My son is 15 1/2 and very mature for his age. Ive been to court several times with his father a very difficult angry screaming Italian who's tried several times to get full custody and live in Italy. he's never won.
Our son lives with me and 10 years ago court order set out that we split half the school holidays and alternative weekends.
We have deviated from this and out of good faith Ive always tried to be reasonable and EVERY school holiday I have given more to his father so he can take him to visit his Italian family. This has happened every holiday for 10 years. Sometimes I have allowed him to have the whole holiday!
Now I wish to have the 2 weeks at Easter to take our son on a once in a lifetime trip to Thailand. I know he needs this extra stimulation and the benefits for him. I have asked his father if just for once he would mind we take the 2 weeks of the easter holiday rather than just the one week so we can go to Thailand, I have even offered more if he want s ALL of the Summer holidays in return and he has refused.
I sent him several heartfelt messages asking him to meet together to discuss this matter I usually get along abusive texts back. Now after one angry message where he claims he's already booked eater off work and the trip to go to Italy he's gone silent. I know because i know him so well he will now be in touch with his lawyer to get her to write me a letter for suggesting i breach the custody order.
Am I being unreasonable when we have adapted this order in the past every time to suit his needs?
Also may i add my son does not want to go to Italy this easter but much prefers to in the summer