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...to suspect infidelity if a couple has a joint FB account?

118 replies

Bebepoor · 13/01/2018 21:23

Unless they’re 60+.

Our neighbours have one and it’s weird. Never any idea who’s liking/loving/hahaing.

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MissSpock · 13/01/2018 22:23

I think having/not having Facebook is yet another social class and education divide (a much loved mumsnet topic)

How so?

Growingboys · 13/01/2018 22:24

I know two couples with joint email/Fbk accounts.

Both had cheating problems - the joint email couple divorced but the joint Fbk couple have patched things up.

DH doesn't have Fbk as he can't be arsed and I respect him for that. Occasionally I'll show him juicy pics from mine which he enjoys but that's it.

The joint account thing is weird I think. Joint bank account whole other story though - well in favour of those!

Fintress · 13/01/2018 22:26

Seems a bit of a strange conclusion to jump to hmm

Agreed. We have a joint FB which is used solely to keep in touch with 3 of our young un’s who travel and live on different continents. We do of course have other ways of keeping in touch but they upload tons of photo’s.

We both previously had separate accounts but my husband got pissed off with former colleagues sending him requests so he closed his and a few months later I got rid of mine as I just couldn’t be assed with it.

Samesituation · 13/01/2018 22:28

I don't have, nor have I ever had Facebook.
I am not a sex offender or cheater or any other form of criminal Angry

I am happily married early 30ish with DC.
I have a life and do not need to update my status, every time I f**t, eat and sleep.
I have my own email (can view DHs on shared device and vice versa).

No infidelity issues in this house.

Fintress · 13/01/2018 22:28

I’d like to add there is no domestic violence or infidelity in our relationship. What odd assumptions Confused

strawberrypenguin · 13/01/2018 22:28

DH and I have a joint email but we only use it for school/Nursery stuff. We have separate emails for everything else

mydietstartsmonday · 13/01/2018 22:31

What a stupid statement OP.
We have access to each other fb and email and we use them interchangeably because we have a shared tablet and neither of us can be bothered to change or hide passwords.
We do the other mumsnet no no of having separate bank accounts.
I am not sure either of us is having an affair.

bingbongnoise · 13/01/2018 22:31

I find it bizarre and worrying that people assume there is infidelity or domestic abuse if a couple share a facebook account.

What the actual FUCK? Shock

Some people have some warped minds.

Or maybe they are going on their personal experience/what has happened to them in the past.

(I don't share with my DH by the way!)

emmyrose2000 · 13/01/2018 22:32

Also if someone says they don't have Facebook, I usually assume they're a sex offender or cheater

Wow. That says everything about you, and nothing about the people who aren't on Facebook.

Lovely333 · 13/01/2018 22:32

Thestoic people can add you and you can accept or decline I would rather they didnt add in the first place hence why I also dont have my last name on there. I dont know how to take off the button for people trying to add as I dont know how to. So its what I have done from the beginning and never really given it alot of thought, you may call it ridiculous I couldnt really give to shits its facebook who cares.

ImissTerry · 13/01/2018 22:33

We have joint email, joint bank account, one amazon account which is linked to the joint bank account. Fuck you and your assumptions that we have trust issues. Don't judge everyone by your own low standards.

FreshHerbs · 13/01/2018 22:37

I don't have Facebook and don't intend to ever set one up, does that make me odd that I don't wish to share my life, pics, outings and so forth on a online platform. I have a good social life, many friends, go on holidays, go to nice restaurants, do loads with the kids etc just never felt the need to plaster that all over the net nor do I feel the need to look on others. I don't judge anyone who has it but it grinds me that ppl judge me because I don't. I wouldn't go up to a total stranger in the street and show them pics of my kids, or tell them what I had for dinner last night so why would I do that online. Each to their own but nah I'm good just the way I am. I'm not missing out on shit

Bowerbird5 · 13/01/2018 22:40

I don't have Facebook.
I'm not any of those things but I also don't like to post umpteen picks of myself pouting and looking gorgeous, loading up photos of my breakfast, lunch and ooh look what I made for diner aren't i clever pics. I also don't share loads of crappy messages, political photos/ messages and save the world stuff. I don't post messages about how wonderful family is ( like one of my sisters does) when I can't be arsed to even send my sis a Christmas card or even a bloody text to say how are you. I sent her a lovely card and haven't even had a text or message since last May and no we haven't fallen out I just wondering how long it will take her.

greenlids · 13/01/2018 22:41

I've got what looks like a shared email address (as in [email protected]), but I've had it more than 25 years and never bothered to change it. DH used to share the same account with me but he's had his own email address for a long time now.

RavenLG · 13/01/2018 22:45

I agree with shared Facebook.
I have a shared email address with DP but it’s just used for bills / household stuff. We have our own personal emails though.

Redglitter · 13/01/2018 22:48

Also if someone says they don't have Facebook, I usually assume they're a sex offender or cheater

Bloody hell that's some leap.
Hmm my brother and SIL don't have FB. Wonder who's the sex offender and who's the cheater.

Here was me believing their excuse of not seeing the point of fb too 🤔

bingbongnoise · 13/01/2018 22:51

Also if someone says they don't have Facebook, I usually assume they're a sex offender or cheater

This is a joke right?

bobstersmum · 13/01/2018 22:55

I have never had Facebook and neither has dh. My reason is that I would just cringe at all the blasts from the past popping up, people are in my past for a reason! I did think about a joint one but I won't now after reading this! Facebook does not interest me at all but my sons school post lots of what they do on there.

Johnnycomelately1 · 13/01/2018 22:58

I only know one couple who have a joint FB (apart from 60+ people). I don't suspect infidelity but they do absolutely live in each other's pockets - no control issues that I'm aware of. They are childhood sweethearts and just live for each other- spend all possible time together, run a business together etc.

PoorYorick · 13/01/2018 22:58

I don’t even understand joint Amazon accounts.

These are worth it, because my husband likes to buy me sexy clothing (I'm happy with it too, don't worry) but then the details get all fucked up and lingerie keeps arriving addressed to "Ms PoorYorick'sHusband's Name" and I laugh my head off.

TheHolidayArmadillo · 13/01/2018 22:59

I suspect trust or control issues too.

PoorYorick · 13/01/2018 22:59

Also if someone says they don't have Facebook, I usually assume they're a sex offender or cheater

I think anyone who's not on Twitter is a baby eater.

JanetStWalker · 13/01/2018 23:00

I rarely hear of FB being talked about outside of MN.

bobstersmum · 13/01/2018 23:00

Forgot to say no sex offenders or cheaters here either! Weird assumption!

bingbongnoise · 13/01/2018 23:04

@TheHolidayArmadillo

I suspect trust or control issues too.

Why?

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