Baby scratched at nursery - AIBU...?

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I’ve recently gone back to work after 5 months maternity leave. In the very fortunate position that my daughter only had to go to nursery for one day. Choosing a nursery was tricky for this reason as most have a minimum of two days however I found a good one by recommendation but something isn’t sitting right with me...

When I took her for her visits she was the youngest baby by about 4/5 Months. They brought a playmat in for her and the older babies wouldn’t leave her alone. It concerned me a bit because the ‘baby’ room is from 0-2 years. I thought that was a bit strange because when my son was at nursery they moved to another room when they could walk.

On Friday my husband picked my daughter up and she had a large scratch near her eye from one of the toddlers. I may be overreacting but WIBU to contact the nursery and ask them to make the baby room more ‘baby friendly’ to keep the very young babies safe from inquisitive toddlers (eg playpen or room divider?)

My children into the tots room with the walkers even at 10 months as they were hulk children who were walking since 9 months. I was terrified one of mine would stomp in a crawler or non mobile baby

If I were you OP I would be furious too. I would seriously consider a different nursery or a childminder.

Wait till the biting starts!

Whareyoukidding?
Would you really be furious?
Genuine question but why?

Op it is of course your choice but as you've posted on here I would ask why you want her to socialise with babies her own age (as you said upthread) 5 month old babies not really socialise with each other, but a young baby can benefit socially and developmentally from spending time with older children. I personally always chose a cm for this reason. However she would never have left a non mobile child on the floor unattended. She always seemed to carry the very young ones if she was busy and only lay them on the floor when she was sat in the floor with them all.

I chose a nursery as from pervious experiences of both a cm and a nursery I felt that nursery developed my son better due to interactions with children his own age. I don’t want to swap nurseries as this one comes with a good recommendation but I’ve just lost a bit of assurance that she will be fine. It’s probably due to mum guilt at leaving her so young too (needs, must!) but I think I’ll worry about her now due to this, so think I’ll have to speak to them. I’m certainly not angry or annoyed as I know it happens but just want reassurance that they are looking after her ok. I’m sure it’s hard work for the staff keeping an eye on toddlers around babies!

@insancerre yes I would genuinely be furious because I had given over care of my baby to professionals and she had obviously received a scratch from someone while under their care. Yes I accept that it can be a bit 'rough and tumble' at nurseries but I am afraid that I would feel that my trust had been abused.

YANBU at all! I wouldn't be very happy at all if my child went to nursery and came back with a mark near her eye I wouldn't be happy one bit, especially seeing as your DD is so young, did they not mention to you that their had been an incident at all when she was collected?

Definitely worth talking to them op. I'd want you to. It may put your mind at rest that this was a one-off random act rather than a result of them not being on the ball.

Genuine question whoareyoukidding, have you ever looked after more than one baby or toddler at the time? You can prevent the vast majority or this stuff with good care and supervision but you can't prevent all of it. They can suddenly lash out at each other randomly right under your nose.

Yes auntLydia I have and of course accidents happen, but who can tell what really happened with OP's baby? I think, as others are saying, it is the fact that she is still so young. That mark is pretty near her eye - I would be upset.

It was the op's decision to place her in a nursery that has young babies, older babies and toddlers in the same room. So therefore I think the OP has to accept that incidents may occur that might not occur if the nursery she chose had a room for babies up to the age of say 12 months.

The OP also observed that when she brought her daughter in for settling in visits, that the older babies would not leave her alone..so why not make the decision then that maybe this nursery was not the ideal choice for her own child.