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I was shocked when a friend said this about manager

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crunchymint · 19/01/2018 15:01

I know my friend has been having a hard time at work, but I was shocked when she said she was tempted to mow her boss down with her car when she saw him walking to his car after work. Obviously she didn't, but I was still shocked that she wanted to.

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morningconstitutional2017 · 19/01/2018 15:28

I understand exactly what she meant. I remember some vile people I've worked with (or even from school) who I'd love to get my own back on. I have fantasies where I round them up and chuck them over Beachy Head, all at once, (after some suitable torture) but of course I'd never do it in RL.

It's just letting off steam. It prevents us from committing a real crime.

WingsOnMyBoots · 19/01/2018 15:28

I had a best friend years ago who said she would run over her ex's new partner and their young baby if she saw them. I was horrified but now I realise that she was extremely hurt and heart broken by what he had done and how he had ended the relationship - long story. We feel these things when we are very very hurt and in a lot of fear and emotional pain. It's just shocking when someone actually says it. With your friends boss, something he does or has done has really pressed a painful raw nerve for her to feel this extreme but hopefully, like most people, she has the internal brake that would stop her carrying it out.

RowenasDiadem · 19/01/2018 15:30

I wanted to shove mine down the stairs. Is that unusual? I mean, he did scream and shout at me and actually push me towards the top of some stairs. Backwards!

MissionItsPossible · 19/01/2018 15:31

Guessing you've never worked with a horrible boss/colleague OP? If you had, you wouldn't be shocked and if you were any sort of friend, be thinking up alibis for her which you could vouch for Wink

streetlife70s · 19/01/2018 15:35

The only thing that has stopped me killing some people is the thought of prison.

But so far there is no law against thoughts.

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crunchymint · 19/01/2018 15:35

My boss is an arse. Maybe I should suggest we swap murders?

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MadMags · 19/01/2018 15:36

I'm guessing you are one of the easily offended 'millennials.'

Oh, ffs!

MadMags · 19/01/2018 15:38

Crunchy, so you're saying you honestly believe that your friend was chatting to you about attempted murder? Like, honestly really?

Trinity66 · 19/01/2018 15:38

I think you should call the police asap Grin

Trinity66 · 19/01/2018 15:38

I think you should call the police asap Grin

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crunchymint · 19/01/2018 15:42

No I am saying that it was more than venting. She said it quietly and obviously meant that she genuinely wanted to run him over. She won't.

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mytitshaveshrunk · 19/01/2018 15:44

Ms Harry - I'm guessing you are one of the easily offended 'millennials.'

And I'm guessing you're one of the twats that people fantasise about running over

WingsOnMyBoots · 19/01/2018 15:45

I don't know if anyone has mentioned 'pearl clutching' in this thread but as I have only just heard of it I would like to use it as it sounds rather nice.

WingsOnMyBoots · 19/01/2018 15:46

Or is it 'pearl-clutching'?

DiseasesOfTheSheep · 19/01/2018 15:49

I used to fantasise extensively about the demise of one of my bosses... Those were dark days, and sometimes it seemed the only way out. Fortunately, time passed without "incident" and other solutions eventually emerged Grin Made me realise quite what capacity I had for tolerance, and self-restraint, so it was a learning experience in the end!

OrangeCatnip · 19/01/2018 15:52

We all plan to do unreasonable thing when we are having a hard time. we used to plan in great detail how we would escape our miserable work when we won the lottery, didnt think we actually would though. one place i worked at was so vile that every monday on the drive in i genuinely thought about getting into a car accident to avoid having to go. i never did of course because i didn't want to hurt myself i just didn't want to go in!! i probably would have fantasized about murdering my managers but it would have been pretty suspicious if ALL of them came to a sticky end. and that is what it would have taken to fix the place!!

treeofhearts · 19/01/2018 15:53

I'd have reversed a forklift over my boss or spiked his coffee with paint stripper by now if I honestly thought I'd get away with it. He's a vile gaslighting bully and I often feel like killing either him or myself.

iklboo · 19/01/2018 15:56

I'd have said it quietly, rather wistfully probably. I wouldn't have actually done it.

Cath2907 · 19/01/2018 15:58

I once had a boss I'd have cheerfully murdered. If I had caught him down a dark alley with no chance of being found out I might just have been tempted. Sometimes you have to let your homicidal nature take over for just a tiny moment!

pambeesley · 19/01/2018 15:58

I have a former boss who when he dies (he’s well into his 70s now and smokes 60 a day) I will open a bottle of champagne and celebrate.

He made my life hell and 10 years on I realise he was the start of my depression as thanks to him my world fell apart.

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/01/2018 15:59

Apart from the industry, I'd say we'd suffered from the same person Cracker09jacker. Awful to think there's more than one person out there who's so horrendous.

Dustbunny1900 · 19/01/2018 16:00

I've said about a former boss "when he finally died the world will be a better place" and while I'd never physically harm him (that shitwad isn't worth the electric chair) I meant every word. A vile abusive racist woman hating rape apologist..worst work environment of my life.
Every one has those abisive power tripping bosses at some point (most of the time)
Just let her vent

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 19/01/2018 16:02

I think you're being rather silly to be shocked, especially as you've had a lot of replies telling you others have had these exact thoughts.
Sounds like she has a really vile boss, I've had one of those & thought similar things to your friend.

Ohyesiam · 19/01/2018 16:06

There are no laws about wanting to do something.

exWifebeginsat40 · 19/01/2018 16:07

'hello, is this 101? I just wanted you to log that someone who is a relative stranger to me said a thing about her boss as a joke, but I could tell she really, really wanted to do it. she said she'd like to run him over. oh, and could you please also note that I was shocked'