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...to suspect infidelity if a couple has a joint FB account?

118 replies

Bebepoor · 13/01/2018 21:23

Unless they’re 60+.

Our neighbours have one and it’s weird. Never any idea who’s liking/loving/hahaing.

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icenasliceplease · 13/01/2018 23:04

Haha MIL and FIL have joint fb account!

How do you even go about getting a joint FB account? Confused
Do they have two people in the profile pic?

I don't know why people have them. As someone mentioned, it's not as if the accounts are rationed, or it's too expensive to open two accounts.
Some people are bizarre. and controlling and joined at the hip.

bingbongnoise · 13/01/2018 23:11

Some people are very weird on this thread, assuming people are suffering domestic abuse, or someone has been cheating, if they have a joint FB account. And the comments about how people are 'joined at the hip' and how it's 'so weird and controlling,' are so catty and nasty.

Very rude and judgemental and spiteful.

Says more about them really.

Leave people alone FFS. What business is it of yours if people have joint facebooks? Hmm

I don't by the way, but I find some of the comments quite mean and catty and very judgemental.

Gemini69 · 13/01/2018 23:13

Also if someone says they don't have Facebook, I usually assume they're a sex offender or cheater

I don't have Facebook... I'm neither of the above Grin

SilverySurfer · 13/01/2018 23:14

c3pu
Also if someone says they don't have Facebook, I usually assume they're a sex offender or cheater.

I don't have fb because I am totally uninterested in other people's vacuous and boring lives.

icenasliceplease · 13/01/2018 23:15

Lighten up bingbong,
People are allowed to have opinions.
I can understand older people having a joint FB account. A lot of elderly people put the phone on Speaker and have their own little conference going on.
It is a bit strange for younger people to have a joint FB account and I wonder why.

What business is it of yours if people have joint facebooks?

None of what's posted on MN is any of my business, really, but a forum is for people to agree and disagree, otherwise there wouldn't be any point of posting.
it'd be bloody boring if we all agreed with each other.

Judydreamsofhorses · 13/01/2018 23:17

I don’t have Facebook after deleting it about five years ago - I am neither a sex offender nor cheater, just didn’t enjoy it. I love Instagram, and dip in and out of Twitter, but Facebook wasn’t for me. My DP is a massive Twitter user but he has never had FB.

echt · 13/01/2018 23:18

Not sure what the age has to do with anything, but since we had email, we've always run it the same. I'm not onFacebook, but had my late DH's password for his account, as I did for his phone and iPad, and he did mine. We have separate emails, but they were both open, i.e. when one came in to me, it was visible on all linked devices. Work emails were password protected.

Trust/control issues never occurred to me for moment, though I was aware that one person was a bit Hmm about it. The idea being joined at the hip would have been laughable to any who knew us. Anyway, setting up a private email would have been easy, and for all I know, DH might have done so. We made sure we de-synched DD's devices for her privacy.

icenasliceplease · 13/01/2018 23:18

Never mind joint FB accounts, how about when couples
Renew Their Vows?
Now that really gets me wondering Hmm

Fintress · 13/01/2018 23:20

Domestic abuse, sex offender, infidelity, joined at the hip, trust issues and any other bullshit I missed. Fuck me the assumptions some people come to are fantastical at best.

bingbongnoise · 13/01/2018 23:20

@icenasliceplease

lighten up bingbong

No I fucking won't. Not when people are coming out with such outlandish fucking judgemental crap that is every shade of spiteful and bitchy.

So keep your 'lighten up' bollocks to yourself. I will post what I fucking want. Who made you the forum police? Bore off. Hmm

ClaryFray · 13/01/2018 23:20

My dad doesn't have Facebook because he thinks it's stupid.

Id never join my Facebook with DP, he has nerd stuff !

Stabbitha · 13/01/2018 23:36

Me and DH share an email address, he is self employed and works from home and it is also the business email address.

Nothing sinister, we just share a laptop and I just cannot be bothered logging out of one email to check the other (we had the same email host, couldn't both be logged in at the same time on the same computer).

I suppose it's more me using his email for ease than actually sharing one though. I still have my own, I just don't use it.

He doesn't seem bothered by it at all. I'm sure if he wanted to cheat he would use FB, or Whatsapp or something, or text messages.

I've been in relationships with no trust in the past, one didn't trust me at all, accused me of all sorts with no reason to except his own paranoia. The other was constantly flirting online with other women, hoping something better would come along, it nearly broke me.

Never again will I be in a relationship without complete trust. It's just not worth the misery.

lou1221 · 14/01/2018 00:03

we have a shared email, well it's mine, but dh forgot password to his, easier and more practical to have household stuff on my email as I do the banking etc. We both have our own work emails, and our own fb acc, but he doesn't use his, again forgot password and login details. ha ha

Lovely333 · 14/01/2018 00:05

I think its safe to say some people have rather wild imaginations, Its just a page on the internet with two names on, How people can come up with so many presumptions from that sounds like they are the weird ones.
Stop taking facebook so seriously.

icenasliceplease · 14/01/2018 00:18

So keep your 'lighten up' bollocks to yourself. I will post what I fucking want. Who made you the forum police? Bore off.

Someone's got their knickers in a twist tonight Shock
Would it make you happy if everyone agreed with you?

icenasliceplease · 14/01/2018 00:20

I will post what I fucking want.^

As will I.

icenasliceplease · 14/01/2018 00:22

I think anyone who's not on Twitter is a baby eater.

I'm not on Twitter. You calling me a baby eater? Wink

Ikanon · 14/01/2018 00:24

Agree there's something a bit controlling about joint FB but joint email is normal surely? We have our work and personal and then joint. It's energy contracts, council tax emails, house insurance, joint bills bank account emails etc. We're organising DD4's birthday party and he's emailing entertainers but we can both read the responses. Easier communication jointly for some things.

greenlids · 14/01/2018 00:28

People who don't have a FB account probably can't be arsed. I have one that I look at about twice a week, and DH hasn't looked at his in about 5 years. He is just not the slightest bit interested, and even finds it tiresome to have to check his emails (and he's self employed so should check them more often really).

DNephew (in his 20's) has just got rid of his FB account because he was bored with it.

iggleypiggly · 14/01/2018 00:29

Also if someone says they don't have Facebook, I usually assume they're a sex offender or cheater
This made me laugh.. I don’t have fb and neither does my husband, maybe just maybe because we like to live life through our own eyes and not share it with the world. Or maybe because we are happy in our own lives and have no interest in ridiculous social media...

TheHappyRedDragon · 14/01/2018 00:32

We have a shared email address but it is nothing to do with trust issues. It is the email we use for household bill logins (gas, electricity, water companies, groceries etc) and we have our personal emails for everything else. I don’t think either of us ever send emails from the joint email and the only ones we receive are asking us for meter readings or offering vouchers for online shopping.

icenasliceplease · 14/01/2018 00:36

We have shared email as well as separate.

HermioneAndMsJones · 14/01/2018 08:35

Hahaha
You will need to explain that to H.
Shared email account, no FB and shared amazon account until about 1~2 years ago.
He just couldn’t be arsed and was laughing at anyone who uses social media (FB and MN included).
He can be twat and is also a technophobe but hasn’t never cheated.

PoorYorick · 14/01/2018 08:45

I'm not on Twitter. You calling me a baby eater?

I'm actually not on Twitter either. Let's do lunch.

VileyRose · 14/01/2018 08:48

I don't have FB. Not for any other reason other than it's shit.

I also meet my OH for lunch most days!