a piece of meat"

Everyone: YOU ARE LYING AND YOU ASKED FOR IT, BOTH AT ONCE YOU SLUT!

........

Troll hunting is against the rules, HoneyDragon, why do people like you do that?

Why on a thread of mainly women are so many posters making out this is a fabrication and the O.P. Is deluded?

It's depressing.

Of course it happens - why can't it be discussed?

Of course being propositioned isn't as bad as abuse but threads like this make it very clear that it's not just men that make women feel inhibited about telling the truth, not at all.
Resembles an angry bunch of Anne Widdecombes if you ask me.

Referring to how she defends men btw, not how she looks.

Has your DH been telling them down the pub you are into swinging, or has he lost you in a bet?

I’m not troll hunting I think the opening post is deliberately inflammatory .... as I explained earlier. I disagree with namechanging to post such things without owning them, but each to their own.

As an aside, in general I find “people like me” to be mostly awesome. I can’t be arsed with troll hunting on Mnet anyway, it’s like shooting fish in a barrel. Pointless.

OP, if an old hand at MN, knows of Samanatha Brick-gate and also knows what an absolute goad-fest it is here at the moment. I was making a joke about statistical significance earlier but actually, the odd of this happening are not high, not without some other factor. Perhaps OP isn't aware of that factor but three random propositions by three family friends in one day without said factor - is defies probability.

Someone who is in tune with their fellow posters wouldn't be making a sweeping generalisation about everybody's relationships either.

I also don't think the 'We Believe You' soundbite was for this.

OP, what did your husband say when you told him of each of the three occurrences? When I've been propositioned I've done what you did - told them where to get off - and didn't bother mentioning it because it was a non-event. If these are family friends though perhaps you should be making their partners aware?

Of course it's bloody inflammatory! I'm annoyed! Sorry I'm not going to be all thrilled and happy that people were taking liberties and creepy.

I've said THREE TIMES now. People on here know who I am in real life from my usual user name.

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe please report me to Mumsnet if you think I'm a troll. Then kindly fuck off.

So because Mumsnet is a goad fest at the moment nobody is allowed to make posts or comments that complain about anything or anyone? Because that will be goady?

Pot, kettle......

Op I didn’t call you a grumpy feminist.

Maybe it doesn’t matter if you’re bloated or feeling spotty etc. Some people just have attractive personalities.

I've found having a face like a dropped pie and a body like a binbag full of mayo stops this kind of thing.