To say colleague is a cheeky fucker?

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She booked an all inclusive to Spain a few weeks back.

She requested a half day (leave at 12pm), so she can get to the airport and depart. The rest of the week she's there, she already had booked off.

Today she's requested to speak to me. Turns out she is telling me she will be leaving at 12pm on Friday (the date of her holiday), because she says she is now pregnant and has her first MW appointment (the booking one).

Employees don't need evidence for their first Midwife appointment.

AIBU to think she's cheeky and she is leaving for the airport?

Forgot to add, I had to decline her half day request because we already have two staff off

So do you think she isn't pregnant?

Fie she may well be but I have a sneaky feeling she isn't!

Hell yes she is trying to get it off.

I’d assume she’s telling the truth.

If she is pregnant and is actually going to her booking off appointment then she's going to miss her flight surely??? Seems odd either way.

How long between you turning down her half day and now?

Could she have got pregnant on purpose to have the afternoon off?

Could she be trying to multi task? Midwife to airport in one afternoon?

Could you say she is entitled to go to the mw appt but must come back to work after? She’s entitled to reasonable time off for appts, that’s not necessarily a whole afternoon.

But if she’s lying she’s going to have to come you she isn’t pregnant anymore.

Time will tell.

Why don't they need evidence of a first appointment 🤔

She's totally at it

I would assume she is and used the airport as an excuse as she didn't want to tell people about the pregnancy early on.

So she can't go on her holiday if she doesn't get finished at 12? Seems a bit harsh that she can't finish. I know she probably should have checked before booking.

Twickerhun is right. She can have time off for the appointment but must come back after.

Say you're confused as she asked for the time off to get to the airport. Or ask for details of her flight then you can see when she's supposed to be off!

Is she actually going to miss her flight if she doesn't leave at lunchtime? Whether she's pregnant or not, and of course she should have checked first, but very harsh to refuse it.

It's a pretty stupid lie to make up if she is lying. If she isn't pregnant, she'll have to either stuff a pillow up here jumper in a few months or feign a miscarriage, which seems like an awful lot of effort to go for to get half a day off the go to the airport. Based on her past behaviour, Is she the sort of person you think might carry out this kind of deception?

I don't think you have any choice but to let her have the time on the basis she is pregnant, and then see where it goes.

You could always ask to see her notes to confirm future appointments, my work "requires" to see that (but never asks in reality) if your work policy requires this. I wouldn't have had any proof of my first midwife appointment to show anyone though, and the only proof I would have been able to give was the blue line on the stick.

Annoyedbyalfiebears suggestion is a good point....maybe the airport story was a cover to get the time off without having to tell you she was pregnant so early on.

Ignoring the pregnancy, she asked you for 4 hours off so she could catch her flight and you refused it? What would that have meant for her holiday?

Could you say she is entitled to go to the mw appt but must come back to work after? She’s entitled to reasonable time off for appts, that’s not necessarily a whole afternoon

She put It to me straight up that her maternity appointment is at such and such a hospital, meaning she will have to take the whole day (said hospital is miles away from us and would take forever to get there and back)

Booking appointments don’t take that long. Tell her you’re expecting her back at work after it.

If you had nt given her the half day would she have been able to physically get to the airport? I think if you push someone into a corner then you can expect them to become very 'resourceful' shall we say. Plus she might be genuinely pregnant

Then ask her for evidence of appointment as you have two off already which she knew when she "booked" her appointment. In addition, these appointments are not five hours long So what time is it? If there is more than an hour left in the day she comes in.

You are presumably her line manager.

Hope she isn't a mumsnetter and sees this. You've turned her request for time off to attend a medical appointment, technically speaking and are now telling MN you think she's a liar.

Which she may be. Seems a very drastic one though seeing as she's either going to continue to be pregnant, or have to lie again and invent a miscarriage.

I genuinely wanted to give her the half day but I myself couldn't grant it because policy was already stretched by two people being off.

She wanted to get to the airport early too, her flight doesn't leave until 3 but she wanted time to catch her breath and have a little catch up with her Mum and Nan (they are going with her).

I heard this in conversation before she requested the time off.