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Am I a CF?

69 replies

TheUglyFive · 20/01/2018 12:07

Living in a shared room - there's three of us and no central heating. We have three storage heaters, two of which are right next to my bed, one of which is next to B's bed.

We also have A in the room, A has been in the room for four years and thinks that the other two of us don't matter - her stuff is everywhere and we can't use the shared desk because it's just packed with her stuff, she gets angry if we put too many things in the bin and A and B argue A LOT.

Every night I go to bed first (5am starts), I turn off the two storage heaters by my bed as the room is too warm. B then goes to bed, and leaves on the storage heater next to her bed with the agreement that A turns it off when she comes in at 11.

Every fucking night A comes in, doesn't turn off the storage heater by B's bed but does turn on the two next to my bed.

Every fucking night an hour later I wake up drenched in sweat, turn the two next to my bed off again, and she gets up and turns them back on. I turn them off when I wake again and that's it until morning - I do turn them on when I leave so the room is warm when they both wake up

I have politely suggested to A that she takes one, or both, storage heaters and plugs them next to her bed.

"I have no space" and "I don't want to get too warm".

I told her this morning that I was going to move the storage heaters next to her bed and so she could be warm. She again said no.

I have removed the two storage heaters out of the room. This is the possible CF behaviour. In my defence, I currently have a fractured pelvis and getting in and out of bed is extremely painful.

Do I proceed to CF step two and rotate my bed so that A cannot access the plug sockets next to my bed that were being used for storage heaters power supply? [Bearing in mind I can barely walk this is going to be quite a task and I may have to involve B]

OP posts:
McTufty · 20/01/2018 12:11

Honestly, A sounds like an inconsiderate arse.

Allthewaves · 20/01/2018 12:12

Why are you sharing a room?

TheUglyFive · 20/01/2018 12:13

"Why are you sharing a room?"

Because it's my only option right now.

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Namechangetempissue · 20/01/2018 12:14

A sounds like a dick. I couldn't stand living with someone like that.

Shadow666 · 20/01/2018 12:15

Do it!

DriggleDraggle · 20/01/2018 12:20

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TheUglyFive · 20/01/2018 12:22

No, no room doesn't belong to her. And B is already at risk of being chucked out so I think she's trying to not fall out with anyone more than she needs too.

I am just feeling pissed off and mischievous now. Also, possibly being immature and wanting to "win" the battle of the storage heaters.

But mostly just fucked off with disturbed sleep and shit load of pain.

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Bluepeony · 20/01/2018 12:23

Sounds awful, I don’t think anyone is a cheeky fucker but sharing the room sounds horrific. Why is it your only option?

Cornettoninja · 20/01/2018 12:23

I don't think you are. I'm pretty neutrally tempretured but being too hot is awful. There's no reason why a heater has to be on when she's all tucked up and could use a hot water bottle/electric blanket.

Ideally you should all control one heater each, but if she's going to be dick all compromises are off the table clearly. Her comfort isn't more important than anyone else's.

Flowers shared living is hard work at the best of times never mind having to share your bedroom. I hope your circumstances improve soon x

BlackeyedSusan · 20/01/2018 12:25

every night, take out the fuse. if possible. return in morning.

TheUglyFive · 20/01/2018 12:27

i thought one each would work well too - I suggested that a couple of times (and I just wouldn't turn mine on).

@Bluepeony it's a bit complicated but the most impacting part is the fact I have a mental health condition which makes managing money incredibly hard and I can't afford a deposit for my own room.

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0hCrepe · 20/01/2018 12:29

Also don’t storage heaters store the heat during the night to release during the day? So she’s using them incorrectly. Just trying to think of another deterrent to switching them on. Has she said why she does it?

comingintomyown · 20/01/2018 12:30

YWNBU to move your bed one bit and agree A is the CF in this scenario

PuppyMonkey · 20/01/2018 12:31

What a horrendous living situation, Id Probably end up killing someone. Sounds like youve lived like this for some time OP, is there no other solution?

To clarify, my solution to your problem is actual murder.

TheUglyFive · 20/01/2018 12:31

I may have misunderstood what they are - they are heaters that you plug into electricity and they get really hot really quickly? Maybe it's not a storage heater.

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MrsPicklesonSmythe · 20/01/2018 12:32

Can’t you use timer switches? Or am I missing the point completely?

IrenetheQuaint · 20/01/2018 12:33

That's not a storage heater. Oil-filled radiators perhaps? In any case A is being ridiculous.

0hCrepe · 20/01/2018 12:34

Storage heaters are usually fixed to the wall like radiators and have a huge slab of something that kind of holds the heat and then releases it slowly. Anyway probably not relevant! Can you put a timer plug on to switch it off after the time she puts it back on? She’s a silly cow. I hope you don’t have to stay there much longer.

Cornettoninja · 20/01/2018 12:38

To clarify, my solution to your problem is actual murder

Grin I want that cross stitched on a pillow!
TheUglyFive · 20/01/2018 12:39

To clarify, my solution to your problem is actual murder

Would I have to share a room in prison?

Timer switch is a possible solution, I may try and find one and see if it does help (Can i use a timer switch onto an extension cord so it woudl work for both).

OK, they are not storage heaters either! They are on wheels and you can move them.. .

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Chewbecca · 20/01/2018 12:41

Would an extension lead help with moving the heater without needing to access the plug by your bed?

0hCrepe · 20/01/2018 12:43

Yes they’re oil filled heaters. If the timer is plugged in the wall it’ll switch anything that’s plugged into it (the extension with however many things going into it) on/off as specified by you.

PuppyMonkey · 20/01/2018 12:46

I bet they don’t have the heaters on overnight in prison OP.Wink

Falmer · 20/01/2018 12:46

A is the CF, not you. I think one final request to A, then if she continues then move the bed, with the help of B. With your final request you could fib a bit and say the constant heat while you sleep is causing sore throat/ worse pelvic pain/ headaches (whatever). Surely A won't want to deliberately make you ill?

KarmaStar · 20/01/2018 12:49

Hi OP,can you Swop beds/mattresses?so sorry you are in this situation and you must be in a lot of pain.
Could M.I.N.D or SHELTER help you find alternative accommodation where you are not under this pressure?
You are not a c.f. but I think the other one,A,is.