Am I a CF?

[TheUglyFive]

Living in a shared room - there's three of us and no central heating. We have three storage heaters, two of which are right next to my bed, one of which is next to B's bed.

We also have A in the room, A has been in the room for four years and thinks that the other two of us don't matter - her stuff is everywhere and we can't use the shared desk because it's just packed with her stuff, she gets angry if we put too many things in the bin and A and B argue A LOT.

Every night I go to bed first (5am starts), I turn off the two storage heaters by my bed as the room is too warm. B then goes to bed, and leaves on the storage heater next to her bed with the agreement that A turns it off when she comes in at 11.

Every fucking night A comes in, doesn't turn off the storage heater by B's bed but does turn on the two next to my bed.

Every fucking night an hour later I wake up drenched in sweat, turn the two next to my bed off again, and she gets up and turns them back on. I turn them off when I wake again and that's it until morning - I do turn them on when I leave so the room is warm when they both wake up

I have politely suggested to A that she takes one, or both, storage heaters and plugs them next to her bed.

"I have no space" and "I don't want to get too warm".

I told her this morning that I was going to move the storage heaters next to her bed and so she could be warm. She again said no.

I have removed the two storage heaters out of the room. This is the possible CF behaviour. In my defence, I currently have a fractured pelvis and getting in and out of bed is extremely painful.

Do I proceed to CF step two and rotate my bed so that A cannot access the plug sockets next to my bed that were being used for storage heaters power supply? [Bearing in mind I can barely walk this is going to be quite a task and I may have to involve B]

Oil filled heaters are supposed to be plugged directly into the socket. They take a lot of power. It may be ok if they are small ones. I assume they are small as a big one would heat a large room.

How long has this been going on for ugly? I’m not trying to pry but I honestly don’t know how you’ve managed it.

Falmer by the sounds of it A isn't too bothered about other people.

She could use extra blankets, move a radiator, switch beds but ultimately, it sounds like none of these options she will agree to.

And if A and B don't get on, it doesn't sound like A would be willing to do anything that might in any way benefit B.

Can you speak to the room owner/landlord? My first port of call would be been to sit down and have a chat with A and B but doesn't sound like that would be an option but you have nothing to lose by trying.

It sounds like a rubbish situation OP. You can get thermostat contols for plug in heaters, but that would need an agreement that no one tries to change the set temp.

Is this a hostel? Speak to management about the heating situation....it needs fixing!

A should get herself an electric blanket. yes, initial outlay, but very cheap to run. then doesn't impact the rest of you.

tbh she sounds incredibly difficult. won't compromise. thinks her needs trumps everyone else.

long term: could you and b find somewhere else together?

Are you sisters living at home?

Three months now; I've had advice to find a room but I need to save for the deposit and get a credit record score for the leasing agents.

Before I wasn't too bothered about the up and down in the middle of the night, but now I realise I haven't actually had a proper nights sleep in three months, and it's made worse by being injured.

I don't want to fall out with her, it would make the feeling uneasy in the room (more uneasy than it is now).

The heater are a meter by 50 cm by 30 cm ish.

I am going to look at the timer suggestion (I just need to get out of bed to get to the shop)

I don't want to live with B long term due to drug use (occasional, but seriously cannot be in that environment, even though I know many people would tolerate it).

No, not sisters, three unrelated adult women.

why haven't you complained to your landlord re her bully behaviour and refusal to share the space or keep her shit tidy?

i'd take pictures of the room with her shit everywhere,then move all her stuff to her side, make space for yourself at the desk and use it-then video her kicking off with you about it for proof of her bully behaviour.

This is always going to be an issue in any shared space. People can never agree on the temperature.

With three of you in the room I'm surprised you need the heating on at all at night.

She'd be wearing the fuckers, I don't have very high patience levels...

You could order her an electric blanket for around £10. She will be warm but the room doesn’t need to be a sauna.
Also much cheaper to run (although don’t know if you pay bills)

Boots have really warm hot water bottles at the mo - could you suggest it? Buy it? Electric blanket is a good idea.

Are you in prison?

God OP this sound horrible and it can't be doing pre-existing mental health problems any good at all A sounds like a real arsehole.

It's a long-term hostel, not supported accomodation although there is some supported accomodation rooms which the council use. It's a mix between drug users, people escaping domestic violence, people with mental health problems (actually I think that's 100 percent of the place), people who don't earn very much money and asylum seekers. Most people are really nice and I do quite like it in many ways.

I may suggest she orders herself an electric blanket (it's half my food budget for the week). I think I am going to ask the landlord to completely remove the two heaters I've put outside so they don't get stolen, but also so they can't come back into the room.

Are you in the UK OP? We can advise better if we know what shops you can get to, Services in your country, online shopping for timers etc

Sorry cross post, ignore me!

No, no, not in prison (sorry the prison statement was a joke earlier).
I'm in the UK. There's a boots close to us (two streets away), I like the electric blanket option though as it means she can control her temperature without it affecting us.

If credit check and big deposits / moving in fees are the issue, try looking for a private let rather than through an agency. Lots of people take in lodgers these days.

A is the CF.

Unplug all 3 of them when you go to bed. Tell her they all go off when you go to bed from here on out.

No you arent a CF you have tried to resolve the issue in a sensible way and it hasnt worked. Your roommate has no right to demand you have heaters next to your bed. If she wants them she can have them next to hers.

Do you have to pay for electricity? The types of heaters you describe really cost a huge amount on utilities! We use one in a semi outdoor space to dry our laundry and we've calculated that an hour if heating costs something between 50pand a pound. That could be another argument to try and stop her from using them at night? Maybe she could use a ot water bottle instead if she's cold.

You should only run one heater off one electric socket.

If you have two heaters running off one socket by using an adapter or an extension cable you can plug two things into, it is a fire hazard.

The electric blanket is a good idea as are microwaveable hot water bottles. Some gel hot water bottles are quite flimsy. More solid ones are sold for pets and will stay warm until the next morning. Snugglesafe are good ones for repeated use, sometimes on offer for around £12 on Amazon.