To think my sons should be able to flush a toilet?

[MrsMuddlePluck]

Just gone up to bed. Went to turn light off in family bathroom (again).

The mess in there is yet again disgusting. Piss on the seat & down the sides. Unflushed crap in the bowl.

Empty toilet rolls next to the bin. Stinking wet towels & dirty boxers on the floor.

Last week DSs GF asked to use my ensuite loo as someone had peed all over the seat. Yet again I was on my hands & knees mopping up pee.

I cant believe I'm still having to clear up such a shithole. My DSs are 15, 18 & 20, so I am so completely fed up & disgusted with this.

Your husband messaged you AFTER you'd gone up to bed to go and put the kettle on? Where was he? Why can't he get his own cup of tea? Please tell me you didn't go down and make it for him!

CommanderDaisy and Jozxyqk - I know what I need to do and I'm doing it [or rather, not doing it]. Now I have a mountain of unclaimed clean laundry; a mountain of ironing [I do the odd bit now and again whilst watching the olympics]; unwashed dishes and rotting food in the bedrooms.

In refusing to pick anything up, the house is gradually becoming more and more of a shithole. No amount of yelling / going on strike / changing the wifi is going to fix that. So do I just sit and look at it with my head in my hands, while they wander around telling me what a useless Mum / wife I am? They don't use those words, but the "come on Mum, why do I have to change the dishwasher / hoover / iron my own shirts" is wearing me down.

I do go out running - that is sancrosanct and I will not give that up. It's my time to just be with myself, but woe betide I might sit at home and read a book for a few hours instead of doing the ironing.

That said, I'm off to change the wifi password and see what happens.

Problem is you are still there so they expect you to crack. A friend of mines mum went on strike for 3 weeks when we were at college, he, his dad and brothers did nothing but moan their mum hadn't done it, so she moved out for a week without telling them when/if she'd be back (went to visit her sister I believe). Once they realised it really was up to them, they did it and it was spotless. They never took her for granted again.

Do you have a sister you can go and visit OP?

I got in at 8am this morning after a 12 hour nightshift running around like a bad thing and cleaning up other people poo to find our toilet blocked with shit ( 4 teenage dc's ). I unblocked it as not worth waking up the rest of the household. Snatched a few hours sleep until was woken up at 12 by the noisy clan. Got up desperate for a wee only to find toilet blocked with massive turd again. needless to say I went ballistic this time. Selfish. lazy bunch.

I'm still waiting for my dp to learn to clean piss off the seat and off the floor. Utterly disgusting. He uses our downstairs loo and the state of it.. I can't bare to even go in!