Less of an AIBU and more of a what have I done wrong.

[Shootfirstaskquestionslater]

I have posted on here before about my mum well now things have got worse she is now not speaking to me I haven't heard off her since new years eve and I've only seen her twice since Christmas I know she sees and speaks to my sister because she looks after my 4 year old niece for my sister but I seem to be getting ignored unless they want something and I can't understand what it is that I've done wrong. My sister said she is doing the same thing to her but I doubt I even get ignored on FB. It took me 2 days of asking just to get my parcels off her because she had a never ending supply of excuses at the ready as to why she couldn't bring them through even though it was her idea for me to get all my stuff delivered to her because where I live I struggle to get my post. The final straw was on Friday I phoned her up to ask her if she could pick me up from the shop because I had bought more than I was able to carry home and I got told that I would have to just wait at the shop for her in the freezing cold and the dark because she had her neighbourgh round and she was having a drink I was stood there for an hour and in the end my boyfriend's family came and picked me up I never ask her for help and the only time they bother with me is when they need something. It's just really upsetting me because I really can't understand why she's being so off with me and treating me like I just don't exist or matter.

Sorry that was a long one and a bit of ramble.

Are your employers supporting you to return to work?

If you phone someone up for a spontaneous lift home and they have a friend round for a coffee it would be VERY unreasonable of you to expect them to boot the friend out just you come pick you up.I can't understand how you can't see this?

I agree.

Regarding the postman not being able to find your maisonette, when ordering online there's usually a box for delivery instructions. Write "no.3a is round the back of Whatever Flats." I used to live in a mews cottage and had the same problem. Once you have had a few successful deliveries, you can cross that off your worry list.

Yes or put a sign on the front of the building entrance if you know you are expecting a delivery. It will only need to be done once or twice then they will remember for next time.

Often for deliveries, you can write delivery instructions. It sounds like you need to think more about online shopping and planning if you are getting to the shop and are unable to bring home what you have bought without phoning your mum. What about a shopping trolley/caddy?

Maybe you could divert you in laws energy into talking to the post office to make sure you get deliveries. That could help ease some of the anxiety.

Honestly, how old are you OP? I understand you have anxiety issues but you do need to start standing in your own two feet. You say you never ask for things but then ask for parcels to be delivered, lifts etc. You're mum doesn't owe you anything. It does sound like you've transferred your need for people to do things for you from your mum to your boyfriend's family.