I am 28 and dh is 36. I am very much still trying to establish my career and Dh has a good job but is probably a couple of years away from where he would ideally like to be with his career.
Lots of my friends (around my age) either already have children, are pregnant or are trying for a baby. I am shocked and worried at the amount of them who have encountered fertility issues. One of my friends has been trying for 3 years and has just got pregnant using ivf. Another tried for 2 years and so on. I know some people get pregnant straight away at any age and others don’t. But I kind of assumed in your 20s most people would have no problem.
But I’m just wondering aibu to think I can wait another 3/4 years before even starting to try for a baby. I in no way feel ready for a baby right now. I work long hours and have no idea how I would fit a baby into my lifestyle (no option to cut down hours or go part time).
Dh already has 2 children from a previous relationship. He finds parenting quite difficult and would happily choose to leave it there. But he has said if I want children he will have more with me. if I’m being honest seeing it from a step parents perspective has opened my eyes to how hard parenting is. I am not 100% sure that I want kids but if I did I know I would only want 1 or 2. I kind of assumed it would be ok to leave it to 31 or 32 before even considering trying.
But I’m wondering whether I am mistaken?