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Original poster

New nanny is 35 minutes late

86 replies

Iloveanimals · 20/01/2018 11:40

Got in touch with a new nanny this week through an agency and we arranged to meet today to see if she was suitable for the role.
She is now 35 minutes late and has not been in contact. Obviously I don't want to rant and rage because I don't know her circumstances and I'm trying to be understanding. But 35 minutes late really? Is that acceptable or aibu???
My twins were excited to meet her too. It is snowing but not sticking, has this influenced her decision? But surely she'd contact me???

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Dishwashersaurous · 20/01/2018 13:48

Now I am worried that she's not OK

AnnieAnoniMouse · 20/01/2018 13:50

She is now 35 minutes late and has not been in contact. Obviously I don't want to rant and rage because I don't know her circumstances and I'm trying to be understanding. But 35 minutes late really? Is that acceptable or aibu???

I've contacted the agency and told them what's going on. I've told them I'm not interested in her at the moment (unless I find a change in her circumstances that caused this) so new nanny search it is!

Within 35 minutes of her being late you’d started a thread asking ‘if it’s unacceptable?????’ In less than an hour of her being late you’d called the agency and told them you’re not interested in her.

That’s not my idea of ‘not making a judgement’.

You’ve made a judgement, you’ve acted on your judgement. Backtracking to say ‘we’ll see’ doesn’t change that’ll.

Plus, she’s NOT your new nanny, your title is misleading. She was only coming for an interview. No need to make it sound like you’ve been massively let down by your new nanny.

Original poster
Iloveanimals · 20/01/2018 13:51

I am trying my best to find out if she is. Will let you know when I find out.

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Iloveanimals · 20/01/2018 13:52

Yeah thanks annie Youve been so helpful.

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Iloveanimals · 20/01/2018 13:57

Plus don't start slating me. I have not slagged her off. I want to make sure she's OK. I have not been rude. Why are you coming on this thread to start an argument? I'm trying my best to contact her and see if she is OK and informing people at the agency she had not arrived. Don't start turning everything into a massive argument it's very unhelpful and childish.

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YellowFlower201 · 20/01/2018 14:04

Are you the Nanine Annie?

YellowFlower201 · 20/01/2018 14:04

Nanny obvs!!! Grin

Aeroflotgirl · 20/01/2018 14:06

I would say she is not going to show. She has not got the job. If she does turn up, tell her not to bother unless she has a extremely good reason.

Original poster
Iloveanimals · 20/01/2018 14:06

yellow

😂

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Foxyloxy1plus1 · 20/01/2018 14:06

I think that's really unfair Annie. OP has not slagged the girl off and expressed her concern with regard to her wellbeing.

Anyone with a job interview, who arrived over half an hour late for it, would need to have a pretty good excuse to avoid being shown the door without being interviewed. Most people who are offered an interview and want to he job, would ensure that they leave early enough to get to the venue on time. Probably even early.

Either something has happened to prevent her, which we all hope not, or she's changed her mind, in which case, she should have let OP know.

berwickswan · 20/01/2018 14:17

I think you've been really reasonable,Op, -unlike nannyannie's response.

All the best to you and the children and hope that the agency sorts it for you.

MuncheysMummy · 20/01/2018 14:24

Another here reckons Annie is def the (quite possibly very rude!) nanny!

RebeccaBunchLawyer · 20/01/2018 15:35

Have you heard from this no-show nanny, iloveanimals?

Hope she’s OK. When I first came here, I was a nanny and ime it was the parents that were late, never nannies!

Pls keep us updated; this thread could be as exciting as the one last weekend about the car parked badly, the woman on the chair, man in Russian hat and unicorn costume (the reason I joined mumsnet, basically!).

blueshoes · 20/01/2018 15:35

Don't hire Annie, for sure

londonrach · 20/01/2018 15:39

Not great. Mind you if she lives in my town at the moment it could take her an hour to cross the town when it used to take 5 minutes a week ago, as for some reason they digging up three roads. You cant answer the phone if driving or in this case sitting in the car. As first day if she turns up wait to see what she says. However be ringing alarm bells. Hope shes ok

Original poster
Iloveanimals · 20/01/2018 15:44

The agency just called and said they've checked her diary and apparently she didn't put me in... I asked them to phone her to see if she was OK because she said yesterday she was coming. And no I think if I hired Annie, lateness would be the least of my problems 😂

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londonrach · 20/01/2018 16:01

If she cant remember from yesterday you right op....agency needs a word with her

Wheresmyluck · 20/01/2018 16:15

Annie is the nanny..what a plot twist😂

WaitrosePigeon · 20/01/2018 16:16

Annie deffo the nanny

Original poster
Iloveanimals · 20/01/2018 16:23

If she actually is... Wow...😂 😂 😂

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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 20/01/2018 16:28

I know have that Kid Creole song in my head earworming Hey Annie, you're not my Nanny ....never have been ,never will be

Definately weird that she confirmed yesterday Confused

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Iloveanimals · 20/01/2018 16:37

Update. Her child was not feeling well this morning and she apparently tried to contact me to tell me. I've heard nothing but just spoke to her now....could be one of those things but weird how she can contact me now and not then... Maybe time to look for someone else but glad she's OK!!

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5plusMeAndHim · 20/01/2018 16:53

and how weird she didn't contact the agency. No it is an excuse.She is not interested

Branleuse · 20/01/2018 16:53

Why so bothered if shes OK. SHes a randomer that didnt turn up for interview/trial. Not a child you need to be concerned about. If she had wanted to get in touch with you, she would have.

BewareOfDragons · 20/01/2018 16:56

She tried to contact you? Really? And when that failed she tried her agency, which you managed to reach just fine a couple of times...

She forgot to make the call/text/email...

Glad she's ok, but she sounds unreliable and/or not entirely honest.